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How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 5, 2020
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You don't have to trust them 100% right away. Build up trust slowly and tell them that if they want your trust again they are going to need to stop lying. I've had an experience with trying to trust a lier too. I told him that if he wanted my trust he would have to stop lying and then over time I could trust him again. It's important to know that it's OK not to trust a lier if they make no efforts to stop lying. It's also OK to not immediately trust a known lier who says they've made a change for good. But over time if they prove themselves, the relationship should strengthen again
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Profile: Rebekah
Rebekah on Jul 9, 2020
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It can be very hard for us to put our trust into someone who has lied to us frequently. Maybe you could rebuild that trust by setting clear boundaries with the person as well as perhaps letting them know of your concerns. It's perfectly alright to feel how you do about this - anyone in your shoes would feel the same way. Try to gently place your trust in them as time moves on, maybe seeing whether or not they lie. If ever you realise you cannot trust them again, you may be unable to ever trust them again. It's entirely up to you how you approach this, and how many chances you offer the person is up to you.
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caringkoala333 on Aug 6, 2020
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set limits. by setting limits!!! being able to set limits is the best way to protect both yoursel fand hte other person. ultimately if someone keeps betraying trust, then it's better to move on from toxic relatiopnshiops such as these. after all, why bother? It's not healthy to continue letting someone hurt you. It makes no sense and will only continue to hurt me as a person and a human being. I fail to see the point in maintinaing relstiapnships with people whoa re toxic. There are definetely a lot of people like that in this world and it's quite unfortunate.
Profile: CJLion87
CJLion87 on Sep 23, 2020
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It's hard to establish trust when someone has done nothing but show you that they don't deserve it but i have been proven wrong by those same friends. One way that i was able to build that trust back was to talk with them about how I felt and why it was hard to take them at their word. Once that was established it was a slow journey of giving out trust but also planning for the worse. Sometimes this means not trusting them with information that i absolutely dont want getting out or not believing them completely but trying to figure out what part of their story does hold the truth.
Profile: Deliah453
Deliah453 on Sep 24, 2020
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The key ingredient in any relationship is trust. While trust is a bond, it is also fragile, easily broken, if one of the partners constantly lies. To regain that broken trust is one of the most challenging things to do as it makes you question what to believe and what not to believe. In fact, it may take months to start believing in your partner again. If this relationship truly matters to you, then talk it out with your partner about his behavior and how has it made you feel. Help them realize that what they did was wrong, and the relationship is strong and precious. Give your partner the opportunity to learn and fix their mistakes. Even though this may take a long time, if it is worth it, your relationship will emerge stronger.
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Anonymous on Oct 8, 2020
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Based on my experience I can advise you the following: You don't have to trust again, we are talking about someone who consistently lied, not someone who has lied only once. If trust is important to you, you must understand that it cannot be unilateral, that is, if the other person did not value your trust, you are not obliged to force yourself to trust again. I don't know what your situation is, but if you decide to trust again, you must make it clear to him/her that he/she must earn your trust again through his actions. I hope it is useful for you.
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Anonymous on Oct 8, 2020
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The way you can trust someone again after they have lied consistently, would be to have excellent communication. Be able to be open with one another and have that trust rebuilt. Making a list of pros and cons about the person can sometimes help as well. If you see that there is more cons than pros, unfortunately sometimes it is best to let that person go. Having full trust into someone is extremely important if you are in a relationship or if it is just a friendship. A relationship is based on trust. If you truly love this person, you must be willing to do that. If you have doubts, it may be time to move on.
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calmingFriend2210 on Oct 23, 2020
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That’s a hard one. Well there have to try to earn your trust. YoU can’t just say I trust you since they now have a reputation for lying. They will have to be willing to trust you as well as to stop there habit for lying. Though trust can be very fragile it can be regained. If this person tries to gain your trust and turn their ways of lying you might be more open to trust them. Though if they don’t you can of need to keep an eye on the person saying their lies aren’t going get them anywhere and will lose people’s trust.:)
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Anonymous on Nov 7, 2020
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Trust is a two-way street, but trusting someone that has habitually lied is hard to develop trust in that person. Once they lied it’s a violation, but to continue to do so, then it’s as if now you’re conditioned to never believe a word they say. It would take a very strong person with nothing to lose to forgive a person who habitually lies. Of course the relationship between those people has a lot to do with it. How invested in this person are you? If it’s an offspring, son/daughter, then the parent will be more willing to forgive. If it’s a spouse, well that’s more of how much the infatuation goes. But if it’s a supposed friend, then the tolerance will be so diminished that the friendship will falter. In any case, it is ultimately up to the forgiver to forgive the lies. I believe as humans, we all lie about one thing or another. Would it not be hypocritical to never forgive a lier, if we ourselves desire to be forgiven when we do it? So to trust someone again, would require the ability to forgive.
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Anonymous on Nov 24, 2020
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Sometimes it's not possible. You need to decide if the relationship with the person is worth it. If you decide its worth it, then the best way to trust them again is to talk to them about it. Open communication and establish ways for them to earn back your trust. Your trust is a gift that others have to earn. It is not something that should be handed out to everyone. Explain to the person how you feel and make it clear that you are not someone to be walked over. You don't have to feel guilty for not trusting someone who has lied to you. They should feel guilty for lying, and they are the ones who should be fighting to regain your trust.
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