Why does my girlfriend cut herself?

A lot of the time, people may feel as if they have no other way to find relief from their problems. She might be having a hard time verbalizing her emotions and feelings and cannot find another way to find that "release" that some people may get from talking. I'm glad that you're concerned about her. Always be there for her and try and help her as best as you can!

Ask her. She's the only one in the world who could tell you why. You can't trust the answers you get from anyone else because they're not her and they have no idea what she's going through even if they say they do. So ask her. She's your partner so trust her to trust you and be by her side no matter what her reason is.

She is suffering from depression and feels as though she shouldn't exist in the cruel world. She rather let herself be broken.

Your girlfriend may be experiencing very difficult and painful feelings and self harm is her way of dealing with them . Sometimes people can cope better with physical pain more than emotional pain and actually "seeing" their pain that they have self inflicted feels like they are unleashing some of those painful emotions . Self harm is like a temporary relief , unfortunately it can become addictive and it can become difficult to stop . Can you advise your girlfriend to see her doctor ? She can be referred for therapy . Look after yourself too as seeing someone you love hurt themselves is very difficult .

There are many reasons why one would self-harm. Sometimes, it's to take the mental pain away by making your brain concentrate on physical pain. At other times, it could be because you feel like you deserve that kind of pain. People who self-harm regularly are often depressed and get addicted to it because the brain starts sending endorphins, the happy hormones, whenever they cut themselves as it distracts them from their thoughts. It can be a mere escape from the constant hurricane of thoughts in one's mind. It was a combination of many things for me, but 7Cups helped me in some tough spots, and so did talking to my boyfriend about it. Recovery is always possible if one wants it, so I'd say that, please, talk to your girlfriend. Find out what's making her want to harm herself. Tell her she doesn't deserve to hurt herself, and that she can stop, and she should. Take it slow, but make sure you're there for her when she needs it. Supporting someone through a recovery attempt can be hard at times because their reasoning for cutting themselves can seem 'silly' to someone who hasn't gone through it. It can frustrate you that your words to the person seemingly don't matter, but I promise you, it will help her if you talk to her directly. Perhaps, if she'd like, suggest 7Cups. If she has trouble talking about it, she can try working things out with a listener. Anonymity really comforts people sometimes. I really hope she decides to go ahead with recovering, and wish you the best in helping her. Please feel free to message me about this if you want to as I've gone through this and may be able to help.

To avoid her own feelings, it's the only way she knows how to numb herself she doesn't want to put her problems on others, this is sort of a stress reliever for her this is coming from experience.

There are lots of reasons for that, Like to express pain and intense emotions, or to calm and soothe herself. or because she feels disconnected or even to release tension or vent anger. The best way to know is by asking her. Please try to avoid judging her. Listen to her and let her know that you are there for her and support her

because shes bren called names or doesnt like the way she looks and by cutting she can comtrol the pain she feels and chooses when and when not to have the pain.

This can be a tricky subject. Usually it's a cry for help. Let her know your their for her and talk to her about getting professional help

it is incredibly hard to watch someone you care about suffer like that, and it's great that you're trying to understand her feelings and struggles. there are a multitude of potential reasons why your girlfriend is cutting herself, but there are generally four main emotions/causes tied to self-harm: some people self-harm because they are in pain and sad, and use self-harm as a way to express those intense feelings. some people self-harm because it is a way for them to calm and soothe themselves. some people self-harm as a way to help them deal with a sense of disconnectedness or numbness (as in using the physical sense of pain as a way to pierce through that numbness), and some people self-harm to express anger and stress. these are general, and may not perfectly encapsulate why your girlfriend is hurting herself, but it offers some potential context for her struggles.