When your first love is your first heartbreak, but is also your best friend, do you hang on to hope in the future to get back together? Especially if the breakup is a healthy clean one?

It is important that you work on healing yourself first. You need to heal from your broken heart. It is also important to give the other person some space so they can also heal. It’s going to be very difficult for both of you and it will take some time to heal. Know one can predict the future. If you work on becoming the best person you can be and live your life at its fullest, then your future could be filled with happiness with or without your first love. Spend time with family and friends. Stay strong

Do you mean romantically or as friends? Platonically-- absolutely! Many of my past regrets came from not holding on to my friendships after a breakup/small conflict. Best friends are precious-- hold on to them tight. If you are talking about getting back together romantically, then that is purely situational. I do not know that person and your relationship, but you do. You know yourself more than anyone ever will, so believe in your own intuition and trust in your own decisions. Remember to move on if needed, for living in the past never works out. Care for yourself, and look out for what YOU need.

I feel the pain of my first heartbreak sometimes still, as if it were yesterday because we truly were best friends. When we parted ways, we both knew it was for the best and even in our present day, we have always said to each other that if we are meant to be, we will be. I've always wondered if someday down the road we will cross paths and be together again, but I wouldn't hold onto the the type of hope that you are overly focused on and is consuming you, if that makes sense. I did that with my very first boyfriend and it lead to several months of confusion and deeper hurt than I felt that I could bare. But all emotions are fleeting and I hope you are able to be okay with feeling this way, but know that there is so many other things to look forward to in life. Try to make the most of the situation you are in presently and focus on bettering yourself. If it is meant to be, it will be.

Oh my gosh! We experienced the same thing. We actually got back together after we broke up for 1 year! He is my best friend too. We loved each other so much but we both felt we had to break it off. After 1 year, we got back together. So maybe still hang on to hope BUT you can’t stay longing for him always, just let life flow....and let it bring you where you’re mean to be. Then maybe one day in the future, maybe it’s the right time to be with him again. Try to focus on other things in the meantime!

In this type of situation, it is common to find yourself looking back and thinking on memories or shared experiences. Or how that person made you feel. The good times or the bad. It wouldn't be moving on if you hang on to a relationship in the possible future. Sometimes things happen for a reason. Maybe your first love is supposed to show you how to embrace the next. It is important to learn from those tough times and realize what you truly want in a long-term relationship. Your first love isn't necessarily the last one. It is just the beginning.