Always feeling alone and not loved even though am married with kids?

It sounds like you don't feel supported in your life. Talk to your husband about it and your kids if they are old enough. Maybe consider seeing a therapist and/or hanging out with friends from time to time.

It's because you probely feel like you are not being heard and u feel like your the only person who is not being heard or taken care of and when you take care of others so often it can have no meaning no emotion to it so basically its like your in a room by yourself just existing not living and no one sees what your going though and being a wife and mother its hard to say certain things because everyone depends on you,and its like you can't depend on anyone sure you have a partner in crime but maybe they are not always there are really understand you mentally

Is that your perspective as in is your mind tricking you that you are alone and unloved? can you perhaps fill your mind with thoughts of love about your family and partner. Are you giving love so you can receive it back? are you giving enough love to get love back from your partner and kids? Have you voiced this need of yours of love in return for service to your family? are you giving enough? are you harsh or not understanding enough to them which makes them feel not loved? Children and a lot of adults are canvases and all they need is a little paint...paint them with love.

please try to find a couples therapist, and read about various ways to work on your relationship. Many couples who feel even this level of disconnection find their way back to each other with hard work in counseling, even if only one person goes. Learn about what each of you brings to the table from your childhood. If you think you could do with a little help, there’s nothing wrong with coming in for counselling. You may find that just one or two sessions are all that’s required to help you get talking again and begin to move things in the right direction.