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Why is it that the more I focus on falling asleep, the harder it is to do so?

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Last Updated: 01/01/2018 at 3:48am
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Profile: HelpWisely
HelpWisely
October 23rd, 2017 9:37am
It’s not possible to force sleep to happen. You have to allow it to happen on its own and the best way is to simply relax. Lie down, close your eyes and fully relax your body so there is no tension.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2015 1:35am
The more you think about it, the more you will put pressure on your body to sleep. If you relax, you will find that you sleep a lot easier.
Profile: YourePerfectDarling
YourePerfectDarling
April 11th, 2015 11:46am
that is because when you focus and think too hard about falling asleep, you are actually making your brain work more, making you more awake. The more you make your brain work the more awake you become, try to wonder about different stuff without thinking or worrying too much and you'll fall asleep :)
Profile: zaix
zaix
February 17th, 2015 10:49pm
It's probably harder to fall asleep simply because you are thinking about doing so. You aren't concentrated on relaxation.
Profile: MoonshineStrider
MoonshineStrider
April 11th, 2015 11:03pm
It's harder to fall asleep because the more you focus on something, the more active your brain becomes more active than when you're not focused on anything, and that's what keeps you awake. :]
Profile: Aliviate
Aliviate
May 31st, 2015 4:59am
For more stuns you, because you just have to let it flow, think of something nice and dream and dream, breathe easy and stay cool. ______________________________ Porque algo más te aturde,porque solo debes dejarlo fluir, pensar en algo lindo y soñar y soñar, respirar tranquila y mantener la calma.
Profile: silverCandy73
silverCandy73
September 14th, 2015 2:16pm
Falling asleep: first slowly and all at once. So.. don't focus on falling asleep! Try just to relax, breath deep and start imagine beautiful things like you want your dreams to be.
Profile: creativeLime42
creativeLime42
November 10th, 2015 7:36pm
Probably because you are concentrating so hard on doing something - that your brain is working on concentrating rather than relaxing...
Profile: KhalDoggo
KhalDoggo
December 7th, 2015 5:50am
Because thinking about sleep is not a relaxing thought and you may be stressing yourself. It can be counter-productive to force yourself to sleep as sleep is a natural thing (most of the time). Try setting a time and place for sleep. Also a routine before sleeping. With that you can condition yourself that you are ready to sleep without too much thoughts about it. Good luck and sweet dreams.
Profile: warmsunshine23
warmsunshine23
December 28th, 2015 7:18pm
Because to sleep you must clear your mind and if you are focused on sleeping your mind is not clear.
Profile: KatieWhite
KatieWhite
April 19th, 2016 6:16pm
Your brain is active when you focus so that's why it's harder to fall asleep. Your brain can't let you sleep if it's too active
Anonymous
October 31st, 2016 4:33am
That is okay. A few things: (1) Something could be bothering every night, or has been bothering you. Write about it. Write about your feelings and thoughts thought for thought, word for word, and read it over. Read it, and see what is bothering you, and how you can make the situation better. (2) When you are not in the mood to write, do not make yourself sleep right then, and there. Get up, and walk around. Give yourself 5-10 minutes of walking around the room, and it should help.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2018 3:48am
I would feel like stressing too much about it and make it worse. You could use relaxing music or something that relaxes you like a hot bath or something...