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How can I be happy without friends and family?

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Last Updated: 12/18/2021 at 3:50am
How can I be happy without friends and family?
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TheBlackDragon
August 25th, 2017 4:39pm
People are social beings. If you don't have a family, that must have been hard on you, but on the other hand, it made you the person you are today. Friends are something you can always acquire. So, expanding your social circle is something positive, no doubt.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2017 4:34am
I have found that when you can't source some of your happiness from other people, you have to become pretty darned good at sourcing it from yourself. I've had to almost treat myself like a new and separate person. With a lot of thinking, I've learned about what kinds of things make me happy or sad or angry. I can choose to pursue some of those things. Sometimes being alone isn't ideal, but I like to see it as a time period in which I dedicate more resources to learning and improving myself.
Kittysnowy
May 18th, 2017 10:15am
It can be OK, you can be your own friend, you will be someone who know your mind clearly. Please do what you like and what you feel happy with, try to make your own feeling good with your own living, motivate yourself and try to think about things that make you happy and keep your hope of living happily..
AiTheZenNinja
March 8th, 2017 6:02am
You have yourself! This may sound weird but honestly you are the most important person in your life. Making new friends is easier than finding a family, but nothing is impossible! You be happy with yourself and the rest will become easier.
SkysIris
March 29th, 2017 8:17am
Understand you’re good enough all by yourself. You’re a valuable person, and you don’t need the approval of anyone else for that to be true. When you’re alone, remind yourself that it’s because you choose to be. It really is a choice. It’s very easy to find someone to spend time with, but when you have high standards for the people you allow into your life, you’re telling yourself that you’re better off by yourself than with someone who isn’t a great fit for you.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2021 11:48am
Great question, this was one I recently had to think about and my best advice from personal experience would be to set small goals which are achievable but also optimistic with a sense of achievement. By doing this you have something to work towards and therefore completing these goals will bring self satisfaction, joy and happiness. Trust me! Remember not to aim for anything over the top as this will bring dissatisfaction when you cannot achieve it. As well as, you can try talking to people online (remember your online safety however). I personally have met some amazing people online who always make me smile and you can too.
MissMonMon
August 20th, 2016 10:26am
Throughout life, friends and family come and go. It is important to fill your life with things that make you happy for yourself. Go out and do things that make you happy and give you a full life. Take a class, go exercise, get crafty, find a hobby or a specialist group. Friends can be found everywhere but know that you are in charge of making your own life as happy as you want it to be.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 10:03am
Most of the times happiness comes from within. Even when you're all alone in the world, if you enjoy your own company and are happy with yourself you'll be happy. But if you do want to find happiness with others, sometimes friends can be found in the most unexpected places; people can become family without having any blood relations with them. If you feel content in your own skin and if you're willing to give more to people than they can take away, you'll be happy.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2016 9:11am
Our real sense of happiness is derived from ourselves. Coming to love ourselves for who we are, and knowing our intrinsic worth as individuals amongst the many.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2016 7:38am
Enjoying our own presence is a big step into maturity. There is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. All you need is to identify where you stand and if you are ok to be without friends or family. There is no secret formula for hapiness. You should just find what is best for you. And if life forces you into a specific situation, just accept that and move on. In either way you are your own best friend.
Aishyu
September 11th, 2016 12:24pm
A good stroll in the morning, hearing birds chirp, sipping out the coffee from mug while sitting on the easy chair, is a pure bliss. We can find ourselves decluttering our mind and experiencing newness.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2016 8:11pm
Find other things that make you happy, lile a hobby or something you really like doing. Happiness can be found in many different things you just have to find a way to it.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2021 4:00am
It must be understood that none of us can live in isolation. We depend on friends and family on various occasions. We do love some of them to the point where their happiness becomes ours and vice versa. You can BE happy WITH them. There's only so much one can do when alone. But the problem starts when your happiness is their validation, their constant attention, their opinions, etc. Happiness is a state of the mind. Your life is as good as your thoughts. It's how you train yourself to think. Do the things that you enjoy doing on your own. There's a sense of tranquility that you attain when you do stuff that makes you happy alone, it's a kind of peacefulness like no other. This cannot be forced. Yet you can develop it with all the little steps you take. Find happiness with and within yourself, you'll be happy with others too.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2017 6:05am
The sun is shining. You woke up this morning. There are friends and family to be made everywhere, and 7 cups is a great way to connect.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 4:37pm
Do you live far away from them? Family and friends are important, no one can live without them. Everybody needs support. Try staying connected to them because they are the best gift you will ever receive.
nessa87
October 27th, 2016 3:06am
you create your own happiness. it is all up to you. change your mindset and you will change your life.
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
July 9th, 2021 6:57am
Human beings are social beings it is said, natural to feel the need to connect with fellow beings and derive company , comfort , love , affection, communication . But it is also a possiblity that when we are deprived of genuinely good connections we may feel alone and there comes the concept of self love and being self reliant for own happiness and peace . To be happy with oneself is the goal and now we can take small steps each time to reach closer to it, perhaps self introspection may help , assessing your needs , wants , what makes you feel comfortable and happy , what makes you keep going each day , spending more time with self, what do you enjoy doing alone the most. I have heard positive self affirmations are really helpful to people in reaching their goals and being closer to loving themselves, I find it helpful for myself as well . Know that it is more important to feel content within oneself and I hope you're able reach where you'd like to. Best wishes .
Anonymous
May 15th, 2019 8:08pm
You can be happy. But not truly happy. You'll still feel as if something is missing, or there's a void that needs to be filled. But guess what, you can be happy by doing nice things for yourself, like exercising, meditation, reading a nice novel. Going shopping, things like that. But being happy without friends and family, let's admit that's really hard, as we need the people around us that we care about the most, the ones that can support us and be there. Without them the world is a lonely place. So to answer your question, you can't be happy without friends and family.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2021 12:08pm
To be truly happy, the sense of happiness should arise within you. Self-love and self-care can prove to be beneficial in order to be happy. However, the happiness should not fade thinking you are away from friends and family. Because this thought can prove to be detrimental as it can result in many negative thoughts. Calmness can be found from within without the assistance of others. However it has to be so strong that it can be maintained even if others are not around you. To put it in simple words, happiness from within comes from knowing your self-worth without it being dependent on whether others are with you or not.
kindPanda75
April 17th, 2019 10:48pm
Getting out in nature, enjoy what you have close by, appreciate your local wildlife, there is nothing wrong with going for a coffee on your own and reading a paper for a hour. Go out for a ride on a bike and enjoy what you see, or just watch a film, there are some good ones out there from time to time, I love to get out and see what nature has to offer though, use a camera or phone and enjoy it all, we live on a small planet that is dying make the most of what you have got
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2019 8:46pm
Without friends and family, you need to love yourself. loving yourself is all that really matters. without loving yourself how can you love or be friendly to others? love is a very strong and independent emotion. anyone can have love or maybe not have love. either way show love the best way you can. You may think its hard but just sink into the thought of love and carry forward with it.
sourpatchsnail
August 15th, 2021 12:47am
Hi! In all honesty, find things that excite you. If you don't have or want friends or family around, then there's no one there to knock you down! Whether it be a hobby like composing or germinating fungal spores or breeding freshwater aquatics, or a particular show or book series, you have all the time to fully engross yourself in it without someone's vexing judgement hanging over your head! Don't be afraid to experiment with anything and everything constantly to find what suits the ever-evolving you. I'd hope you don't get lonely, as some force themselves into isolation without wanting to, but if that's not your case then go all out, my friend. Maybe get a small pet, like a fish or axolotl to keep you company (can you tell freshwater biology is my hobby?) or have another positive presence nearby. Best of luck!
LifeCoachMelanieM
April 25th, 2019 5:37am
I’m hearing that you think you have to have friends and family to BE happy. I can understand how you might feel that way. But you can absolutely be happy! Getting there isn’t easy. But you can do it! You have to be happy internally with yourself. It’s a process. Get comfortable with being by yourself, enjoy your time. There’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. Not having friends or family doesn’t mean you have to be lonely and unhappy. Practice being confident and OK with not having family and friends. Practice displaying that internal confidence, and I bet your happiness will come automatically. And I even bet that it will draw people to you.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2021 10:09pm
Learn and practise a hobby. Also appreciate nature, wildlife, and your environment. I’ve found walking in my local park helps to ease my emotions and appreciate life beyond my lack of friends and family. I also go swimming and eat healthy to improve myself. Volunteering is also a great way to feel happy, online or in person. I’ve started volunteering at a charity shop and it is very rewarding knowing I’m helping those in need. Whilst I’m volunteering I like to make small talk with strangers and try to make a lasting positive impact to those who visit the shop.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2019 9:59pm
You can be happy by Being your #1 fan! Self love is the best love. Yes you will need friends and family but at then end of the day you only got yourself. Do things that make you happy:) friends and family are the most judgmental/ supportive people in your life. Although they will always be there for you they don’t always support your decisions/ the things that make you happy. As I stated before, do what makes you happy!!!! You are the only person you can count on and you are the only person that understands how YOU are feeling. Not everyone is going to agree with you.
TinCup84
July 27th, 2021 4:29pm
Finding self love is very important. if you can find love within yourself and be positive then your outlook on life will be more positive. Stay busy find a hobby that you enjoy and activities like hiking, biking, and arts. focus on yourself before others to find your happiness. I know its hard when you feel that you are lonely without friends or family but the happiness begins with in yourself. once you find your inner happiness and your new interest maybe you may find new friends along the way. Try new things explore what you've always wanted to try and you may find common interest with people a long the way and make new friends as they come.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2019 4:42am
Friends and family are a huge part of who you are. They are the people who shape your personality and the way you view things. You can easily be happy without friends or family, but you must love yourself first. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll constantly look down on yourself and put yourself down without having anyone to express these feelings to or anyone to help you realize the things your thinking aren’t true. If you lose toxic friends or cut ties with toxic family members, in itself cutting those ties will make you a happy person because you’ll no longer be feeding off of the negativity.
friendSD17
August 15th, 2019 12:37pm
Do some creative, it seems difficult very difficult very difficult but just start doing random if you like to paint read watch movies, talking to friends , take your dog or cat on walk ( have none go to nearest shelter and take any of them on a walk they would love a walk with you as nobody takes them), Cook or bake whatever cook whatever find a hardest 1 hour recipe and start doing it you never know you might be a chef ( i turned into in a lonely city miles away from my country ), just do something which you always wanted to do but could never do it
JustCallMeMike
July 9th, 2021 10:41pm
As for someone who has no family, and a very few friends. I find myself valuing the quality of the people I keep in life over how many people I can have in my life. What is important for introverts is to explore your own self and discover passions that can help being you to communities whether they are online groups or social groups. The older you get, the more you realize life is not about being the most popular but about making and exploring life how you want it to be. You got this, don't worry too much about making a lot of friends and just focus on making some really strong friendships.
Chlorophyll123
September 27th, 2019 7:01pm
Having a good relationship with self is the key important factor in leading a good and content life. No matter what life throws at you, you will remain strong. You will be your own rock.