Why can I never accept that I deserve to be happy as well?
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Last Updated: 09/19/2016 at 4:41am
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Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst
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I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.
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Anonymous
February 1st, 2015 2:23am
I have often found it difficult to accept that I deserve happiness because I prioritise other people's happiness, wellbeing or even just their comfort. Because I am afraid to hurt other people's feelings, I can end up ignoring my own. My difficulties in accepting that I deserve to be happy as well are thus, in practice, often linked to my anxieties about confrontation. Actually, I think I am deserving of happiness, but I am scared of what I would have to do to get it. You are deserving of happiness. Look to see what it is that is making you unhappy.
i think this way, mainly because i'm so used to making others happy i forget about myself, a lot. or for traumatic events, i feel as if it had happened so i don't deserve to be happy, just because it happened, if it was something very heavy.
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 6:39pm
I think it is a human Thing. We think about us worse than about everyone else. We think that we are worthless and that we are not cute or loveable. And Society tells us that loveable and cute = being loved = happy.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 9:04am
When we have had bad in our past, we start to get this mind set that this is what we deserve and until this thought process is changed and you realize you deserve better then in turn realize you deserve to be happy.
Sometimes it is hard to find the worth in ourselves because we do not have a clear view of ourselves. It's okay to be unhappy, but it's important to work towards becoming happy. People make mistakes and that's okay, it doesn't make you a failure.
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