Why do I always feel sad about other peoples problems?
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Anonymous
May 31st, 2015 5:16pm
If you're a naturally empathetic and thoughtful person, it is very easy to internalise others' pain and suffering, especially that of those whom you care about. This trait shows that you are a very special and caring person, but taking on too much of their burden might mean that you end up feeling more tired than usual, that you cry more often or that you feel overwhelmed by your daily life. To counter this, remember that you can only help others if you first take care of yourself.
Empathy. Depending on what you've been through, you may be feeling sad because you don't want people to go through what you have. You may also feel sad about other peoples problems because you can't even begin to imagine what it must be like to be in their situation. Some peoples problems are so sad that you may feel like you wish you could help.
Anonymous
February 6th, 2018 3:58am
Congratulations! You're a beautiful soul. Only angels feel that. It is because, you have a big and good heart. According to some theories, people who feel sad for others are more capable to help them.
I think that a component of good listening is empathy. However, for some people, that empathy can become so strong that they might take on other people's problems as their own and become sad. I think a healthy way of listening is to share your empathy with the other person, while maintaining that their problems are their own. As a listener, our job is to help the other person solve their problems within themselves with their own strength and ability.
its most likely because you are going through it yourself and you know how awful they are feeling and you feel bad because you dont want anyone else feeling that way
because you are an empathetic person :) you care about other people a lot and really don't wish for them to feel emotionally down or sad. but you have to be careful, caring for someone else's problems to a high extent (If you are feeling too much of someone else's pain) and its effecting your daily life, then it need to be taken care of. You must learn to love yourself first. you should care for others but not to an extent where you are not looking after yourself.
You are actually sad about yourself and not about other people's problems. Take a look at yourself and your suffering. Good luck.
You are very empathetic. It's both a gift and curse. You feel other people's pain which can cause you distress, but it means you can give other people a voice. You can let them know that you've seen and understood their pain.
To be in pain, and have no one understand is an awful and lonely thing. You can help to stop people feeling that. It's why I'm a listener :)
That's just human, pal. It's the feeling of empathy, where you put yourself into other people's shoes. I worry about my friends' problems as well, and feel sad if I cannot help them sometimes.
It's a good thing that you feel sympathetic towards other people. It means that you are a very caring person, and really want to help them.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2015 12:07pm
Because you care for them. You don't want them to feel sad. You wanted to lighten them up. You put yourself to their situation.
Human nature, my friend. Empathy is a big part of people's lives, and it happens all the time. It's part of who you are, and it's not something you should try to force yourself to stop feeling. Apathy is the other side of it, when a person feels no emotion for anyone going through tough things. Either is human, or an in between. All of them are completely normal, but sometimes to a certain extend it can be unhealthy. I'd just try to keep a good balance, if you can.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 6:00pm
YOU CARE ALOT ! ITHINK ITS SWEET BUT ALSO DONT FORGET TO CARE ABOUT YOURSELF !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe its because you care a lot for others and thats a good quality. Its just that don't let it affect you to much since everyone is responsible for their own happiness. You are only responsible for your own happiness as others are for their own.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2017 12:37pm
It always depends.. Sometimes you see yourself in them, sometimes it's just hard to accept when you love the person - but the truth is because you're compassionate, Emotional. You have a heart, and it's something people really need these days. Don't worry about it.. Try to help them in any way you can, a simple hug can mean a whole world to them. Or join the listeners, we're here to help people without getting anything in return and we love it. :)
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 2:41pm
Because you're a kind hearted wonderful soul that is filled with empathy. Don't feel bad for having empathy, it's a good quality to have.
Feeling sad about other peoples problems means that you are an empathetic and caring person. It is okay to feel an emotional connection to what others are experiencing, as long as you separate those experiences from your own.
Caring people show empathy and emotion because they have big hearts just don't forget about yourself
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 5:22am
Because you sympathize knowing you have either gone through this and you may wish to help them too.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 7:50am
You are a a word I learnt recently from a conversation on this site. You are an empath. You feel sad about peoples problems because you are very compassionate.
It's called empathy! and it's a good thing most of the time. It helps you relate to other people. But just don't let it get out of hand so that it starts to impact your daily mood and function. Remember to take care of yourself first so that you can take care of others.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2020 1:27am
Being able to experience emotions for other people's problems shows that you have high levels of empathy and compassion. You genuinely feel what they are going through even though it is not your own personal experience. This means that you care for the person and want to help them in some way. While this might seem counterproductive, being able to feel other people's emotions is a powerful skill that will help you reach out to others and better understand them. It is also completely normal to feel this way since there are many other people who also experience sadness when hearing about others' struggles.
It is sympathy, where you feel like your in their shoes. It helps you to relate to the person. Without feeling that way, you might not know how to help people in need.
This is called empathy. It is a perfectly normal human emotion that those around you probably appreciate greatly. The response to these feeling that I would recommend is to simply be a good friend to them, and help them feel better.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 12:31pm
You feel sad about other peoples problems because you have empathy for that person whether you know them or not. Its a bodies natural reaction to feel bad for someone who is having a problem.
because i attach myself to others problem... to solve it be deattached an can come to right solution
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