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Best way to get over a break up?

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Best way to get over a break up?
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Immortalsoul
November 26th, 2015 11:02pm
Hang out with friends, write down bad feelings into a book and burn it, change your appearance for the better to make yourself feel good, bounce back like a tiger!
Varee
May 10th, 2016 4:04pm
It's a bit of a combination in my opinion: recovering fully plus stepping into the next bit of our life. On the one hand, we need to grieve over the relationship - even if we ended it. We need to allow the right amount of time for our situation, however long or short that is. So we need to cry, rant, talk, and so on. We need to take it easy, look after ourselves, get extra sleep, - and let others look after us too. Perhaps we decide to talk about the relationship with a professional. And then there comes a time it would help us to start easing back into life. Start simple: go for a coffee with friends, walk the dog, spend some time on a craft project. Do one thing a week that you love doing, or used to love doing. (Sometimes in a relationship, we forget who we are, and always do what our partner wants) If people are pressuring you to "move on", "meet someone new", and so on, they might mean well, but only you know what's right for you. Ensure you are balancing grieving, healing, and moving on.
slowTime
October 31st, 2015 1:28am
Time is the best that helps :) It's good to remember that you are an individual person and you are responsible for your own life. You had good times and bad times, keep the good times in your memory and do things that make you happy. What do you enjoy doing?
Kayla1313
October 29th, 2015 5:55am
I'm a fan of chick flicks and ice cream. But to be serious, time will help. Break ups are hard, but over time things get better and you'll find someone new.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2020 7:40am
Take the time to reconnect with yourself. Immerse yourself in some of your favorite pastimes and hobbies. Is there anything that you really love to do that maybe you didn't have much time for while you were in a relationship? Now would be the perfect time to rediscover some of those things! The most important thing to do is to be kind to yourself. The feelings you are having right now are perfectly valid, and it's ok to be sad. In my personal experience, time will help to heal you, and you will slowly but surely adjust to your new normal.
chlowii
April 9th, 2018 9:11am
Breakups are never easy. People manage differently. Being around friends and family are important and music for me too.
WeirdAl8
March 5th, 2018 12:33pm
Give yourself some space, hang out with your friends, but then get back into business. Try try try again!
Anonymous
November 13th, 2017 4:25pm
By trying to distract myself woukd be the best solution gor me. Avoid anything triggering to the ex partner, whether it be hobbies, tv shows, games, ect.
AlanRY
August 9th, 2016 10:05pm
As counter intuitive as it may sound: feel the pain, and once in pain take 2 steps. One, recall things you resent and -in imagination- reveal them to him/her, get them off your chest. Two, once that is done, proceed to express gratitude for all the good times. Close this chapter by saying goodbye. Watch your relationship sail away... and that's that. Mourn as necessary when needed. I cried a lot.
XUndividedAttention22
August 2nd, 2016 3:03am
Surround yourself with family and friends who arent friends with the person you were just with and try your best to have fun
JustGeno11
November 5th, 2015 9:55pm
Go through the pain, grieve, and dont run. Surround yourself with people you love, friends family, confide in someone close to you. make friends and get out into the world. The best advice was given to me by my uncle, he said now you have to do "you" you have to focus on yourself and better your life. That stuck with me, i had forgotten how to be by myself, how to be just geno, and now i am starting to figure it out. Im not going to tell you it gets easier... but you get better. You are strong, you are beautiful and you are everything you need to be. It didnt work out because it wasnt supposed to. Your future is waiting for you, now go find it
Greatlistener87
November 6th, 2015 1:50am
I believe in a breakup you have to take it 1 step at a time. Firstly try not being to close with your ex cause that will only cause more confusions, Secondly try filling your time doing other things like sports or going out with friends things like that, Thirdly always give yourself room to heal if you have to cry then do it. Lastly never hold on it only makes you feel worst.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2015 5:45pm
Talking about it helps, but mainly it's up to you to understand why the relationship ended, and find healthy closure.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2015 5:04pm
Be excited about the new and better person you will be with next! life is too short to be sad, life is exciting.
silverButterfly86
July 19th, 2016 3:23am
The best way to get over a break is to reconnect with yourself. Spend time with friends or family, treat yourself to a nice meal at home or at one of your favourite restaurants.
Iwillhelpyouasahero
November 8th, 2015 12:22pm
Try and ask him to see if he'll go out with you again or ask someone else too (if it doesn't work)
GeorgeIkon
November 11th, 2015 11:48am
Accept that it happened. Look for the positives from you gained. Identify where you failed. Move on. Don't try to stop thinking about. Choose to stop thinking about it. It's much easier.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2015 1:38am
In my experience what helps is getting into new relationships, they don't have to be relationships with romance involved, but for haps the best way of getting over break ups is moving on.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 6:55am
Look at your family. Make them smile. Go out with your friends and know your worth. Do whatever pleases you
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 5:50pm
The best way to get over a break up is to take the time that's needed, not to rush, accept the feelings going through the mind and body. Do something you enjoy, but take time to listen to yourself and work with your emotions. A good way to do that, is to talk with someone you trust. That's my experience of getting over a break up.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 1:54am
The best way to get over a break up is to go do things that you enjoy. Spend time with your friends.
peacefulBlossom75
November 28th, 2015 2:46am
Accept that the relationship was no longer good for either of you involved and that is okay. Since it wasn't good for either of you it was necessary at this point for both of you to move on and heal and I think the healing process begins there.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 10:26pm
Occupy yourself and start a project, painting or diy, anything, and don't let yourself dwell on what had been or what you wanted from it. Time will heal, always.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 8:16am
First of all dont think that it will be easy ... n have patience it gonna take some time ... u may be feel sad .... lonely .... ignored .... but it will be over .. n dont try think all about .... just make urself a litlle busy ....with any hobby .... so ur work .... give ur self time ..... always remember they are not right for u thts why u have a break up ..... always be positive take ur break up as in good way n take fresh start ....
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 3:46am
Best way to get over a breakup depends on the type of breakup and what you like to do. Personally I think ice cream movies pizza and being surrounded by people who are there for you is a great way to get over a breakup
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 3:21am
I'd say the best way to get over a break up is to move on. Find new men/women. There are plenty of fish in the sea! :D
bubblegumSunshine34
November 22nd, 2015 12:08pm
Think of your breakup as a learning experience in life that you can refer back to when in future relationships. Appreciate the time you have spent with that individual and realize that like time people lapse as well. Hope for the best for both yourself and them in order to move on despite what you or that person has contributed to the relationship. It is important to remember that a relationship involves two parties with two very different ideals and if those ideals complement each other then the relationship will grow and progress. If they fail to complement each other this will eventually lead to a separation of ideals which will lead to a breakup. You can only move forward with forgiveness.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 10:35am
The best way to get over a break up is to talk to a friend or family member and to go out and have fun, so you can distract yourself and be happy instead of thinking about the break up.
Anonymous
January 19th, 2016 8:02pm
best way to get over a break up is to do you. worry bout yourself and where you need to be in life. also try to stay away from the person as well
ashtonlucker
December 6th, 2015 9:10pm
Honestly, the best way to get over a break-up is to just give it time. Make new friends, explore things with other people. You could also get therapy for a break-up because some people are seriously affected by stuff like that.