I can't get this boy out of my head. I don't like him any more and I want to get over him. What shall I do?
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Anonymous
January 19th, 2018 6:40am
I've been going through this as well so I understand how you feel, it hasn't been easy. To help, I would say stay busy, focus on your career, school and your friends. Make plans with your friends during the week and weekends. Find things to take up your time and keep your mind off of him. It's January so it's a great time to set some goals for yourself and see what you want to accomplish this year, then focus on making them happen!
Anonymous
January 29th, 2018 8:33pm
I have been through this exact same thing before also. Keeping your mind busy will help you get your mind off of him. Staying away from places you'll see him will also help a lot (even social media sites). Though it may take some time to get him out of your head, It will really help a lot to keep your mind busy with different things.
Good advice here. Change of focus. Some new adventures with friends you trust. Well done for seeking help like this. There are some great therapy tips around. One of them worth looking into is called ‘grounding’ in some circles. Basically, it’s a technique that helps you get control of your thought life when the hard times come. I used it along side the other good suggestions you have here, and it really helped me push through those thoughts i couldn’t get out of my head. I was then able to focus on my positive action plan... You are unique, special and able to endure, with a little help... we all can!
Anonymous
February 12th, 2018 4:23pm
I have been through this and I understand how frustrating it is . I found this website when I was going through that phase and I'm glad I had someone very nice to help me out. So apart from speaking to listeners here I did things that I like and had fun and whenever I would think of him again I'd just write something like in a journal and that too helped me .
You should try to persuade yourself that he’s no longer the guy of your dreams. You should put his flaws in front of you. You should concentrate on something else. Like go to the gym, care about your health, your skin, your diet and your own self. Think more of how to make yourself happy because that is what matters. Try to give a chance to other guys who are trying with you, but you always rejected because of that guy. Don’t let him take more time that he actually deserves. Since you decided that you no longer like, so don’t look backward. Good luck.
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