Why do I so easily forgive others but have such a hard time forgiving myself?
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Last Updated: 02/07/2022 at 10:45pm
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I have been through a lot in life too, which helps me to be able to empathize with situations, thoughts and feelings that we have. Sometimes, it's not easy just being human.
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Anonymous
November 28th, 2017 4:49am
Forgiving yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. When you forgive others you can start to put it out of your mind, and you can try to understand their behavior. When you are trying to forgive yourself, in my experience, the memory of what you have done repeats in your brain over and over. It's easy for your brain to pull back up that bad moment. Learning to quiet those memories is the first step to forgiving yourself.
It's a long process and really difficult but totally worth the effort. We can be really unkind to ourselves. This could be one way for you to manage the times when you're being particularly hard on yourself though. When you're beating yourself up or having those thoughts and emotions it could be really helpful for you to ask yourself how you would treat/what you would to someone else who had done the same thing. Sounds like you can be quite empathetic for others, this might help channel some of that towards yourself! It could be a really good way to start forgiving yourself like you do for others. Muster up a little self-compassion :) Take care and be kind to yourself
Forgive others because... You deserve peace...
I know it's really hard to forget unfairs and harshness of anyone...
But.. for your own peace.. do forgive others...
You know why...
If you not forgive and forget...
It will Hunt you like a wild animal all the time..
And make you depress,sad, aggressive,and frustrated...
You will always think about to revenge..and in this time period..you may lose many good parts of your present life...
When you forgive ... For the sake of Your peace ..
You will have joy in your heart...
You will have peace in your mind ..
Devils try to convince us to do revenge...
Because..
he does not want us to be satisfied...and happy.
So.. let's forgive and forget...
And move on..
For your own peace of mind, heart and soul.♥ï¸ðŸŒŸ
Have you ever heard the saying, "you are your own worst enemy"? We seem to be the hardest on ourselves; we can see why other people had done wrong and can be quick to forgive, yet we sometimes feel we don't deserve the same forgiveness personally. Some people say it's to learn, others say it's because we deserve the pain. Me? I say it's because we are our own enemies, and must learn to love ourselves a bit more.
Anonymous
June 19th, 2018 12:18pm
Hi! Based on my experience, we tend to forgive others easily than ourselves because we don't want them to feel the way we feel. Also, we blame ourselves for the things that happen. We keep our regrets in our hearts. It's hard to let go.
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