How do I pull the plug on a toxic friendship after trying everything to save it?

It can be so difficult to pull the plug on a friendship that has become toxic, because you can still see the friend you had once, even if they don't seem to see you as you are: instead, it feels like you have become an instrument, rather than a person for them, a prop used in their attempt at balancing their life. I felt sadness and some guilt each time, the guilt being about being unable to find a solution to restore a healthy friendship. But I felt some relief as well: in a toxic friendship, you are constantly tossed between different roles you have not chosen: victim, perpetrator, rescuer, child, parent, but never yourself. I have learned to voice my distress honestly to the person first (it took me a while and growing some confidence about what I can and can't offer to others) then move away without anger but firmly: what the person says they need from me is something I cannot give them. Maybe one day they will figure it out, but within the relationship there is too little chance they will.

Toxic friendship can be a very detrimental thing in our lives so it is important that we end it. The question in how to pull the plug? I believe friendship is not something like a switch which can be pulled. I think that process should be gradual and graceful. Something like it feels that you are naturally drifting apart. For example reduce the time you give to that friend.

Losing a friendship, even a toxic one, is a serious loss. It sounds like you tried very hard to save the relationship. I really feel for you! I think the first step is taking some time to write down your thoughts and make sure you are considering all sides. Once you are sure the relationship was toxic and that you are done, you know what you need to do. If it is safe for you, reach out and let the person know you will no longer be in contact or respond their messages or calls. Alternatively, you may decide to block them. The final step is stay firm and hold on to your boundaries. You may reach out to a support network like friends or 7 Cups to maintain your distance. Best of luck!

I just recently got out of a toxic relationship and it is one of the hardest things to do. Especially if you lack self-control which I did. You just have to talk to your partner about why you are ending it and reassure them that you want it to be over. Reassure them that there is no going back and no "I'll fix it this time". Keep your head up, strong, and confident. Make sure they are getting the message loud and clear and don't fall into a trap that they will change. Cut all ties with them after and focus on your friends, family, and career.

Relationships are hard for everyone, even with your best friends or significant others. What’s going on with your situation. How have you tried to get away from this friend, pull back, or pretend to be busy- what tactics or pretenses have you tried? Oh, and what have her responses been? If you feel comfortable in telling me, What way is this certain friend toxic? Are people around you noticing this for example family or friends or teachers? You might want to consider that some people are stubborn and set in their own ways. How would you describe her behavior.