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How can I be happy without friends and family?

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Last Updated: 12/18/2021 at 3:50am
How can I be happy without friends and family?
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FrufflesDaRat
July 13th, 2018 10:06pm
Admitting defeat in connecting with others in an unhealthy mindset. Studies have found time and time again that loneliness is harmful, likely even toxic, to one's mind. If you feel as if you have no friends or family, finding hobbies to fill the void is surely NOT the answer in any circumstance. The key to your happiness is pulling through whatever is keeping you from gaining meaningful relationships. Start out slow and small. Perhaps make a 5 second eye contact with a stranger or acquaintance today. Try to get yourself to interact. Tell yourself to say "hi" to someone today. Have it always on your mind until you succeed and begin to feel more comfortable in the presence of others. Ask a cashier to give you change, anything helps. I see this question as a reverse psychological cry for help. I really hope this answer does help. Distracting yourself from your problems will only teach you to run away. It will solve nothing. Stay strong, and do things for you
SamuelPeak
October 28th, 2017 6:06am
I’m writer, which means I’m an introvert, I’m not a social person. I can virtually go days without talking to other people. But as I have found throughout life, we all need people to survive. No one can make it on their own. Keep this mind, becuase no matter how introverted we become, we still need people. But the truth is, it helps to be doing something you’re passionate about, something you love. Become sure and confident in yourself and your abilities, and accept them. There comes a point when you no longer really need other people’s approval to be happy, all you need is contentment with yourself. When you stop doubting, often that’s when you need others less, becuase you know who you are without their help.
lyricalSea85
November 9th, 2017 3:22am
Ask yourself, why cannot you be happy. In this world, we don't need anybody to keep us happy. We can do that by ourselves. By taking good care, keeping a positive mind and a healthy body. Every human being has something called "Self-goals". These can be achieved at times like this
Anonymous
November 11th, 2017 2:38am
You can be happy without friends and family by doing things you love to make you happy and proud that you did something you dreamed of and that you were able to succeed without anyone stopping you.
TheStoicListener
May 8th, 2020 8:33pm
By realising that true inner peace comes from within. Even people with a big family and many friends can feel empty without true self love. Being your own rock, your own emotional support and your own friend (!) is the first step towards happiness. Realise this, and you will be free from anxiety producing thoughts about being lonely ever again. By fully accepting this mindset, you not only get to know and love yourself, but will be ready to love truly the friends and family, should you ever want to gain them. But remember: happines comes from within, not from external factors.
KuyaEthan
December 10th, 2017 5:47pm
Happiness is found within ourselves too. There are people who are happy being alone and some would need special or close people with them but it is all up to us where we find peace and comfort.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2017 10:27pm
When it comes to friends, family, and the people that love and care for us, it is important to feel safe around those people. If the people you are currently surrounded by are making you feel like you need to be away from them, perhaps try reaching out to a support group where you can find people you do feel safe around.
Beautifuldreamer98
June 30th, 2018 4:38pm
Learn how to enjoy the peace and tranquility of being alone~ One thing that helps me is journaling my thoughts!
SweetBiscuits
December 31st, 2017 1:48pm
If you are thinking that you can't be happy without friends and family you are probably blaming loneliness for your state of sadness. But it might not be true. Many people in relationship, with a family and friends feel sad over time. They may even be depressed. Sometimes while trying to be happy we fantasize some situation that they will make us happy immediately but most of the times it is not the case. It is our thoughts that makes us feel lonely and feeling to cope with loneliness we think our only chance is love. But what is causing loneliness is not lack of love. You can feel happy while you are single. You can feel happy on your own and this may change your point of view in your life. Maybe what you think causing you sadness is not what you think it is. Finding it may help you.
LexIris
February 16th, 2020 4:53am
It'll be a bit hard but you can do things that you love or sign up for classes that interest you. Maybe dance along to your favourite songs or sign up for a yoga class. Spend time creating edits for your favourite shows or animes or create a fan page for something or someone you love. Take care of yourself as well. Being happy can only happen if your mind and body are happy. You can meditate, exercise, get some rest, read a book or maybe even write a book. Just do things that excite you. But do keep in mind that human interaction with friends and those you love is also a way to be happy so don't push them away completely :)
JJill1
January 24th, 2018 7:01am
From personal experience, I highly recommend using some sort of escape, whether that be using art, dogs/ other animals, music, writing, and other passions. I have found puppies, kittens, and adopting animals has been an amazing solution to loneliness and can bring immense joy to their new owner!! If you have the financial capability of course! You could always get a fish :P
weirdblueberry05
January 25th, 2018 7:11pm
I think this is a tricky question and it's not that simple to answer because it depends on you.You have to be okay with yourself first and find that thing in yourself that keeps you going.Work on accepting who you are,work on positive feeling,maybe improving some things about yourself that you don't particulary like.Try not to worry since you're not going to spend the rest of your life alone.When the time will be right you'll find your people and these people will see who you genuenly are. I wish you the best!
Listeningheart33
March 24th, 2018 4:31am
Well happiness comes from within no from friends and family. An happiness can be anything, meaning you can experience happiness in different ways. So if you have something that makes you feel that way you are already experiencing some source of happiness
InSync
August 18th, 2017 1:33pm
By enjoying your own company. There are people who have never had the fortune of having either. If they can, so can you.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2019 2:49am
Family can be biological or chosen. So just because we might not have a strong biological connection, doesn’t mean we went surrounded by those who love us and we choose to have as family. So if really comes down to how we define family. Being away or feeling as though we also don’t have friends us hard. Luck thing is we often have the opportunity to make more or new friends. Most importantly we find happiness within our selves. When we are happy with who we are, other tend to be attracted to us and making friends becomes natural.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2018 1:05am
Pursue your dreams, do things you enjoy, treat yourself, be kind to others every now and then- feeling appreciated can do a lot.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2019 5:30pm
It can be hard to be happy without any reliable biopsychosocial support of family, friends, mental health clinician, counsellor, physician, teacher, colleague, etc. The fact that you are attempting to be happy irrespective of them is incredibly strong of you as many people cannot do it. You've got to have a lot of self-discipline in that case and work on bettering yourself doing the activities that you like. By bettering yourself, you will become more self-confident and others may approach you because they can sense it as well. It is usually easier to be happy when you have at least one person (maybe an online gaming buddy or a pet) that can support you during times of need. If you do not have anyone, you can always fall back on your personal interests like your favourite music, talking to anyone on 7 Cups, etc.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 4:45pm
Hey! If you wanna be happy without them. Then all you need is a distraction. You need to distract yourself in anyway like you can listen to music, you can do cooking, gardening or go somewhere you like to spend your time, like a lake or any good place, you can read books, if nothing works then you can find someone to chat on 7cups. It really works. You can do cleaning, play video games, play mobile phone games and you can do painting too. You don't want to be an expert painter just draw anything you like. I think that it'll help. Stay BLESSED. :)
Mariia670067
April 26th, 2018 5:45am
You need to find your happiness in yourself. You should to learn enjoying every sunshine, and every sunset, appreciate every new breath, every cup of fresh coffee, every morning, every sun-ray. You need to find your peace and your happiness in little thing s around you. Being happy yourself, you'll attract good persons in your life as well as joy and well-being.
QuietHawk
May 26th, 2018 1:42pm
It starts as a decision. Many years ago, I made the decision that if the whole community were throwing rotten tomatoes at me, that I would still be there for myself and that I would not abandon myself. I can see now that this was an important turning point in my life. I really began to take myself more seriously and respected myself more. When I practice self-care - because I have no friends or family in the world - it means I need more love - not less. Then its just a matter of practicing it as it arises. Do I scold myself or do I hug myself and remind myself that I'll do better next time, etc. etc.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 2:59pm
By showing self love. Self discovery is important to live a happy life. I will focus on what I love and try to develop myself as I am the only one who can make myself happy.
DaithiW
March 29th, 2018 10:31pm
Being resilient and faithful to oneself. Sounds vague, yes, but it's true and it works. Also: have goals and objectives that are about you. Don't have to be about you only, but they have to involve you first and foremost.
gentleLunch5322
February 24th, 2018 2:36pm
You can distract yourself from the pain of loneliness. Yes, actually "distracting" yourself from a painful situation does help. Distract yourself by finding free things to do in your local area. Local libraries often have free movies, speakers, etc. Go to these things to "get your mind off of your situation". Or in other words, to distract yourself. Good luck.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2018 12:12pm
Happiness varies amongst everyone.. Mine is different, Yours is different.. Happiness is a state Not something one can get from something And rest of the life still in peace..Obviously Not.. For happiness, Do what you really want to do.. You may think What should i do to be happy.. Look inside you - Observe yourself.. Figure out your belief/notions.. Figure out What's right and wrong for you.. Difference between my right and your wrong, And my wrong vs Yours Right .. is what differentiating everyone.. Some things Which makes people happy most of the time are: Helping others Eating good (Someone eating green vegetable, One drinking alcohol BOTH are same) And Happiness never comes from people or things or anything.. it comes from inside.. Comparison, Expectations, Wishes leads to unhappiness.. if someone is being polite And others are not that polite for that person is a heck.. Understand it by own
eliijaxes
February 7th, 2018 5:24pm
Do things for you, do things that make you happy, work to get to a place you want to be in, whether it's mentally, physically, or even a job/school. Eventually, while doing these things, you will find friends along the way.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 5:50am
It is quite impossible to feel genuinely happy without a community. There's a saying that no man is an island and its true. But for doing so, you have to love yourself first.
Birdie725
January 11th, 2020 4:44pm
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you can't. Family is a relative term that can mean different things to different people, but friendship is wholly necessary to a happy life. This is because humans are designed to be social. The reason we developed things like language and facial expressions is in order to convey ideas to other sentient creatures. If you don't have family, that's fine, but I cannot believe that someone without friends can live a happy life. The thing that makes having friends so great is that their friendship is something they willingly gave to you. Many pets become friendly towards you because, at the core of it, you provide them with food and shelter, but with humans, both parties have to be willing to give up some of themselves in order to benefit the other. That's the definition of love. And being loved is so integral to happiness.
PrettyCupcake00
March 1st, 2018 6:46am
Hey love! Happiness doesn't need any thing or people. Happiness is a choice. It's, we go make our happiness dependent on other things. For example, if we achieve this in life then I'll be happy, after achieving that you'll have other thing after which you'll be happy. why not stay happy throughout the journey of achieving things? think about it.
Engineeringhappiness
March 9th, 2018 4:09am
focus on what makes you happy. make new friends cause most friends just come and go. do something you love doing
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 12:23am
take time to learn to love yourself and find inner peace. this can be achieved by working out regularly, meditating, and taking care of yourself. it all starts with you