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Why am I not good enough for my parents?

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JackDOrr
July 9th, 2017 5:17am
Sometimes in the midst of all the pressure, We seem to totally forget all the wonderful, unique things about our self. Sometimes it seems like our entire world is falling apart around us and there’s nothing we can do to stop it. Sometimes we feel like a complete mess, and will never amount to anything in anyone's eyes, especially to our parents. Sometimes parents just feel make us feel like we aren't good enough. They can place standards on us that feel impossible to achieve. The best advice I can give you is that you just need to focus on the positive. No matter how many things there are working against you, there are so many more pushing you towards your goals. It’s time to get out of bed and embrace this terrible day for all it is. It’s okay to feel sorry for yourself sometimes, but it’s better to feel grateful. It’s okay to not have your shit together; you are still young. It’s okay to part ways with negative people; you will meet new friends. It’s okay to question your relationships; there are other fish in the sea. You will have bad hours or days. You’ll have bad weeks or months. You may even have a bad year or a bad decade. But, you will only really know the bad in comparison to the good. So, cherish the good moments. It gets better. I am good enough. You are good enough. We are all good enough. And no one can tell us otherwise. Sending my love
sereneFlute58
July 20th, 2017 1:24pm
Most parents are over-expecting. They expect you to do better than them. Unfortunately they often don't consider their own maturity level and thought process when they were at your age. Neither you nor your parents are at fault. It is completely normal. After all it's their job to make you better than what you already are.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2017 6:52pm
Some parents think they push thier children by showing them so, it is not healthy, but you can"t change them. If you think you are good with them, and you are doing your best, consider their advices, it can help you. Try talking with them about it, tell them you need to feel appreciated and supported, and that this is not healthy for you nor them. At last, the only person you need to be good enough for is your own self.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2017 4:22pm
I think the phrase "good enough" should never be followed by any qualifiers. You simply are "good enough". "Good enough" is a relative term, and someone is always going to jump on the chance to criticize you and make you feel otherwise. Even your parents will sometimes be the ones to criticize you. No matter what they tell you, you absolutely are good enough. Remember that they may disapprove of whatever you're doing, but regardless of what they say, you are good enough. They just may not be ready to acknowledge that. Surround yourself with people who are :)
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2017 11:09am
I don't know if you are good enough or you are not, but you don't necessarily have to prove anything to anybody. I'm sure you're trying hard to be good enough for them. Respect them for they are the reason for your existence. Be good and kind when you can. And the good you do will come back to you.
sereneNarwhal18
August 11th, 2017 12:45am
I am sorry you feel that you aren't good enough as I'm sure that your parents don't truly feel that way. Sometimes parents put a lot of pressure on us to do better, be better because they want the best for us. So when something goes wrong they react in ways that make us feel "not good enough". Talk to your parents, tell them how you feel. You may be very surprised that they probably didn't even know hat they were making you feel that way. We can't fix what we don't realize is broken. Talk to them.
SoulHealing
August 11th, 2017 7:35pm
Maybe they want you to be the best. Just talk to them with love and respect and tell them you are doing your best
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 2:57am
You are always good enough for your parents! I used to feel that same way to be honest. My mother and I do not get alone well at all, but we try. If they don't "love" you apposed, they just don't show it but they will always love you!
NONUNIQUE
November 9th, 2017 2:53pm
MY PARENTS HAVE LOST FAITH IN ME, THEY DONT BELIEVE ON ME, I GOT 65%, A MERIT IN MY 9TH GRADE BUT THEY KEEP ON SAYING I AM A FAILURE. PLEASE HELP ME HOW TO OVERCOME THIS BROKEN ME. I CRY EVERY TIME I AM ALONE.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 4:38pm
You are good enough for your parents what ever your parents decide to d is not your fault you are amazing
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 9:59pm
In my personal experience, I felt this way for a long time because my mother had post natal depression after I was born, but just know that you don't need your parents praise to feel confident about yourself as long as you are doing your best you should know you are good enough despite anyone elses opinions
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 11:28am
Parents can be difficult! They want the very best for their children but sometimes don't realize the pressure and stress that life brings for people of our generation. Your parents will be pushing you because they think this is what will get the best results - they want you to succeed and will by any means necessary strive for you to achieve the best you can. Try communicating with them. Explain calmly the way that you feel, explain that (if you feel this way) you can do no more. They love you dearly and it will mean more to have you happy then to have you suffer and think badly of them.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2017 12:17pm
Think of it in a different perspective, maybe your parents couldn't complete their goals in life so they are trying to achieve them through you which is wrong. Try explaining them about your goals and plans and slowly making them believe that what you do doesn't depend on the end result but the effort.
MeghanSmiley
November 29th, 2017 9:38pm
Sometimes, parents put a lot of pressure on their kids, and it seems like it's because they think their kids aren't good enough. However, most of the time parents just love their children and want them to be the best version of themselves. Just let your parents know how you feel about them pushing you and, if everything's in order, they'll understand and pull back. People show love in different ways, and sometimes we have to work to understand their love.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 5:27pm
As long as you're good enough for yourself, other people don't matter. Not all parents are good parents, maybe yours are but they need to open their eyes to see that their child is perfect just the way he/she is. Unless he is a serial killer.
MindPalace93
December 14th, 2017 1:08am
Your parents have an image of who they'd like you to be and they want to see you happy and their expectations met so that they know they have brought up a worthy person. More often than not that puts extreme pressure on kids and often crushes their dreams. Parents need to learn that the child they bring up is not an extension of themselves so they have to let them be free and make choices and kids need to start putting boundaries in their relationships with their parents if they are too overbearing. There are ways to deal with this but mostly it comes down to realising that you are your own person and you are worthy even if your parents aren't happy with some of your choices.
IzzyCpxr
January 18th, 2018 10:18pm
You may feel this way due to stress and anxiety over exams. As long as you always try your best, that should always be good enough for your parents.
JoyousBear
January 20th, 2018 9:33pm
Your parents wish you the best and so, they wish of you to be better than you are, because they think that you can do things better than you do it now, overlooking all your frustrations.
WallflowersandRoses
February 3rd, 2018 1:30am
Your parents expect so much more from you because they want you to do better at life. You are enough for your parents no matter what, but they just want you to succeed at life.
AdriannaBennett
February 7th, 2018 4:43pm
Nobody should ever make you feel not good enough. Everybody is special in their own ways and has much to offer the world around them. If someone including your parents is making you feel bad about yourself that’s a “them” issues. They’re are the ones unhappy and not secure within themselves. That’s why they bring others down and make others feel inadequate or not good enough.
SilentSerenityy
February 9th, 2018 11:53am
I'm sure your parents love and appreciate you no matter what. Your parents may have high standards for you to meet, maybe in terms of education. It helps to remember that your parents want that for you so you have a better life in the future - it is all done in your best interest, even though it may not feel like it at the moment. You might feel like you're not good enough because your parents have made you feel like you're not meeting the standards they expect of you, but it doesn't mean they value you less. They probably feel like you could be working harder or taking things more seriously.
Zakkuchan
February 22nd, 2018 3:24am
It's not that you aren't good enough for your parents. Your parents aren't good enough for you. You deserve better.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 3:26pm
You are! It may not seem like it especially if you are still young. Your parents love you. It may not seem like it but all they want you to do is have a good life and succeed that's why they are so hard on us.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 2:06pm
I think it’s either they were expecting a lot from you because at one point you’ve shown them you have so much potential or they have dreams and expectations they were’nt able to pursue themselves that’s why they’re putting the pressure on you.
Pumpkin74
April 5th, 2018 3:15pm
You may not feel good enough for your parents, but surely you are! When a parent it tough on a child, they usually believe that they think they know what is best and want you to succeed. This doesn't mean they go about it in the right way! Perhaps you can help them understand you more by talking with them or showing them what you are doing in life. Communication is key, but if they still do not agree with you, they will have to come to terms with who you are and not with who they want you to be. Hang in there!
Alexandrq
April 21st, 2018 10:11pm
Everyone is good enough for their parents. Weather you realize it or not they love and care about you
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 8:06pm
I’m more then sure that you are good enough for your parents. Sometimes I might not feel like it and if so I really think you should tell your parents
Anonymous
April 29th, 2018 12:03pm
Parents only want the best for us and sometimes they don't always show that in the best of ways. It's not that you're not good enough for them, it could just be they think they know that you can be more. You can try telling them that you understand they only want the best for you but you're just going at your own pace and you're happy. All our parents really want from us is for us to be happy.
Sken24
June 2nd, 2018 3:48am
As a parent, it is not that our children are not good enough. It is that, as the parent, we are always striving for our children to have a better and brighter future than we did for ourselves.
BouncyTurtleDream
June 7th, 2018 8:35pm
Hey no, don't think like this. I used to think this all the time because my parents always wanted more than what I could do and it made me super depressed and it was the worst. You are enough, your parents may have brought you into this world, but that was their choice and you owe them absolutely nothing. You do not have to overexert yourself just to try and make them happy. What I did was tell my mother that I couldn't do it and her pushing me was also her pushing me away. Everything isn't magically perfect now, but my mother accepts the choices I make. I hope this helps you