What is the best way of going about reconciling with family after a big argument?
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Dealing with family issues takes a lot of patience as we expect our loved ones to understand us and we feel uneasy when they don't. Family arguments tend to be heated ant the reason is simple - it's always the most hurtful to have disagreements with people we love, people who, we feel, should support us no matter what decision we make.
I feel the most important thing, while trying to make up, is remembering that even though we might disagree sometimes when the odds are against us, it's usually family who stands by your side to protect you.
Give yourself and your family members some time to come to understending with your emotions. While during the argument they (or you) might've felt like under some kind of attack, when one of you was defending your point, when the situation calms they (or you) might see the situation from a different perspective.
Even if you don't come to an understanding try to remember that they are allowed to have different oppinion than yours. It's also possible that they reacted that strongly because they are worried about you and while you may not see it now, it's likely you'll realise that later on.
I don't think there is a best way to do it. Try and just get over the argument. And learn how to say sorry. Even if sometimes, it is not your fault.
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June 17th, 2019 4:30pm
Sometimes just saying sorry first. Even if you're not the One in the wrong, it means alot to be the bigger person, and it helps us to grow as individuals too. Sometimes it can be a really hard thing to do, but your family will grow in respect for you also for taking the initiative. Accept whatever part you played, be humble and admit your faults too. This is a good way to start calm discussions to clear up any previous alterations in a more positive way. Either way, the way to approach the situation is as calmly as possible with a positive outcome in mind. Not focusing on any negatives.
Apologies is a good way to start. Always wait till both of are cooled down before you go to apologize then maybe sit down and talk of why you were angry and how u guys can solve it.
Have a heart to heart with your family. It can allow all the issues that caused the argument to be addressed without any judgement and also allow new changes to be made so that it will not happen again
Understand all sides of the story. While I can’t give you advice on this topic know that you are not alone and that here on 7 cups we have a team of people here to help yiu at all times.
Sit down and talk it out with them calmly. understand how the both of you had faults, and try to resolve them.
I usually ask them to go take a stroll with me and probably get dinner someplace away from home and away our problems. I pick nights to get together with them when we're physically tired to lie or argue after a day's work so we avoid lying and offending one another.
Talking things out in a calm manner, Explain to the family members why you said what you did and how what they said made you feel. But also give them chance to do the same back. Communication is key when it comes to relationships (even with family).
Sitting down with them and talking through any issues you are having In a calm and mature manner. Listen to what they have to say and try to understand where they are coming from.
I think the best way is to approach them and tell them how sorry you are. Let them feel and know you're sincere with your apology.
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