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I love my boyfriend very much. But every single time we have a fight no matter how small and stupid he wants to leave but I always beg him to stay. What do I do?

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Last Updated: 11/16/2021 at 8:19am
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Anonymous
October 2nd, 2018 3:31pm
If you're having to beg your boyfriend to stay, it suggests to me that maybe he isn't as invested in your relationship as you are/doesn't care about it as much as you do. I understand you love him a lot and so it's hard to just let go, however if you are having to beg him to stay with you, then it might be time to re-evaluate your relationship with him and whether it's good for you to stay in this relationship. You deserve to be in a relationship where you're cared for as much as you care for the other person, and where you don't have to beg someone to stay with you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me :)
Anonymous
August 12th, 2019 11:01pm
You should talk to him about it and see how it goes and if that doesn't work maybe you should leave him a bit and see if anything gets better for you. If your relationship keeps going downhill then maybe it would be time to end it with him as this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. You want to avoid a toxic or unhealthy relationship since it will hurt you and him and no one would want that to happen. The fights might be small and stupid but have you thought that he might see them as bigger arguments and they might mean more to him then you think.
Fadedletters00
November 16th, 2021 8:19am
A healthy relationship asks more than love, it is about mutual commitment and trust in one another. One needs to keep in mind that when two people (who are a couple) are having an argument, it is not one person Vs another but rather them, as a team Vs the problem. If someone tries to look into it like this, I am sure any heated discourse would be resolved quickly. Leaving an argument is not a solution, it is an escape mechanism, and threatening to break up sounds a tad immature, honestly. An emotionally sensible person is not supposed to do that. For now, try to talk it out with him and observe his response. If he continues to stick to his old behaviour, you might want to look into things more practically then and decide for yourself how long such a relationship might actually survive. I am not trying to discourage you, but it is better to be careful and realistic now than to repent when it is too late. Good luck!