I'm so nervous during presentations and meetings, how can I improve my public speaking?
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Sometimes looking into a mirror and talking to yourself or stuffed animals or family that sometimes can help.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 9:21am
I am like you and the things I did are the following: 1. Change your mind and I mean stop thinking that people will judge you or that you will mess up but if you did mess up prepare a joke to tell them so that it won't be obvious that you are nervous 2. I stopped myself from thinking about the things that could wrong and I shut out the negative thoughts out from my mind and just focus on the information that I am going to give 3. Stop worrying about perfectionism, nobody is perfect in this world 4. Face my fears, I did this a lot and the fear slowly faded away, take a deep breath and DO IT!
Try and take a deep breath, changing your breathing helps calm your nervous system. I usually tell myself that the people I'm about to speak for want to hear what I have to say and that my speech/opinion is valued
Some unconventional advice since the conventional stuff is everywhere. If you wear glasses skipping them can make it easier coz you don't see the audience's reactions. Or wearing fake glasses helps because you can look through the rim & look like you're looking people in the eye when you're not. Using a lotta images, videos, fun effects helps take the attention off you & bringing noted gives you something to fall back on & look at. & you can always make it more of a casual discussion so the audience does more of the talking
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 11:30pm
Personally I always did my presentations in front of my family. With them I didn't feel afraid anymore,
Welcome to the world of millions who are nervous speaking in front of an audience! It's a very normal reaction. There are a number of ways to improve confidence while speaking publicly. Number 1 for me is knowing my subject matter. Number 2 is practicing in front of a mirror. There are also great organizations such as Toastmasters & Toastmistresses where you actually have meetings to practice public speaking weekly in front of a group who are there with the same goal in mind - to critique and support one another.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 2:05pm
Practice, practice, practice. This is something you "have" to do. So, why not try practicing in front of friends or family with just topics that you have made yourself. Then you can move on to being more comfortable in front of new people and people you don't know so well. It's all about setting out of that comfort zone and teach yourself that you can do this.
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 10:58pm
One of the most common fears is public speaking (sometimes even more than death) so you are not alone (I also fear it). Have you practiced presenting in front of friends, family and/or a mirror? I've heard and have found myself that practice is what helps the most. A mirror helps in that you can see what you look like when you give the speech and how well you keep "eye contact" with the audience. In terms of keeping eyes up with the audience - have you tried looking just above people's heads? (I find actually looking at them can be terrifying at times personally). What about recording yourself as well (on tape and/or video)? Sometimes having a friend or a family member count the number of ah's, like's and um's helps too since it helps you realize you're saying them and helps you learn to replace them with a pause. Pauses can be very effective in getting the audience's attention if it is well placed and can also allow you to get your thoughts together for what you're going to say next. Is there a toastmaster's club in your area or a debate team at your school? Toastmaster's is a club specifically for adults to improve their public speaking skills and work on a lot of the things I've just talked about. Debate teams often train people how to give different types of speeches very well - a lot of debaters eventually go into professions with public speaking. Also, what about taking a few breaths before you start the speech to organize your thoughts? It'll be ok, you're not alone in this and a lot of people, including myself, struggle with public speaking.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 10:43pm
Before: Be confident about subject. Be well rested. Eat lightly. Use relaxation techniques (deep breathing etc).
During: use humour where appropriate. Do not rely on cue cards with full speech, instead using talking points and speak naturally. Avoid looking at your instructor/teacher/ boss/mentor if he/she is in audience. If you lose your place, admit it, turn it into a light moment but don't dwell on it. Find your place and move on. Stay hydrated.
Breathe, relax, try to calm your nerves.
See your presentations as; you have the knowledge and the audience wants to learn from you.
There are groups/clubs out there to help oneself to improve public speaking, try to join one! Alternatively, making sure you are prepared and focused mixed in with some self belief can also improve public speaking and reduce the stress and anxiety involved !
There are lots of ways to improve your public speaking. The first thing to remember is that you are only nervous because you care, and you can turn that energy into momentum for a fantastic presentation!
There are some courses that you can go on, such as: https://www.radainbusiness.com/open-courses/presentation-skills/stage-fright
or http://thecomedyschool.com/corporate/c8-communicate-keith-palmer.html
These will give you some techniques on how to work WITH your nerves and to take away and practise. It is also great to be in a room with people that have similar experiences to you. I don't believe that anything can 'cure' you of nerves, because if you didn't care you wouldn't be doing it.
The key is to Stop, Think, Breathe and THEN Speak. You will be amazed how doing some deep breathing beforehand can help.
Best of luck - you've got this!
Anonymous
December 14th, 2020 9:00pm
Start by trying to understand exactly what it is about public speaking that makes you nervous. Ask yourself the question: "Am I nervous because I am afraid I will make a mistake?" If the answer to this question is "yes," Then I think it's wise to practice your speech as often as you can in front of people you know will not judge you if you make a mistake. Practicing allows you to create a script in your mind of what you would like to say and allows the presentation to become more automatic when faced with the real situation.
Ask yourself the question: "Am I nervous because I am worried about what others will think about my speech?" For me, the answer used to be "Yes". Reminding myself that I can't control what others think of me regardless of how well or terrible I do, has really helped me. Worrying about what others think of you is a waste of your time.
Lastly, Reframing my mindset about my emotions has helped me hours or minutes before a big speech. Remind yourself that you're about to do something difficult, and people grow from difficult things. Because people grow from difficult things, this means you are about to do something meaningful. This means that your increased heart rate and sweaty palms are signs of excitement and not fear. This little switch in mindset makes a big difference.
Best of luck to you!
Practice makes perfect; try and do your best to prepare beforehand. Record yourself, and watch the recordings. See how you sound and look; then, measure that versus how you'd like to sound and look. A great piece of advice I heard is to act like you would if you'd done public speaking many times beforehand. And if it's your first time publicly speaking--remember--the audience probably doesn't know that. When practicing, it's good to visualize your audience, and I think even have a mini mock audience of your own could be terrific. All in all, remember that you're trying your best, and it's not the end of the world if you make a mistake.
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