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How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?

Profile: kindDreamer26
kindDreamer26 on Sep 14, 2016
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That's a tough one. There are big lies and small ones. If you feel uncomfortable with trusting again- trust YOURSELF and move on from the situation and the person who betrays your trust. Trust is earned👍🏻
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Profile: smiley15
smiley15 on Jan 19, 2017
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Well, you would first have to determine that individual's significance to you. If you feel that they are essential to your life despite the lies, then you make the choice to trust them and take them at their word. Still, make sure the person is making an effort to build an honest relationship with you. Take it slow.
Profile: sierralocket
sierralocket on Jan 21, 2017
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It is extremely hard to trust someone who has consistently lied to you. But the fact of the matter is trust has to be built up and earned over time. It is not something to just be given carelessly away. If someone has deceived you it is their responsibility to redeem themselves with consistent honesty.
Profile: FlowerHemmorhoid
FlowerHemmorhoid on Mar 1, 2017
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You can't really. Or maybe you can, depending on the situation itself. Why did this person lie? Are the reasons for lying somehow justified? Does he still have these reasons to lie? Did he just has a period of lying, or is he a liar from an early age? How big were lies? Based on questions like that, i would try to determine if i can trust this person, but the process would be really slow and i would keep both my eyes and ears open.
Profile: Listenerlopez
Listenerlopez on Aug 13, 2017
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It's difficult to trust someone who has consistently lied and you can't blame yourself for not being able to. One way to try to trust someone is by going to therapy with them. For example, a relationship can try couples therapy.
Profile: CarissasHereToTalk
CarissasHereToTalk on Sep 9, 2017
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You don't have to fully give your trust to somebody who consistently has lied to you. You can stay friends / other with them, still treat them nicely, still talk to them, but just remember that lying may be a problem of theirs and keep that in your mind when you're dealing with them. Don't let yourself get hurt again, but you don't have to hurt them, either. :) I hope this helps!
Profile: Schultzy
Schultzy on Sep 21, 2017
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Trust takes years and years to build up, But can only take a matter of seconds to crumble and be destroyed and that's why it's such a hard thing for so many people to build up again. If you're deciding to try and trust someone who has betrayed this privilege to you before, I'd highly recommend that you take it slow and cautiously. Take it one day at a time, And if you find yourself being lied to again, It's just not worth the pain. I highly believe in second chances myself, But at the end of the day I have to do what is right for my own well being/Mental/Emotional health.
Profile: DCR83638
DCR83638 on Nov 21, 2017
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My wife lied so many times,I tried talking to her about finances which she lied about. We would end up fighting. So instead of asking I would do drugs to be numb. We'll after 30 years she wants to throw in the towel. I lied to her as well about my drug use. She gave me many chances went to rehab three times. Now I'm so sad I know it's all my fault. So lying doesn't work for anybody.
Profile: Harshac
Harshac on Dec 6, 2017
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Make it clear to him that if he is going to lie again that will be the end of the relationship. And give them a chance and be open.
Profile: heartofgold2001
heartofgold2001 on Apr 21, 2018
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For me personally i usually slowly take there actions into account and over a long long time decide weather they are trustworthy and i will sometimes tell them certain things and if it doesnt come back to me i take that into account
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