My husband has cheated in the past and I can’t seem to get over it? I try to let go but no matter what I do it’s not working.. any advice?

First, you should know that it's normal to not 'forgive and forget' immediately, forgiveness and healing both take time. Think of it as a physical wound. If you scrape your knee, or slice your finger, they both take time to heal - sometimes they don't leave a mark and it's done and dusted. But sometimes, they leave a scar. Patience is key here. You don't want to force yourself to feel things that are not right at the time. However, have a chat with your husband if you're still in contact. Have you tried communicating your feelings with him? Perhaps talk to people who may have been in a similar situation and discuss your position with them. Good luck!

It seems that your trust has been betrayed and as a result, you are unable to move forward. That is a very natural reaction when we have been betrayed. I would suggest asking your husband to attend marriage counselling with you so you both can vent what you need to, to someone who will be mutual. Also it is important for you husband to learn ways to regain your trust. It can be done if both partners are willing to make the effort and want the relationship to work and to move forward as individuals. I wish you all the best!

I’ve been in your position before. With my ex husband I knew we weren’t really right for each other nor really loved each other enough to stay and I could let go easily. With my current relationship we were together for many years. We loved each other enough to go through counseling and find out the core reason why he did it and also To figure out the faults in our relationship on both sides. It really helped us to become closer and see the big picture. We are currently planning our wedding. Just to let you know if you really work at it, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. But you have to dig deep and go through the pain of talking about it all over again. He has to be willing to put the work in also. It’s been about a year and half since it happened for me and I’m still reminded in some ways about it. It will never completely go away and you may never completely get over it, and there will be days you have to count your blessings. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!