Loud sneezing or making sounds while eating makes me go mad. What to do in such situations without making anyone feel embarrassed?
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Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 12:48pm
Take deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling. It's okay to get annoyed but you do not want to embarrass anyone, so politely ask them to not sneeze so loudly or make sounds while they eat.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 3:36am
you can always excuse yourself and take a break on the restroom/outside the room,take a breath and just try calming your thoughts
I have it too! I usually focus on something or start humming softly and try and distract myself. It might help you too.
Anonymous
September 28th, 2016 3:05pm
You could be dealing with misophonia, which is a reaction to regular noises. Probably working on a way to tune it out would be best without embarrassing anyone and short of seeing a therapist.
Most of the time these are things that people either can't control or don't realise that what they are doing can be irritating for some others. If this is something that is really bothering you, the simple thing to do would be to remove yourself from the situation without making a scene.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2018 10:35pm
This phenomenon is actually incredibly common and is called 'Misophonia'. As your negative reactions to these sounds is completely out of your control, I would advise you to subtly remove yourself from the situation wherever possible. If this isn't an option and your distress is very obvious, it might be worth explaining your condition to the offending person.
Breathe I have the exact problem and I have learned that breathing helps me. Also maybe distract yourself with something else.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 4:03am
Excuse yourself and let your anger out into a pillow or something. I'm glad you're concerned with the other person's feelings of embarassment.
Visit a professional or a talking forum about Misophonia. That's all I can say. I've read that using background noise also helps a lot, to go over the sounds.
Anonymous
October 12th, 2016 7:15am
Honestly, I have this exact same problem! I personally choose to ask them politely, "If possible, do you think you could chew a little softer?" or, "Maybe sneezing closer in your elbow would make it a little quieter!"
Always carry earphones, simply put in your earphones if you can when you're in that situation. If not, politely remove yourself from the situation and go back when you have calmed down
Concentrate on your own meal, if this doesn't work you can excuse yourself, go to the bathroom, take a few breaths. Maybe finish you're meal quickly and clear up, get busy to avoid getting worked up. The clattering will drown out the other sounds.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2020 11:54pm
sound sensitivity is a common thing. It can be incredibly frustrating to feel this annoyance, especially since many people wouldn't understand it. Breathing exercises and coping mechanisms help. Try continuing the 7 Cups journeys to find some. Feeling compulsion can leave you feeling very lonely, and make you feel like you are not understood, which I understand must hurt a lot. It is good to reach out for help. You are not alone feeling this way. If you know the person well enough, you can always explain the situation to them and kindly let them know, and make sure they understand that it is nothing personal to them.
Maybe i would just change my place or silently walk away from people making the sounds without saying anything
This is completely understandable and expected. Feeling irritated by the sounds and noises means that the body is giving the signal that there is a belief inside that needs to be let go of, that prevents the inner peace from happening.
Eckhart Tolle suggests to sit with it. Just like during meditation, if a dog barks, if a car speeds up - those are the noises that are outside of our control. Sitting with yourself, observing your own irritability and trying to figure out why this or that noise is irritating - is it the noise itself? is it the memory that the noise brings up? Once the noise is allowed by you to happen, it will be noticeably easier to just accept the existence of the noise.
If it was in a place you can avoid. the most easiest way is to leave the place. But if you had to stay, you can ask kindly for the person to not munch and anything else that bothers you, Explain to them that it makes you feel annoyed and mad so they can understand and feel less offended
Take some time to reflect and ask yourself when was the last time you felt like this outside of a similar situation. Is it really because of the noise or is it something else that caused you to feel mad?
And if it is not because of the noise, what happened back then that made you remember about this feeling of you being mad? How do you feel about it and how does it relate to your current situation?
Lastly, ask yourself: what do you do now? Would you want to be mad every time someone sneezes loudly or make sounds while eating? If no, how would you like to go about this?
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2018 2:03pm
With regards to loud sneezing, it's not something that the person doing it can really control, since a sneeze comes very quickly. Regarding eating sounds, music definitely helps drown out the sound. Also, if you're at a busy restaurant, then you're also in luck, because the sound of other people talking drowns out the sound of eating. Other than that, the best thing to do is to kindly ask the person to slow down with his/her eating.
It sounds like it is misophonia :) In those cases, I try to self-sooth, and remind myself that the person making the noises likely doesn't mean to be so loud or be upsetting. That usually helps a bit, but if not, I would either quietly excuse myself from the situation and take some deep breathes, see if there is an opportunity to play some music or the tv in the background while eating, but most importantly, if you have trust in the person who is making the sounds, I believe it is a good idea to communicate how you are feeling, explaining that it's something medical that can be difficult to cope with. Most compassionate people will be understanding and try to eat more quietly. Often just speaking about it helps
Try to Observe yourself next time when you are in such a situation or try to create it yourself by making sounds if sometime you are eating alone. The sound is making you remember some experience you may not be consciously unaware of. Once you are aware, you will be in a better position to handle it. You can also try to figure out the reason for your reaction by meditating. Take few deep breaths, concentrate on your breathing for couple of minutes. Imagine that someone is sneezing or making loud noises and see the anger bubbling inside. Observe what thoughts are going on in your mind. Hope this helps.
First thing is first, please don't make an ugly face towards the person. Sometimes there is no self control on how someone can chew. If you feel that the sound of someone chewing on their food is a bit disturbing, put some headphones on. If there isn't any headphones near by, try distracting yourself with something else around your surrounding. I know personally there was a time where I couldn't fully close my mouth due to a facial Paralysis and I would catch myself chewing loud and opened mouthed. It wasn't something that I wanted to do but it just couldn't be controlled. I am pretty sure there is something about yourself that you know there is nothing you can do to avoid it happening. Why judge someone who experiences the same thing? Just keep going on with your day and let everyone else continue with theirs.
Sometimes I have the same situation. For example, when I sleep, my roommate is eating, which is really annoying,At that time, I put on my headphones and listen to music. This situation may also be because you hate that person. So it is normal, I think we can find a way to distract ourselves from these sounds. Such as thinking about some other interesting things. Or it will be ok if you tell that person about that politely. Most people will understand it and then pay attention to it. There are some other similar situations, such as people next to or behind shake their legs. And at that time I will talk to that person. I hope this helps some.
From how this reads, it seems as if you are experiencing social anxiety from triggers stemming from your personal preferences. We all have our idiosyncrasies, and many people enjoy eating in a quiet setting; however, sometimes that is an impossibility with with which we must deal.
Have you thought about why you react the way you do to these noises? How do you react when this happens (i.e., what does "makes me go mad" mean?)? Where (location) and how often do you notice loud sounds? Aside from loud sneezing, what other noises cause your feelings? And have you tried anything to help mitigate these feelings (i.e., talking to family / friends - in the moment and/ or after), breathing, focus exercises, etc.)?
Sharing meals in a public place is a good activity to meet people and share culture, banter, and anything that fits your fancy. Sneezing, too, is one of those things that happens; there is a "polite" way to sneeze in public, and even then, it may be unpleasant. Without more, it is hard to frame or contextualize the issue.
It sounds as if this is a regular occurrence, and unless someone is intentionally sneezing on you or making abnormally loud noises close to you (both of which could be resolved with a conversation), it is a tricky situations could have an underlying cause that is something much larger, so it would be prudent to talk to a certified counselor to help identify root causes, triggers, and coping mechanisms. Continuing this discussion on this level would constitute medical advice.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2019 1:07am
This very same thing has happened to me in my life. One thing that I've found to help is if I concentrate on what I'm doing instead of the other person. I'll give a few examples. If I am in a lecture hall and someone is coughing or sneezing, I will try to focus my attention on the lecturer and do my best to tune out the other unwanted noises. If I am at the dinner table and somebody is chewing loudly I will start a conversation about something unrelated. Perhaps some techniques (I call it thinking on your feet) like those would help. Also, I think that mindfulness can help you adapt to situations like these. Mindfulness can help with decision-making from a calm, balanced place in these types of situations.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2019 7:01am
I understand how you feel. I would suggest going outside for walk or count to 10 slowly. You can also ask for them to be quieter politely and politely. Such as "excuse me, but can you please [thing that is making you frustrated] quieter?" if they don't listen, you can always move seats or areas. There are many things online that can help calm you down in situations where you feeling uncomfortable due to people surrounding you.
I have a similar experience when i get really agitated when people make repetitive noises, i have learned to calm myself down by using a technique called "3-3-3", although it is a technique to calm anxiety, i find it easily as effective when calming myself down in any situation. I would suggest googling further into ways to calm yourself down, or talk to someone who has more professional advice about this topic.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2019 6:23pm
If possible, try to excuse yourself for a moment. The volume of a sneeze is something most people are unable to control. Besides, sneezing is a natural way of expelling unnecessary air and dirt particles from the body. There’s nothing wrong with it. Loud eating is more a reasonable pet peeve. But again, some people chew louder than others. They may not be trying to, that’s just how it is. Try to focus on your own eating. Don’t worry about how anyone else eats. Just try to tune them out the best you can. It’s better to save them from embarrassment.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 8:53pm
Just be polite and kind when you address the issue. Also, you could do so in private so that they don't feel embarrassed about it.
If an issue like this is seriously bothering you, sometimes the best thing to do is to take yourself away from the situation for a moment to calm your mind. Head to the bathroom, outside, or somewhere away from the situation to allow yourself to calm down. This can allow you to come back with more tolerance for the noise, or it may have stopped by the time you return. Pointing it out in front of everyone may embarrass them, however if it is someone you feel comfortable with you may be able to discuss the issue with them in private so they can be more sympathetic towards your concern
Anonymous
August 19th, 2018 3:14am
You excuse yourself in the politest possible manner and or pretend to get a very important phone call, either way walk away from the situation as possible. If however you can’t, try to drown the sounds by some conversation by those around you. Other then that, I would say there’s not much you can do. If worst comes to worse, you could always try to avoid that person altogether but that might be challenging, especially if they suspect that you are mad at them. In that case, you’d just have to approach them and say hey, you sneeze too loud or you chew too loud and it’ll just make things awkward and embarrassing.
I am a firm believer in meditation and inner focus. I know it sounds weird, but actually focusing on the sounds to give it presence actually can make you lose thought of it. Then bringing yourself inward to yourself and focusing on your breath and thinking of what you want to hear and let those feelings of anxiety and hate toward those people or sounds dissipate. Practicing this prior to these situations would be better to get a little better understanding of what I am talking about. So, you could sit in a room with the TV on or something that isn't very pleasant and try to address the situation.
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