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I am a girl who is romantically attracted to my boyfriend but not physically. What do I do?

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Last Updated: 11/09/2020 at 9:11pm
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Pumpkin74
July 10th, 2018 2:53am
Wow! That must be hard situation. Remind yourself why you are his girlfriend. Did he change? Has this always been an issue for you? Part of being in a romantic relationship is being physically attracted to who you are with so making a decision as to whether or not this is something you can live with is a decision that should be made since your boyfriends feelings are also at stake. No one can tell you what to do but you can surely sort through your feelings and issues by talking them out, writing them down and discerning. It is good to see you take your relationship seriously and I hope you find peace with this!
Kessie92
August 14th, 2018 9:49am
Take in what you like about him hun. Learn what makes you happy in a relationship but don't feel you have to be bound or comitted to it in any way. He may be amazing in every way but it is still early days and unfortunately when the original spark is gone how will you ultimately feel?
Anonymous
November 9th, 2020 9:11pm
Talk with your boyfriend about these feelings you are having. He might be feeling the same thing and if you discuss it, there may be a solution. If not always do the best thing for yourself. Physical attraction is not the main part of a relationship. There are many other parts of attraction that play into a relationship. In every situation put yourself and your needs first. Talk with a listener as much as you need to ensure you put yourself first. Love takes time and is different for each and every person. Remember your story is different from everyone elses.