Is it better to stick with a therapist I don't fully trust or to try to find a new one?
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Last Updated: 02/22/2022 at 2:59pm
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If you don't trust your therapist, even after several sessions with him/her, then that means the treatment/technique he is applying will be ineffective. In order for a therapy session to work, the client must fully trust the therapist so you can figure out what exactly is the problem. Although , it is normal to feel this way during the first few sessions. That is why, it is crucial for the therapist to get to know their clients first very well. The client in return should reciprocate this by being cooperative and committed to the session. However, if you do not feel comfortable with your therapist even after this, then I suggest you find a new therapist because the treatment will not work if you do not submit fully to the cause.
Finding the right therapist is a matter of trial and error. You don't easily find a therapist that you can trust and feel comfortable with and that's okay. You shouldn't settle for someone that you don't and can't fully trust.
A therapist is someone who will help you get through the tough parts of your life. They are the one who'll know your deepest fears and the difficulties you go through. That's why your therapist should be someone you trust fully and deeply.
I hope this helps. Take care and I'm happy you're here. I'm wishing you all the best.
Try to find a new one. You want to be able to talk to your therapist comfortably, knowing you can trust them, to be able to get the most out of your sessions together and feel like you can recognise improvements in yourself. Having a therapist that you don't fully trust will lead to dishonesty in sessions, which will undermine the whole purpose of ending therapy in the first place. You want to have someone that you know will listen to you whenever you need them to and know that they care about you as an individual and would never do anything to break your trust.
First you need to figure out why you wouldn't trust that therapist, if it's for hearing what you don't want to hear or if it's about feeling uncomfortable, therapists are there to guide you, but you're not always hear what you want to hear.
Checking your progress can also be helpful, do you feel like you're making progress, things discussed with your therapist are still bringing you comfort?
There isn't anything wrong in looking for another professional if that's what can make you feel better about your progress, if those questions made you think about it, the next step is to think if you're ok looking for more help and taking the next step for it so you can progress and feel better, don't be afraid of telling your therapist that you don't think that you're making progress or that it makes you uncomfortable.
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