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How can I stop being depressed when everyone is being so distant and ignoring me?

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Profile: Cole6
Cole6
June 23rd, 2015 8:01pm
I see, you sound very sad and lonely considering you feel your friends are being so distant. If you ever need advice on dealing with depression I can refer you to a link to the self help guide for depression. :)
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 3:32am
I have at times felt sad when no one seems to care. It made me feel isolated and alone. Its hard and scary
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 12:14am
You can stop being depressed when everyone is being distant with you by doing thing for yourself.. Stop being what they want to see and start being who you want to be. Try new things that will make YOU happy and a better person like going for a walk, try playing instrument, art, dance whatever makes you feel yourself and free ❤❤❤
Anonymous
February 10th, 2015 1:04am
That is a very difficult question, sometimes you just need to find someone, even a person you don't know, that will be over the top talkative, that way, you don't need to do any of the talking. Sometimes socializing when extremely depressed can make you feel exhausted. Maybe instead try to do something nice for yourself until your mood gets up, and then you can socialized
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2018 3:23am
Find something inside yourself that brings you great feelings of satisfaction and enjoyment. Something that lifts you up for the sake of it, regardless of what anyone else thinks of it. You will be able to carry that with you always. It could be a hobby, or charity, or anything else, but the root of your happiness will then come from within yourself. It will still hurt for others to be distant but at least those people will not be your sole source of happiness.
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Heavenlymade
May 27th, 2015 12:14pm
Dear Stay Positive and read books that motivate you. Sometimes we also need to clear what everybody dislikes in us. so stay positive and learn the things that make you clever and sharp.
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PaloP
January 5th, 2016 10:05am
Think that if everybody is distant, maybe is for your attitude at them. Maybe, you want to act like a strong person, but this could be the reason for the rest to not talk to you. You could try to talk to the people in a kind way, so they would be more confident about you.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 4:26am
Find happiness in yourself. When you are happy with yourself and happy on your own, you will be happy in your relationships no matter how distant or small they are. Try and find support through other means such as 7 Cups, pen pals or joining clubs
Profile: Aneesh
Aneesh
July 18th, 2016 7:06am
Know that there are 7 cups listeners here.. so not ALL are distant and ignoring you. Come and meet us here.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 12:33pm
I usually find being close to someone else in need easies a bit my own sadness
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 11:34pm
That's a tough one because what you might need to do is step out of your comfort zone and approach others to initiate some social interaction. But this is hard to do when we are depressed - we lack motivation, especially when we are feeling low, to do anything that might help us to feel better. Being around trusted others is definitely a good way to lift our spirits, so rather than wait for them to come to us, we might have to be the ones, low or not, to have to make the first move. Often, those trusted others do not know we are down no matter how obvious we think it "should" be to them. So let's do what we can to let them know, to let them in. The effort is well worth the struggle it takes us to put forth such effort when we are depressed - give it a shot!
Anonymous
March 6th, 2018 1:13am
If people are ignoring you especially friends and family member than you can look for a counselor, principal or a teacher after school or before class to help support you and seek help as well.
Profile: HopeBehindtheVeil23
HopeBehindtheVeil23
August 19th, 2015 8:11am
This feeling that everyone is being distant and ignoring you can often be a reflection of their state or even yours. Sometimes people are too wrapped up in their stuff to notice things around them. That doesnt really mean you are at fault in any way. The other thing is, when you have been feeling consistently lonely, every act of supposed aloofness is taken personally. In order to not feel depressed about feeling disconnected, I would say do the exact opposite of what you feel - Go out and try some things, meet new people via events. The more you get your mind away from these thoughts of rejection, the better it will be. If you have someone you trust and can confide into, do let them know that these feelings are coming up. You may be surprised that they may be feeling the same in general!
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HelpingOthersFirst
June 20th, 2017 12:23pm
This feeling is normal. I would suggest you try and find something that you like to do, for instance a hobby and focus on that and on yourself. This will shift your feelings to something more positive.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2017 7:25pm
It usually helps to talk to someone, at times the things that are depressing us, might just be in our minds.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2015 6:39pm
I usually just take a day where I focus on myself. I'll start a project, maybe buy some stuff anything really.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2020 1:54pm
Hi there, I know it must take up a lot of courage for you to step out and seek help. I have been in the same place as you are; my depression has trapped me for about ten years. But here I am, so the first thing I want to share with you is that things will eventually get better. I didn't know what happened to you, so that would be inappropriate for me to give you any advice in detail. What I would suggest is try to talk to a listener here if you don't know who to talk to in real life. Talk to someone would always help. Hope you feeling well soon.