I feel like isolating myself, but deep inside I am very lonely. What do I do?

We feel like that sometimes because we want to know if someone cares. If someone will respond to our desperate calls for help one thing you should know is that before you expect someone to help you you should help yourself. You should be comfortable in your own skin. Then we would not be scared that no one will catch us if we fall. Your thoughts start to change and that positive outlook will attract positive people in you life. Just trust yourself that is all that matters. Learn to accept and love yourself for who you were, who you are and finally who you hope to become one day

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Life is about creating a balance. Sometimes it's good to be alone - when you just need space and time to yourself. Everybody has these times. But sometimes you need other people to lean on and give you support. It's always good to have friends and family to rely on, and if you ever feel like being alone, just say that!

I struggle with this often. The reason we often isolate ourselves is because we feel we don't fit in, or we don't vibe with the people around us.. but I find the best thing is pushing myself to get out there and find like minded people, people I can be my authentic self with.. don't hang out with the people who drain your energy or damper your self confidence.. take baby steps to put yourself out there, even if you just start with daily acts of self care and love that could help boost your confidence. Your tribe of people is out there. Push yourself to be proactive and you'll find your people. I promise its worth it. You're worth it.

you feel like isolating yourself, but deep inside you’re lonely. tell me more about why you feel lonely and isolating yourself. is this feeling of loneliness recent or have you dealt with the feeling for awhile now? are there any specific reasons why you feel the need to isolate yourself from others? has any drastic event happened recently that would result to you feeling this way? have you tried reaching out to your family or friends about these feelings ? do you only feel lonely at times or are there specific times where you feel the empact of loneliness effect you more?

You may consider finding and exploring what makes you feel lonely. You can find people you can connect with or find hobbies. If there is something in your way of doing so push yourself to do it anyways or work towards it. It is not always easy finding people you can connect with and it can take time. Be patient with yourself and understand you are not alone. Try joining a club you might be interested in or find volunteer options around you to get yourself out there. Or start by going out in nature, observing life that is not human. Appreciate all the other things on earth that make us a whole. All of these things helped me and I hope they will help you too!

I think reflect on why you want to isolate yourself. Finding the why first can help you decide how you feel about the why. Some possible reasons include: 1) if you isolate yourself willingly, then it makes you feel like you have control and therefore give you a comfort in that you feel like you can also choose to not isolate yourself if you wanted to. 2) you are afraid of embarrassing yourself by attempting to be social and you’d rather play it safe by sticking alone. 3) You’ve had bad experiences in the past that sort of keep you from associating with people. There are more possible reasons, but these are just a few to get you started. I’ve had a similar situation, I know the confusion of loneliness. I hope you find clarity in your situation, or just find yourself in a better place in general soon!

What it seems obvious that you need to have something new in your life, something that changes the daily routine you're living every single day. To do that; you need to do something new that will make you feel like new and not lonely. Like for example you can : 1) Participate into a new activity. specially the one that involves people or a group work like painting, cooking, music....etc. 2) Workout and start hitting the gym or aerobics classes. 3) Volunteer for a charity work near you. Not only you'll help others, but also you'll have the opportunity to meet new people and to feel good about yourself.

You should try easing yourself into a positive friend group. They can care for you and make you feel loved. Another hard but important thing is to not push away your loved ones. They try to care for you and they will help you through this period of time that you are feeling. If you really don't feel like interaction, reading an exciting novel will loosen your heart and make you happy. You can also watch a film or do something that you enjoy. Take up a new hobby or write a short story. Remember, there are people out there who genuinely want to help you.

I feel like this sometimes, too. You want to be alone, but you don't want to be alone. Like there is no solution to this problem. Some ways you can start getting involved are: Online book clubs, such as some on Goodreads. Join a club at school, or the bare minimum, creating a group chat on your phone with a few close friends. You can set up accounts on Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook, etc., and make it about your fandom fanpage. And trust me, you can meet amazing people. If you are at School/Work, then make an effort to talk to at least one person a day. Ask your friends if they are doing anything this weekend. Sometimes, I feel this way when my family ties are loose. Try to patch those up if those bonds are that way. Love you and love yourself

If you're lonely, you can always talk to someone you trust about this issue. I understand how it feels to be lonely but at the same time, trying to isolate yourself. I did have this issue as well. But I talked it out to a friend I trusted, and then I feel much more better. When you feel that no one cares, you have to remember this, people DO care. There will always be people who love you, sincerely. Approach people when you need someone to talk to, because it's nothing to be ashamed of! Good luck, remember to smile today! ;)

]It really varies from person to person and thus better to discuss with someone who knows you a little better. That being said here are some suggestions that have helped many people. Firstly, many times just talking about it with someone can help. Here at 7 Cups of tea there are many active listeners to whom you can chat and share your feelings with them. Sometimes it's all you need. Another suggestion is to think about and ask yourself the following questions: 1. Why do I feel like isolating yourself? 2. What will I gain from isolating myself? 3. What can I do to change the way I feel? Sometimes discussing such thoughts with a friend or an active listener can help you even better. Another suggestion is find a social-cirlce with good friends. Many times being part of a healthy social circle or simply having good friends that you feel comfortable with can help quite a bit. But it can be hard to become comfortable with your social-circle or friends, especially when you don't have yet a good enough connection with them. Another suggestion, which is very recommended and has helped many people overcome loneliness, is to look for ways to help and be kind to others. This will help you in multiple ways. Firstly, when you think of helping or being kind to others you don't think so much about yourself and it is thus easier to overcome feelings of isolating yourself. Of course now you are also feeling much less lonely because you are with other people. Alas, by helping others and doing acts of kindness you are making the world a better place and perhaps you have also helped others feel less lonely along the way. In conclusion though, as mentioned at the beginning, it is best to discuss this subject with someone who knows you on a personal level and has enough experience to give you the right advice and guidance.

I’m currently going through something similar. At first I didn’t really have a way to cope or so I thought, and then I started writing it out. Why I feel lonely and all of the frustrations just came pouring out and helped me realize that I am lonely but that is what the unavoidable circumstances that I’m living under brings and came to peace with it. It sounds easy to say ; like deal with it. But with the busy lifestyle I’m leading, classes, therapy, living alone, exam pressure. I’m glad I came to peace with it because if I were to go through this again I would know how to get through it. Then I wouldn’t struggle as much.

Find your closest friend, or someone you feel you can trust with anything. You don't even need to talk with them. Being in the presence of another human being can definitely bring something out of you. Maybe a gut feeling, maybe a little voice in your head. Maybe pressure to start conversation with another. If you don't feel up to it, take a break. Hide yourself in your personal secret land for a while. Set goals. Like, today I shall interact with my neighbour! One tiny step, baby steps really. As long as you move forward, you can do it in your own way. Worm, wiggle, crawl, walk, soar. Any progress is better than none. But do ask yourself, why am I feeling lonely? Lack of friends? Low self esteem? Had a day that put you down in the dumps? It's gonna be tough, but with the human spirit, I'm sure you'll get somewhere. Or maybe you're not built for it. Introverts exist. Why though? A little feeling that spreads like wildfire, or creeping up your spine, telling you not to make that step? It's okay, it's a natural thing, everyone feels it, maybe on a passing occasion. Pour out your emotions maybe. Write a short story, paint, draw, listen to your favourite music. Maybe stay in that bundle of your paradise a little longer. Do remember to come out though. Loneliness and human being don't really go well together. It gnaws away at your heart and instills doubt. Don't let it get to you.

As I see it, the real need is to get closer to Yourself, to the Person, to Inner, to your Being. And that's the best choice you can do, when you are confused, or when you don't know anymore what to do, or when you feel empty, or when you feel out of love, or when you feel alienated, or when you achieved goals and you don't remember no worthy goal, or when you feel depressed (lack of worthy goals), or when you find your self angry or sad. So, as you can see, lots of moments when it's best to go deep inside, to "hear" new goals, new purposes, new interesting goals, new wants. That's actually the only practical way, to fill up again with "love" as i call it. Trying external surrogates (like everyone tries) (food, sex, drugs, etc) will only worsen the situation and will create only more emptiness. So, dive in trust, dive in that silence, that "nothing". Space is way harder than objects, hence way more "real". Don't listen to the fear of loneliness, or whatever other fears. They are just tricks to keep you away from Inner, from Your true natural purposes.

This is a very common feeling when you're depressed, you begin to isolate yourself from friends and even family. If you find that you're feeling lonely as well it can be very confusing, I would suggest taking small steps to start connecting with others again. You could start by chatting online, to one of the listeners here at 7cups so that you're reaching out without having to be physically near anyone. Once you start to open up and feel better you could have short periods of time with others, for example sharing a cup of tea with a friend but having a time limit on it so that it doesn't feel overwhelming. Then build from there until you are at a place that's comfortable for you

This is most likely a sign of social anxiety. Social Anxiety can influence your interactions with people, as well as the way you feel about talking and spending time with others. As humans, we naturally want to be around other people. We are social creatures. But social anxiety may cause a fear reaction with the thought of being around others, hence the want for isolation. The best thing you can do is seek professional support from a mental health provider, as they can provide therapy and medicine for this type of problem. This is best to be handled soon, as it can be detrimental in the long term.

It’s okay to want to be alone, but also want some level of social interaction. My energy levels for socialising get drained very quickly and I’m used to being on my own. But I have found that I can isolate myself too much. I’ve found that when I do this, small goals can help like aiming to talk to someone every day or contacting a friend at least once a week. I found that if I’m out of the habit of socialising I do it less and less. I find that having commitments also helps - if I need to meet up with someone at a particular time I’ll be there, so volunteering as helps in getting me out and about.

As an introvert, having down time is important. But when you are isolating yourself too much, you are getting yourself an unhealthy habit. Sticking with an unhealthy habit for too long and you get yourself an unhealthy lifestyle. When you feel lonely, going out to meet strangers is a great way to break the habit. As a side not: volunteering can be life-saving for little hermit crabs.I am talking from my own experience. I was a little hermit crab, who loved staying home and eating snacks too much. Up till university, I had the tendency to isolate myself. My family shamed me for not being social at all and not putting efforts into network. I got scared of other people and I had problem talking with people outside of my family. Even after university, I found it difficult to seek job opportunities and deal with interviews. Then I started to volunteer for different non-profit organizations. Along the way I have learnt to cope with interacting with strangers. I got less and less nervous when I am doing public speaking. I am glad that I took the first step even though I know I have a long way to go to become what I want to be. It is normal to be afraid when you are not in your comfort zone. There is a quote, saying "Everything you’ve ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear." I can't agree more. I encourage you to make some change everyday. One step at a time. One day when you look back, you will find out and be proud of how much you have achieved through small steps.

Try to be nice to yourself. Do little things that make you feel better. You have to take care of yourself before you can be the best for others and be there for them, you are the most important person in your life so take self care very seriously. I know it is hard to pull yourself out of the funk some times but you will come back to wanting to be around people again and feel like you want to be social again soon. It is an ebb and flow, everyone has low time and it makes the high times feel so much better!

Maybe you could try reaching out to some trusted friends or family. Let them know how you are feeling and think of a few ways they may be able to help you through this. For example, they could consider reaching out to you when it seems like you are starting to isolate yourself more. I have struggled with similar challenges in the past, and I found it really helpful to open up to one or two trusted friends who now reach out, just to check on me, when they haven't heard much from me in a few days. Perhaps something like this could help?

As cliché as it sounds, reaching out to people is usually what helps me the most when I'm feeling isolated. In order for it to be helpful however, you have to be honest about how you feel. Opening up is most difficult at the beginning. Trying to open up to somebody can often feel forced and unnatural. It helps to start off small. For example, just a few years ago when people asked me how I was doing I would always have the default answer of 'I'm good'. This was because I thought my problems would be a burden to others, or that they simply wouldn't care or couldn't help me. But in most cases this isn't true. It is true however that sometimes opening up is going to lead to some awkward conversations. And sometimes the person your talking to may not know the right thing to say or do but that's okay. The main benefit to opening up to others, at least for me, is that I was finally being honest. And this honesty made me feel more connected to others than I had been in years.

Hey there, I would say set little challenges. Like go outside for just 2 minutes. When you complete a challenge, reward your self, say well done or do something good for yourself. This will cause a positive spiral where you can keep doing small challenges. It doesn't matter how well or bad it went as long as you did it that's what you reward! I have done this myself to improve my social anxiety and it has been really effective for me and hopefully you too! Know that you can do it :) I hope this helps you, thank you :)

Developing self awareness helps navigate and understand what to do. How isolation affects you depends on your personal relationship with your own self and on the fact or trigger that caused the isolation. Sometimes isolation leads to self reflection and discovery, fostering productivity, creativity and individual progress. In many times it can also magnify feelings of frustration self doubt self destructive thought patterns, putting oneself in an endless viscous circle. To connect with others, you may use what helps you connect with yourself. Personal hobbies and interests groups or communities where this is shared and discussed help develop sense of belonging and boost self-confidence. It naturally puts one in a supportive environment that promotes individual growth.

Start to open yourself to others, tell the truth about your feeling to yourself, and don't hide anything. The way to not feel lonely inside is to connect with others and build relationship. When the way we life is wrong. We can feel lonely in the rest of our life. Don't to hard on yourself in every way, give yourself time to take a breath from the world. Do the good things, you can also to do meditation to help. When you feel isolating yourself, just do meditation, something good, or something that can make you not feel alone in this world.

I know exactly how that feels. Loneliness is something that's been with me my entire life and I always end up pushing people away and isolating myself even more, even though I know it's a trap. You have to force yourself out of that comfort zone of isolation and self-pity of "why no one truly likes me?". As uncomfortable as it is at first I usually send a message to a friend I haven't talked to in a while, just a "hey, how's it going?" if I feel like talking to them. Or write my loneliness out on a blog and share it to trusted people on facebook, hoping someone will notice and reach out - it's like broadcasting a call for help. Another option is signing up for some sort of social activity - signing up is the key here, because it feels like you commit to it, someone will expect you, and hold accountable for showing up to some extent. I never believe it will work, I expect to feel all alone among all those new people I'll meet, yet another situation where I don't belong, but the actual outcome is nearly as bad. Meeting new people and chatting about trivial things takes you mind off of that feeling of loneliness, at least temporarily. I know how insanely hard it is sometimes to resist that urge to isolate, but be aware of it, be aware that it's a trap, and search ways how to walk around it and not succumb :)

You reach out for help. You try not to isolate yourself because this can do more harm than good. Being lonely isn't a disease, it happens sometimes. Don't worry and tell your close ones about your feelings! It's important to walk daily, take some fresh air for the mind to function properly. It's important to do everything you can to get out of your comfort zone. I know it's hard, but you can manage it. If you don't have someone to support you, try making new friends, meeting new people. I met a lot of my friends at the gym for example.

I'm so sorry. I've felt that way so often. It's hard for me to express myself easily or trust others, so I wind up being silent in social situations or going on autopilot in conversations. To me, it feels like I've turned invisible to others and become a ghost or like there's a wall of glass between me and everyone else. What's helped me is remembering the times I have felt connected and not alone. What helps you feel connected and when have you not felt alone? Maybe you can start there to figure out what you can do next.

Although I can not give you direct advice on what to do as that’s not what my job is you can talk to me and we can try to look into why you feel this way. Everyone feels lonely sometimes and how you feel is valid. Do you feel like this all the time or does something trigger you feeling this way? If we look into that maybe we could find a cause in your life that creates the feeling that you have to isolate yourself and try to find a way that you can avoid that trigger. Does that sound like something you are comfortable discussing?

I would try and make sure that you have balance between isolated and alone time vs social time with friends and family. Try and get out every day and spend time with friends and family and be social so that you do no isolate yourself too much. However, also make time for yourself in the day, such as an hour of self time every day. You can use this self time to read, relax, get exercise, watch netflix, journal, nap, etc. This way you can create more of a balance and still have your self isolation time, but be able to get out and be social so you are not lonely.