A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?
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Updated: May 29, 2022
realPeigi
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Dec 4, 2019
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Does it cause any trouble for you? If yes, do whatever you have to do to justify yourself, confront them, talk to your family.... But if it doesn’t cause any trouble for you except disturbing your peace of mind, then ask yourself why would you want to stay in a bad feeling?
bellarina74
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Feb 1, 2020
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Explain to the family member that you have nothing to hide and you are being transparent and honest when giving them the courtesy of letting them know of your movements. If they continue to believe you are lying there is not much you can do about it except carry on with what you are doing and keep moving forward. If it still bothers you that they don’t believe you then you may like to have a conversation about what you have done to make them doubt and disbelieve what you are saying. If they are unwilling to have the conversation then maybe you need to question them further about why they are feeling this way.
gentleMoon4388
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Apr 4, 2020
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Well, i think a good starting point would be to try and talk to the said family member and see what reason they have to think you are lying. Then if if possible try to put there mind at ease, work out a way that can allow them and yourself to be comfortable.. Maybe this could be just a simple form of someone showing you they are scared but not going about it the right way. If all else fails maybe jump on and speak to a listener and see if they can help you think of a strategy.
Anonymous
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Apr 10, 2020
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Promise to call them when you get there, or send them a picture of where you are when you go. Promise that if they aren't comfortable with it, you'll send them your location and they can pick you up, I know it's the hardest thing to do, but it will give you a chance to prove that you're responsible and loyal to your word. You could also try offering them to drive you their and update them every hour or every 2 hours of where you are. It has always worked with me and my parents. Just don't break their trust. :)
Anonymous
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Apr 16, 2020
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Examine inside you why their opinion matters. Examine and get an awareness of what effect and impact their opinion has on you. Communicate to them the effect that their lack of trust has on you. Aim to talk about why they do not trust you. Understand that the situation may not change even with your best efforts. Be prepared to accept that they may not change their attitude. Find inside you what is important to you - keep doing what you will, or modify your behaviour to make them happy? Do what is important to you. It may mean making them unhappy. Be prepared to live with the conflict.
Anonymous
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Apr 24, 2020
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In my opinion, firstly, you can explain it to your family, and if it is possible, you can give them some proofs to show you are not lying. If they still don't trust you, you can also go the place you are going to with them. You can also try communicating with them more and more, it may be more helpful. By the way, if you have a friend or someone who can help you to prove yourself. Anyway, you can find many methods to let them trust you. Anyway, it depends on yourself. Just trust you can do it.
Anonymous
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May 1, 2020
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Interesting question. This is actually a very common phenomenon that many of my friends and I have gone through. The simple answer is trust. Perhaps there was one time when you were not truthful and your family member applies that one time to every time. It also does not matter how long ago it was (the lie), at least in my experience.
A good first step is to get to the bottom of their thought. Make sure you try to communicate with them to find out why they think you are lying about where you are.
Next it is important that you show your willingness to build their trust. When you do go out, maintain communication and call or text them your location. You can also share your location on your phone if it has that feature for the first couple of times to just build trust.
Once they slowly start believing you, progress from sharing your location to just a simple text indicating your location.
Eventually, they will trust you are not lying, and everything will return to normal. Just be aware that one "slip-up" or a small lie could take you back to square one.
All the Best.
P.
Anonymous
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May 1, 2020
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That's must be hard, you can let them talk to witness, like a coworker, colleague, or a friend. You could try also have an honest conversation with this person and identify why they don't believe you. It could because of they catched you laying to them before, or someone lied to them and they developed trust issue. And it is also depends on your behavior and kind of places you go to, and kind of friends you hang out with. A lot of various reasons, so the best selution in this case to set down with this person, talk to them honestly, try to figure out a selution together. I know it is hard to not having trust between the one family members, especially between the parents and children and we should be careful of not hurting this trust, and try always to improve it.
dorotimezo
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May 21, 2020
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I understand that must be hard how is that making you feel? I think you know you are family more than me what do you think is the best thing to do in this situation? I think having disagreements with family can make you very upset and it is frustrating which is why being at peace with family members is always kind of therapeutic. It can be hard for the family member too I’m sure they are just worried about you hence why all the suspicion, it is however not nice of them to think think that you are lying
ElysianFriend
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May 29, 2020
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You could always share your location when you reach the place you're going to via any messaging app. Otherwise, you could take a picture of yourself in that place with whoever you're going to be with or even if you're alone and send it to that family member.
While that family member should trust you, sometimes a show of faith is always helpful. Alot of the times they just want your safety, by doing this you're showing them that you're being safe and most definitely no lying.
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