How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?
Anonymous
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Jan 8, 2016
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Once a person loses your trust it can be hard to trust them again. From personal experience I learned that a person who has lied consistently in the past will most likely lie again. I suggest that you just stop talking to them.
Siouxsie
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Dec 4, 2014
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My answer - you don't have to. There is a significant difference between forgiveness and trust. Once trust has been burned, it must be re-earned. But no one is obligated to give it.
adaptiveEagle25
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Dec 28, 2014
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Depending on the severity of the lies you can simply try to slowly build up the trust again by building an honest relationship with them. If their lies are severe (I know that severity has greatly different meanings for people) you can put them on a probationary period so to speak. Try having them be honest with you about everything, if they lie and you are able to catch it than you could draw attention to that. Let them know how it makes you feel when they lie. If the relationship is only causing you pain than you might want to look for another option such as distancing yourself from that person. I do not like to suggest this simply because that is just the way that some people are, sometimes people don't even realize that they are lying or that it cant hurt to lie about a specific thing. If this is a relationship such as boyfriend/girlfriend or husband and wife, than I would suggest that you two go to couples counseling. It will help you both in the long term. You can suggest that they go to counseling and or make an active effort to fix what they have done. Often times compulsive lying is a result of anxiety and/or depression. They may have issues that manifest in this way so it is key to have an open relationship and make sure that all of the problems are laid out if they are willing to do so.
Kitty8
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Oct 2, 2015
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It takes time and the person who lied to you needs to understand that too. Think of it like this: Take a hand mirror, now throw it on the ground, now try to reconstruct the mirror. That's what it's like. It takes all but a few seconds, a few words, to break someone's trust. To rebuild that trust with someone, to learn to trust that person who lied, it will take an enormous amount of time. The first step is to forgive, but not to forget.
Blackadam
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Sep 23, 2015
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i dont see the point of trusting , its as simple as that - go away from the once who dont know how they are treating you and seeking benefit from you . leave them ! Make peace with yourself .
kristinshere
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Nov 30, 2014
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Don't fully trust them right off hand . Work on your relationship. be honest and tell the person hey have to work for your trust. Let time heal you guys if that is what is meant to be
Anonymous
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Oct 28, 2015
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The truth is that one can never fully trust such a person again, no matter how much one loves that said person. However, if the person in question is visibly regretful and terribly guilty, then you can probably give him/her the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes the best way out is to see things from their perspective as well. Empathizing helps understand the context in which the person made such a decision.
Also, a lot depends on what the person is lying about usually.
SkyeLilyxox
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Jan 15, 2016
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Unfortunately, re-gaining trust is not an easy thing to do.
I think it takes a lot of forgiveness, acceptance of wrong doing, time & hard work on BOTH sides.
I do believe that you should only forgive those that are repentant.
And always trust what heart says.
Anonymous
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Dec 19, 2015
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why do you want to trust the person again? if the person consistently lied to you and you gave him/her enough chances? then disconnect with the person. sometimes you can't take it all. that won't make you a Mother Theresa. Don't waste time.
Healer19
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Oct 24, 2015
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Take your time to think carefully whether you still want this person in or life or not. If you do, remember that we're only human, people make mistakes. The first step to trust a person is to forgive what this person did. Another thing to a successful relationship is communication. Be honest. Tell the person how you feel, let them know that they need to work to gain your trust completely. Hope everything will work out for you!
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