How can I stop being insecure?

Some insecurity is natural, but for some, it can be too frequent, too intense. The natural varieties of insecurity arise in life situations which we are unprepared to deal with. We all face these sometimes. Maybe it’s public speaking, or some other occasional stressor. These can be dealt with by study, preparation, rehearsal, venting (on 7 cups!), etc; however, unhealthy insecurity is more persistent. It floods relationships and projects, thwarting need-fulfillment, and is sometimes called low self-esteem. I’ve lived with this for decades, and with help from a friend, I’m managing it. Here’s what works for me: Close your eyes. Find that child-self from the past, of whom you're most ashamed. Go over and embrace him, saying "You’re okay. You were just a little boy, doing the best you knew how.” Insecurity can be a signal of reticent self-hatred, it takes energy to maintain that! Acceptance of the reality that you qualify for as much love as the next person, can free up all that energy, which you can use for extending attention outside of the wounded self-concept; for kindness or simply attention to close family, academic cohorts, professional connections or others. My watchword: "Charity starts at home." Insecurity of course has its fertilizing effect of pushing people to achieve to “prove themselves”. So, in overcoming it, we then have to find new strategies for motivation in getting things done. That is a discussion largely outside the scope of this entry, but a few questions are included to foster critical thinking: How does self-acceptance affect your job, hobby or artistic performance? Can you still achieve progressive goals without relying on social recognition as a barometer to measure your self-worth? What drives naturally secure people to achieve?

A little homework. Ask your 2-3 close friends to write 10 good things about you. Keep them with you . This is your self esteem folder. Know that everyone feels insecure. This vulnerablity makes us human. Avoid people who make you insecure. Surround yourself with supportive people. Know that 8nsecurity is invisible. no one sees yours because they are too busy with their own insecurities .

You can stop being insecure by getting up everyday and telling yourself you're beautiful. Take little time out everyday and remind yourself the good things about yourself and slowly but surely you will start loving yourself and you will become more confident in your skin

Well, like most things, it's a long process. But, positive self talk goes a long way! One thing I learned was to say four positive things every time you catch yourself saying/thinking something negative. This is hard, and it is hard to catch yourself thinking negatively sometimes, but particularly when you catch yourself thinking negatively about yourself, your situation, and how others may view you it can be a great tool to stop and tell yourself four good things. Bonus points if they are positive things about yourself or your situation. :)

You can start to accept yourself for who you are - insecurities, flaws, failures, and the good stuff. We all have insecurities to a degree. We can't let them overshadow our entire identity though. It's can be hard work, but it's totally worth it. Loving and caring for yourself is a prerequisite to a wonderful joyous life.

Never ask for anyone's approval of yourself. Do not question your traits and do not compare it with others. Understand that we are all different in many ways and those many ways, you find your own beauty. There is no fat, skinny, tall, short, pretty, ugly, smooth-skinned, freckled face, white, brown, or black in confidence. All you got to have is the REAL you to gain confidence... and live it.

You can look in the mirror, look at yourself and tell yourself that you are an amazing and bautiful person. If you stare long enough, you will always be able to find some sort of imperfection; nobody's perfect. but, trust me on this when I say that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE is perfectly imperfect. Sometimes, your flaws are what people love about you. Just keep that in mind.

build up your own self esteem with doing things that make yourself feel good both inside and out and hobbies interests or find a counselor that help you with your self esteem and self worth

Love yourself first before you think about what anyone thinks. You feel great if you enjoy everything about you & only you can judge yourself.

Part of that is coming to accept who you are. Learn to understand that life isn't about being the "best" at anything; rather, it's about being the best you can be.

It's not something you can do overnight. It comes from within. Your insecurities come from the way you see yourself and how you allow others to control that as well. Pick one thing you like about yourself and work from there. Then pick all the things you want to change about yourself and tackle the more reasonable fixable ones. Once you learn to love yourself and realize what an amazing person you are you'll be ok. Those little imperfections make you who you are. You are amazing. Never forget that

Work on ways to improve your self confidence ? For example, focus on your positive traits and remind yourself of the good things that you accomplished today or did for others? Think about your strengths,and accept your flaws. Nobody is perfect, after all.

Fake it till you make it. I didn't think that was possible before I tried it out for myself. Try to see the best in yourself and don't be afraid to show it. It might be hard at first, but after a while you'll start feeling much better about yourself, trust me. :)

Insecurity, nervousness and anxiety may have a number of different reasons, from purely psychological to psychosomatic to purely somatic, just as with depression. A good start is to look at what situations make you insecure and also take a closer look at how you think and interpret those situations, and which feelings are then generated. Take a note of the steps involved and look at each one, and reflect on the thoughts and behaviour that follow to see if you can change something.

Self-confidence is key. Pick out the things you like about yourself, and then look at the stuff you don't like. Find ways to improve those things, and you're good. Most importantly, make yourself happy.

insecurity arises when there is lack of awareness...insecurity is beautiful because insecurity is life...trying to make things permanent in this temporary world is a waste act...enjoy the beauty and adventure of life...!

Be yourself do not care what people think do what you want wear what you want eat what you want because in the end doesn't matter what you say or do people in this world will always judge it's the sad reality. Be confident within yourself do what you feel is right don't ask anyone's opinions just live life and be free :)

Sometimes forcing yourself to attend events can result in greater self-confidence. Saying 'yes' to all opportunities that cross your path is a fantastic way to help yourself grow. It's a hard and lengthy process, but change is never easy anyway.

Insecurity is tough to defeat, especially when you've grown up with the idea to always seek for the approval of others before you approve it yourself. We got used to be dependent on others' point of view and base so many of our contentment and self-acceptance on what society would think, which by the way consists mostly of strangers, people who we don't know and people who don't know us back, but somehow we convince ourselves that it matters what they will say. You cant easily brush off insecurity. You deal with it. You're going to have to take some hits along the way, but only to come out of it stronger and a new person. Insecurities makes us feel ashamed of what others may call 'flaws'. But these are features that make up who we are. and we shouldn't be ashamed of it at all. Our features are a part of us. Something we should accept. Being kind to ourselves is important also. The key to battling insecurities, is acceptance, dealing with the truth, the facts, facing it head on. Accept yourself. Deal with it. Remember that you don't have to wait for anyone to love and accept you, before you do the same for yourself. Be patient with yourself. Let yourself grow.

Start taking small action steps. Start feeling the fear and doing it anyway in small things. Ask for help and strength from you higher power (who or whatever that may be). Taking action is the first step in starting to live in a state of power. And begin a practice of confronting everything. Don't put anything on hold. Confront everything as it comes no matter how insecure you feel. Start by taking the 24 hour confrontation challenge and see how far it goes. I have found when I make change something fun it takes a lot of the immobilizing fear away.

Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you’re beautiful. At first you might have to make yourself do this but if you do this daily you will start to notice that your self esteem is improving.

Stop letting yourself believe you're not worth anything. Even if you have to force yourself to say it, say, "people love me because I'm awesome". It probably won't work the first time, or the second time, or the third time, but the more and more you say things like that to yourself, the more your brain starts to believe it. Say nice things about your body. Think nice things about how you act. Try to say (or think) one thing you love about yourself before you go to school or work each morning. The more to appreciate who you are, the less insecure you'll be.

First identify what makes you feel this way, be sure about the cause... right the things that make you feel vulnerable, And then work on coping it. If its someone who makes you feel that way, if possible stay away or avoid. tell them which of their habit makes you feel this way. On a personal level, make small changes.Involve in some activities, write good things, keep a journal or anything that makes you feel good. Remember, no one can make u secure or insecure, it's us letting. It happens to me too. I try to do everything I shared. Sometimes it works and sometime it doesnt. So its ok. If it feels like a burden, reach out for help. I hope you feel stronger soon.

Insecurity only leads to more issues emotionally. Always remember that no one can make you feel insecure but yourself. If you are confident and secure you will see that the energy around you change to be positive. Even the people around you will be more positive.

just believe in yourself. you are totally worth it. i have been really self conscious however by time i learned that i shouldnt really because everyone is beautiful.. everynight before you sleep just say one sentence that makes you feel good and it will help boost your self esteem. lastly dont focus yor self esteem on other peoples opinion

Everyone is not perfect, and what they do is the best they can do. Just like you. You do the best you can.

By doing things that will make you feel good and improve your self-esteem. Also try changing the way you think about thing [Watch the video on Automatic thoughts].

Learn that flaws make you unique and human. If you're insecure about anything, know that everyone has insecurities and they're normal. The only way to keep them out of your head is to try and embrace them.

When anyone be insecure, tell him/her that I am always with him/her. if insecure to other reason, I tell him/her that you should contact with police or any law person. otherwise contact them via 7cups.com.

It helps to look acknowledge the things that you're good at and the things that you like about yourself. What helps even more is acknowledging the fact that you are insecure of something about yourself--that way, you'll be able to act on it and make an effort to overcome your insecurities. Talk to someone close to you, someone you trust about your insecurities so you can have an idea of how others see you, and also so they can help you overcome your insecurities. You are a beautiful person! Believe that you are. :)