Why do my parents always seem to get so angry with me, even when I am working hard and trying to do the right thing?

I think your parents have very high expectations about you. They want the best for you. I completely understand how it feels since I have parents like that. I used to deal with the same issue and think exactly like you. I studied really hard and I was already busy with trying to get my life together and deal with depression when all they did was getting angry at me. I know how hard it is, but you just got to adapt yourself and try to talk to them. I told them honestly, I understand they wantted the best for me but sometimes I feel very pressured. I hope the best for you and if you have any questions, feel free to message me! :)

I believe its because they are losing their control over me. I am an adult and can make my own decisions and work hard for what I want.

Sometimes parents don't acknowledge how hard you are working because they are consumed by the stresses of their own lives. Maybe you could make it obvious to them how hard you are working, maybe by showing them a piece of work that you are especially proud of. Communication is key!

I live with my grandparents but I know exactly want you are talking about. I'm only 18 and graduated high school early, and planning to head to a University in the fall of 2016. You would think it would be a pretty huge thing for my family since I will be the first family member to attend college. But it wasn't and they have been even harder on me about my life and the choices I make. I also have a job and work full time since I am out of school. But I still feel like I'm disappointing them. I try to do the right thing to but never seems to be enough. I learnt that sometimes you can't make everyone happy. It's sad because you want to see pride in their face when they look at you and talk about you accomplishments and how hard you worked for it. Talk to them, address the situation if you still can't figure out ignore them. They are your parents so respect them but if they put you down after you work your butt off than learn to ignore their comments. And tell them straight up that you bust your butt everyday to do the right thing and work hard let them know how you feel. Hope this helps you can always message me if you want to talk or want advice.

Most parents want to see their child excel and a lot of parents feel like the only way to do that is to push you harder even when you are at your greatest.

Parents are sometimes having a hard time as well and they just don't share their worries with you. They think that by keeping it inside they are doing it a favour. Unfortunately, they just lash out in the most inappropriate moments at you, instead of at the main reason that is causing it. The key is to understanding this. Moreover, they might also want to push you to become even better. Sometimes they don't realise that it may be harmful to you instead.

They just want you to be better then what they ever were, they have high hopes for you and want you to succeed in life.

Your parents just want whats best for you and may get frustrated when you want or what you're doing doesn't match what they had envisioned for you.

Sometimes parents appear to be angry with you or their children when they are stressed out. They are not actually angry at you and I am sure they are proud you are working hard. Sometimes the best why to understand is take a look through their eyes and ask; Are they behind on bills? Is there something broken? Are they having troubles at work? Parents get stressed out just as easily as their kids can. If they seem angry at you, don't fuel it by talking back or such. As that will cause both of you to get stressed out. Just stop for a moment and remind your parents that you love them. Even say things will be okay to them.

No one will ever be able to fully understand who you are and what you are intending to do. Sometimes our own ideas of what should happen block our reality of what is happening. With these both thoughts in mind it is clear that they may be confused and in the dark about your intentions and effort while also projecting their own wants and expectations on you (which may or may not be realistic).