How do you know if you're in an emotionally abusive relationship and not just sensitive?
heyitsbrae
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Nov 15, 2016
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Emotional abusive and sensitivity are two very different things. Emotional abuse is a type of abuse (often involved with physical abuse) in which a partner, friend, parent or someone close to you uses verbal assault, fear/threats or humiliation to undermine your self-esteem and self-worth or to make you feel afraid. Emotional abuse can include humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing, ect. Ask yourself:
Does this person make fun of you or put you down in front of others?
If you get upset by this, do they tell you that it's "just a joke"?
Do they tell you your opinions, feelings or beliefs are wrong?
Do you feel you must “get permission†before going somewhere or before making even small decisions?
Do they control your spending?
Do they treat you as though you are inferior to them?
Do they make you feel as though they are always right?
Do they remind you of your shortcomings?
Do they belittle your accomplishments, your aspirations, your plans or even who you are?
Do they give disapproving, dismissive, contemptuous, or condescending looks, comments, and behavior?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, most likely, you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. In relationships, it is very hard to be too sensitive. If someone says something that is hurting your feelings, you have the right to be upset by it if it upsets you. Now, someone saying something off-handed once or twice, not emotional abuse. However, if this continues, yes, it is emotional abuse. Take care of yourself please, I hope you are doing okay.
Anonymous
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Nov 14, 2016
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This is a question i have asked my self several times before.
Personally I feel like if i was being 'too sensitive', i would just be sad, but the thought of abuse would never have crossed my mind. Based solely on that I realised that my boundaries for what was OK and was not was being pushed and I need to set the limit before things got out of hand.
Truth is an 'emotionally abusive' relationship means different things for different people. I come from a multi-cultural background; where growing up my mother and father would yell all kinds of things to each other that if a partner does that to me i would see it as abuse, but it was completely normal for their culture and where they grew up. My mother tho just sees me as 'too sensitive'. I think you should think about what you think is OK, and take it from there and never let anyone treat you any different.
Remember you set the boundaries.
Nonsumqualiseram
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Apr 5, 2019
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You’ll find yourself protecting your abuser when talking about them, and you’ll see the concern in other peoples faces. You’ll constantly feel like you should be running or hiding or be doing more for them even though you’re constantly drained. When they come home, you’ll quickly make it look like you were taking care of laundry or cleaning or something to keep them from thinking less of you. You might be more reserved when you’re out with them, than when you are alone, as if you’re somehow not allowed to speak unless they deem it ok. They may never directly chastise or hurt you for infractions right away, but in the back of your mind, when you have done something to offend them, you’ll start to feel panicky or scared. You might not notice fully but start paying attention to what you feel; your body knows that something is not right, even if your mind is not yet aware.
Musiclife9
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Nov 30, 2016
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If the person says hurtful things on a regular basis and you find yourself feeling awful about yourself often, you are probably in an emotionally abusive relationship. A lot of times emotionally abusive people tag their victims as "too sensitive" and they tell you that's what you are when you get upset. I think personally, if you have to ask, you probably are in an emotionally abusive relationship. Having been there, I can only say, run quick. No one deserves to be treated with anything but respect and if you find yourself feeling badly, this probably is not the right person for you.
Ponderwillow
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Feb 6, 2017
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Simply put, I would say that if you feel unsafe, begin to censor yourself, or retreat from other meaningful friendships/relationships because of the way another person treats you this relationship is unhealthy and should be avoided.
cristiana33
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Nov 20, 2016
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There are no sensitive relationships. All relationships have ups and downs but to be sure you aren't in an emotionally abusive one you need to ask yourself how much respect do you get out of this one? How much do you feel like you can communicate your needs without feeling guilty for having any? How much freedom of speech and choice do you get out of it? That should help you ....
sunflower9412
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Feb 17, 2017
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loveisrespect.org is a great resource with some charts and quizzes to help you determine if your relationship is healthy, unhealthy, or abusive. They also have a live chat service where you can talk to a peer advocate about your relationship and they can answer questions and connect you to resources in your area if necessary. If you're suspicious that your relationship might be emotionally abusive, I would recommend checking there and reaching out! Good luck!
intellectualBeing3687
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Jul 28, 2017
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Is it making you question your worth and value? Does it impact your daily life (sleeping, eating, interacting with others)? Do you "rehearse" conversations in your head so you have answers already prepared before your SO says anything?
Speaking from experience... if you answered yes to any of those questions, it may be more than just you are sensitive. Because you love them you excuse what they do and assume the problem must be you. For you to have the courage to ask this question means you are finding strength to question your situation and I urge you to continue on that path. You are special and important. No one should ever make you feel less than what you are.
LisaMeighanMScGMBPsS
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Nov 19, 2016
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Emotional abuse can be anything that seeks to manipulate a person emotionally.. an individual who is emotionally abusive may withhold affection, they could deliberately try to make you feel inferior and another common trait is playing the victim and turning the situation all around. So, whilst all of the above is emotional abuse it is going to make you feel sensitive and vulnerable so it is hard to draw the line. I think it is acceptable for an individual to point out our imperfections however when it is imbalanced and unfair is when the blurry line starts to fade and it moves over to emotional abuse. Perhaps journalling the situation may help you see it more clearly? Lisa
calmZebra60
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Feb 15, 2017
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There's a few characteristics. Now this is more textbook example, but these things exist to one degree or another in most emotional abuse situations. Oftentimes the abuser started off very endearing, charming; maybe they even seemed to act as if you were everything despite only knowing you for a short time. But after a while, small put-downs start to occur. 'are you really wearing that?' 'should you eat that?' 'I'm only doing this because i love you'
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