I asked my boy friend does he love me, his response was I don't know. What should I think of that?
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well for some people the love word is kinda sacred and not at all easy to say, and even though they might be feeling it or at least close to, they'd be very careful with such a word.
On any account it's not a thing that can be pushed, he'll say it when he feels ready and he will mean it then, so you better not pressure him. However do try to ask him and understand what are his current feelings for you.
It seems like he isn't sure of his feelings yet, and he may not be able to put how he feels into words. His feelings may show more truly in his actions and attitudes than in his response to you, especially if he wasn't prepared for the question. It can be terrifying to put your heart out there, and it's brave of you to have done so. Sometimes love takes longer to form for some people than for others, but with time and patience and care, you can find the right choices to make and questions to ask as you continue in your relationship.
Your idea of love and his may be different. Communication is key, and it would be helpful to both of you to sit down and discuss expectations and feelings frankly and openly. It's also important to keep in mind things like age, affection style, romantic expression, and to address any trauma that could possibly be an impediment to understanding feelings or processing them in a healthy way. Likewise, if one or both of you are on the spectrum, picking up on feelings and how things are 'supposed' to be can be especially difficult without very explicit and direct communication. I hope this helps!
First of all, i hope you are okay. Getting such a response from the person you love can be heart wrenching. I hate to be honest but i think he is not in love anymore. I know it's hard to accept the fact but given time it will gradually sink in. Please remember that you are a wonderful person and his feelings for you does not shape or determine your life. He is probably finding it hard to tell you the truth so he is beating around the bush. But you need to move on because hanging there waiting for him to say what you want to hear may not happen ever. You will only end up draining yourself emotionally. Life is beautiful and it has a lot to offer. Just believe in yourself and love yourself first.
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