How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?

To trust someone that has consistently lied and still remain in communication with that person sounds frustrating. Seems like you are very concerned for that person that consistently lies to you. If your close friend had to deal with a person who didn't feel comfortable with telling the truth or complete truth, what would you do to suggest a way to allow that person to open up without feeling judged where they had to lie? Is there a way to make the person feel that it is ok to be authentically themselves without fear in a trusting manner? How would you support that person to gain trust equally?

you dont, obviously. why would you trust someone who did lie consistently? to my mind, it's totally illogical. it's good to be hopeful in people, and to believe they have the capacity to change, and they are good at their root, but... :D the focus itself, your focus, should not be ever on words in the first place. your focus should always be on actions, what people do, not what people say. sure, their words might prove true in the future, great, you note down, and you remember, and you can invest more in those people, because the risk of failure of the relationship is less, right? but nevertheless, your focus has to be on actions actions are truth. words are very small

Trust is based on mutual respect. It is a foundation for relationship. If trust is repeatedly violated, rebuilding or even remaining trust can be very challenging. It is understandable that you find it difficult to trust someone again who has consistently violate the trust that your relationship is built on. My question is how much you value the relationship you have with that person. To err is human. Everyone makes mistakes. We have been taught by great people that being hopeful and patient can help mend a lot of things include trust. I guess to trust or not to trust, it is up to you to decide.

Trust is a different thing for everyone and gaining trust back is a different process for everyone. What some people consider to be a trustworthy trait others may not. It's all personal to yourself. Its also important to remember that trust is a hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose, you have to work for it. Trust can be shown to some by sticking to commitments, showing up when your suppose to, keeping things confidential when someone confides in you. Its more then just saying you'll do this, a lot of times its earned through actions done by individuals. With broken trust also comes forgiveness though. When people think of forgiveness a lot of times they think forgiveness is for the other person. Forgiveness is for YOU, it allows you to move on/past the emotions that keep you stuck in an event. Not forgiving can lead to resentments and that is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Honestly, I wouldn't. But, if you really love and care for this person, I suggest you talk to them about their actions first, and then work together to make sure that you are not only building up your trust but that they are also making a consistent effort to regain your trust. Trust, and all relationships, for that matter, is a two way street, and it's hard to make it something that's one sided because it's really not. In order for you to trust them, you have to make sure that they are also working to improve themselves. It seems like you care enough about this person for you to want to trust them even after they've betrayed your trust. Seeing that, I'm guessing that you'd want to help this person improve as a human being and help them grow from their mistakes. So yeah-- in short, make sure you talk to them about it and help them understand why what they're doing is wrong and hurtful to you, then build from there.

It really is up to you if you want to trust that person again but I think that everybody deserves a second or another chance. Even if they have consistently lied. It's hard to trust someone again but you can be careful around them yet still be friends. Just give them another chance because if you lose a friend, there's a chance that you can regret it and you don't want that to happen. Again it is really up to you but I'm just saying that another way for them to prove themselves to you is by trusting them again even if it's hard. Just both of yourselves space in the beginning and go from there.

Communication is very important. Setting limits and talking about how you feel might get you two to a point where you can build trust again and overtime be in a better point. Trust is very hard to gain but really easy to lose, so it is key to have in mind that the process is going to be long, frustrating and that it requires a lot of patience, but it is not impossible when both parts are completely putting all they have in order to get to the desired point. Some follow-ups between two parties might help to keep track of a betterment too.

When I have been faced with a consistent liar, I don't trust them the same way again. I don't cut them off completely, but I don't really believe anything they say.. You need to be able to take everything they say with a pinch of salt. If you don't want to cut them off, don't, but you don't need to trust them again, no matter how much they beg. You need to assess your situation and see if you really need them in your life. If ou do, be wary around them, if you don't there's nothing wrong with not wanting to talk to them.

It is not easy. It is very very difficult. I also believe that you cannot change the inherent nature of the person. I think the burden is on him or her to go out of their way to convince you that they are worthy of your trust and if they don't do it. Please let them go. It would not be sensible to trust somebody who constantly lies. People are not what they say. People are what they do. Their every lie is a statement and it would be stupid to ignore such statement. Stop questioning yourself. Everything falls into place with time.

Forgiveness is key. Trusting them again may be difficult, but it's not impossible. Forgiving them for their mistakes, and releasing that they're human too could really help. You do not have to fully trust them with everything, or tell them everything, but moving on from the past and accepting the fact may help you move forwards. Trusting that they have changed is not easy either, and that is a whole other thing in itself. Remember, it does not make them a bad person, in fact everyone makes mistakes, and trusting them again and letting them into your life is very possible.