i cheated on my boyfriend and i feel guilty for not telling him because im afraid he will insult me and when i cheated on him we werent at a good stage so now i dont know what to do?

I hear you. It sounds like you're anxious about making the right decision. Here are some questions you might want to ask yourself about the relationship. What is your hope for the relationship? What is your desire for your own future - and how does this relationship fit into the picture? What value will you create by telling him versus not telling him? What makes you feel that you should tell him? Why do you feel guilty? And Is guilt useful in deciding the best course of action? And what makes you think his reaction will be too insult you? From my own experience - hard learned - I've discovered that sometimes I can tell the truth because it makes me feel virtuous, even though the other person gains nothing from hearing the truth - especially about something that happened a long time ago. So I think the operating question, the one you should focus on, is what do you want to achieve in telling him?

The best thing you can do is be honest. If you hold it in, it's going to weigh on you. And the longer you wait, the more it's going to hurt when it does come out. Ask him if it's a good time to talk about something serious; once it is, tell him. He has the right to know, and the right to be upset about it. And you have the right to walk away if it gets heated and he insults you. Once the truth is out there, you can both decide how you want to move forward.

The best thing in any relationship is communication, I don't want to tell you what to do or what is right but in my experience, I have learned that it is better to tell the person to save more heartbreak later on. It's not healthy for you to feel so guilty.

Tell him. As painful as it may be for you, I'm sure if he did the same you would want him to tell you. Put yourself in his position, you would want to know. I promise you the longer you put it off, the worse the response will be when you finally decide to tell him. It is best for you to tell him now than wait and have him find out another way, which will happen because what's done in the dark is always brought to light. Regardless of how afraid you are of his response, he will appreciate the fact that you didn't try to hide it from him.

In my experience, after a while, lying about something or keeping a secret from your partner ends up tearing your relationship apart. If you really care for them and want your relationship to continue then you need to come clean and tell that person and if they get angry and insult you then you might need to re-evaluate whether this is the relationship you want to be in forever. Once you determine that, then the rest is easier. If you decide that you want to continue your relationship, then you must work on growing together, not separately. if you decide you don't want to continue working on your relationship then maybe you should take some time to work on yourself and reflect on what made you cheat and why you felt guilty and determine if you ever want to make those decisions again.