Why do I have a gut-wrenching feeling down my stomach after a friend told me something I disagree with, not physically, but emotionally?

It could be that what your friend told you triggered you or it could be something you really don't like to hear. But more than likely you were triggered if the feeling is a "gut-wrenching" one

Because may be and just may be a part of you so feels so strongly about it that it is difficult for you to carry out the relationship either without the letting person know how much it is affecting you or in extreme scenario ending it but may be because you do not have an option you would rather let it go.

It can be difficult to know that someone close to you has a view which differs from your own. Especially for highly agreeable individuals, minor conflicts of opinion can be particularly troubling. The feeling in your gut suggests that this revelation of a potential disagreement makes you nervous, perhaps of a potential confrontation, or alternatively it may be pain from learning that someone close to you disagrees with you on an important issue.

I know exactly what you're talking about since I myself have experienced this a lot of times with my very close friends. After a lot of analysis, I think the reason we feel down emotionally is because in some way or the other we expect our friends to be like us. After all, that is how people become friends in the first place; over shared interests, shared opinions etc. So finding out that they also have different views about certain things apart from the ones that they share with us can be disappointing. I think the best way to get over it is to understand the fact that they in themselves are a different person; this is what makes them, them. If everyone thought or behaved in the same way then the world would be too boring. I also like to think that you only truly like someone when you can like them despite their flaws or difference of opinions

There is a psychological phenomenom called "cognitive dissonance" that comes into play when something like that happens. Since a friend, which is a person you like, has just said something you don't like or agree with, your mind finds it difficult to accept that both elements are linked together, and causes that feeling, hoping for a way to dissociate those elements (and sometimes succeeding).

It's because you disagree with it! You might have a different opinion on something and your friend has another opinion. When two parties don't agree there might be some tension

If someone says something that gives you a gut wrenching feeling in your stomach then that means you've heard something that either goes against your beliefs that you feel strongly about or that what you've heard affects you personally

The gut wrenching pain you're experiencing might be because of anxiety. I can not take back the words that your friend said but I can tell you this I am here for you we are here for you and the entire 7 Cups community is here for you and we are here to listen. If there is anything you want to talk about or if you need a shoulder to cry we are here.

It is because you trusted that friend enough to tell her what are the things you disagree. However, instead of supporting your thoughts, your friend has other ideas and opinions on that similar topic. You feel that your friend is unable to connect with you and might feel anxious too. It's normal, i get it it most of the time too.

You're most likely realizing that you are your own person and your friend may not be exactly who you thought they'd be. Either way, you know yourself best and you are under no obligation to agree with your friend if you don't think they are right :)

Because whatever the thing being disagreed on was is important to you, and your emotions reacted intensely to it.

As humans, we oftentimes want people to like us. We often have the desire to please the people we are talking to, and want to agree or see things from their point of view, or have them see things from our point of view. When faced with something we don't agree with, or accept, we have that inner struggle - do I express myself and challenge their point of view?, do I nod along and not tell them how I feel? - it causes an inner turmoil which can be difficult to navigate, especially when that person is a friend and we want to maintain and preserve that relationship.

I don't know about you, but it makes me feel like I am lying to my friend about myself because I realized that the friend doesn't really know who I am.

I cannot say why you felt a gut-wrenching feeling. It's easy for me to feel this when a value doesn't match with who I want to spend time with, at least or me. In such cases I try to remember that the person is human. If it is an issue that is important to me then I may decide to no longer spend time with them on it. Perhaps in my case, the person wasn't aware that there is an issue. In those cases, I would sometimes ask them questions about the issue such as why they believe what they're saying. Have they considered an alternative perspective? What if they considered walking in someone else shoes? Alternatively, sometimes I ask myself why do I feel bothered? If I feel a strong conviction personally, I may decide to provide some distance.

When a friend or other person tells you something you disagree with, it is not uncommon to experience a physical ( perhaps unpleasant) reaction to this. If you feel strongly about something, there is often a strong connection between this subject and your emotions, and these in turn can have a negative or positive effect on your physical well-being.

Because it hurt your feelings, you want your friend to be nice and agree with everything you say because its a feel good but when you argue or disagree on something it makes u feel bad, its totally normal though.

Because we sometimes expect friends to think like we do, because this might give us a feeling of support.

Probably it has to do with your wish to voice the difference of opinion. However, you suppress it for fear of being misunderstood and putting strain upon the relationship. Remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

You're free to feel this way, you most likely like you said in the question, you disagree with what your friend told you. Best thing though, talk to them about it. It might help with what they told you.

We take offense at things that threaten who we are: our reality, our narrative, our place in the world, our identity. When someone says something that undermines who we are or what we believe, it makes us want to shout back at them, defeat them with logic or stonewall them completely. Through avoidance or aggression we can relieve that gut-wrenching feeling. Yet the differences don't stop -- there will always be someone who disagrees. To resolve this, we need to look to acceptance and boundary setting. How can I accept I can't control this person's opinion (or anybody's opinion, for that matter) next time it happens? Do I need to place boundaries on them? Do I need to place boundaries on my expectations?

I have gone through that too. It's always hard to go against group thinking and it takes a lot of bravery to voice your opinions to your friends. This was bravery and confidence that I didn't have. Eventually, I think I just snapped. I couldn't stand my silence so I told them what I felt and they continued to disagree so I cut them off. It was hard to do that, but I'm happier now. I won't lie - I was lonely for a while but I learnt a lot of things about myself in that time and eventually, I found friends who agreed with me and respected my opinions.

Emotions effect our whole bodies, they're connected through the enteric nervous system- so they tie in with each other more than we realise. Negative emotions, and confusing ones like nervous butterflies can effect hormones, and your stomach fluid release. Although those are physical elements, physical and emotional bits of us are linked really closely, and emotional twists of the tummy can be blamed on the fight or flight physiological responses of our predecessors. Something you disagree with can make you feel the need to get away from the unpleasantness, and although you don't want to run away from your friend, when they say something you oppose, it can make you disappointed and worry about what else they could say too.

When you have a difference in beliefs with someone close like a friend, you might experience that gut-wrenching feeling. It's fairly normal - Conflicting values makes a lot of us feel that way.

As humans, our bodies are tied to our emotions. We have very strong intuitions, which most people might refer to as "gut-feelings". It is important to honor those feelings as a sign to examine what might cause your emotions and body to work together to send you a message. What is going on in your relationship with this friend? Did they say something that you have personal history with?

it sounds like you don’t know how to respond when someone says something you don’t see eye to eye with. this is because it may seem scary to communicate your personal views on the matter because you don’t know how the other person will respond. you want to keep your friendship and disagreements can come between that. it sounds like you care for the other person and you don’t want to do anything that will jeopardize the relationship you have. i’ve been in the same position and i learned that it helps if you ask more questions and try to stay open minded. don’t be afraid to show your curiosity. it will do so much more for you than you might think.

So you feel upset when you disagree with a friend? Have you noticed if this happens w/ every friend?

I am not a professional, but it may be because you thought that they, as a friend, would be on your side and now you are kind of disappointed in them and your own jugdment your friend isn't. When one makes friends, they usually think they know that person really well and feel home with them, so it's completely understandable how confused one can be when they get to know new sides one doesn't like on a person they thought to understand fully. So sure, something like this must hurt, loosing your perception of your friend a bit after you thought to have found him.

This sounds like anxiety. It makes the stomach feel all tied in knots or like there are rocks in it? This is a normal physical response to emotional angst. It generally eases with time but if it’s causing distress in daily living or disrupting the friendship then a heart to heart talk may be in order. Sometimes that will help ease the discomfort all by itself.

Did you know that your stomach has nearly as many nerve endings as your brain? It picks up our emotions and it is part of the autonomic response to stress. When we were cavemen the fight or flight response saved us from being eaten and the gut would react subconsciously and give us that tell tale feeling that something was wrong. Now that feeling lingers with us and when our sub-conscious feels a threat or any kind of emotional upset it can react and give us that feeling.

Your mind and body are connected by your sympathetic nervous system. When you take in information that may be challenging to your sense of security, it's not uncommon to feel a physical sensation of pain in your stomach. This "churning" is a fear-based reaction. Your body and mind are trying to tell you to protect yourself from any further "emotional" pain. Maybe your idea of your own self worth changed by how you perceived your friend from before to after they told you this thing you disagree with. If that's the case, your own friendship with them probably changed in that moment and you were not prepared fully for that change.