My parents aren't speaking with me, and I miss them, how can I cope?
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Moderated by Danielle Johnson, MSED, Community mental Health Counseling, LMHC
Updated: May 10, 2021
GoodGuyChad
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Oct 28, 2014
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Realize that it is they who are being extremely immature by not speaking to you. Cut them some slack, since they are the real children in the family.
mayraishere
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Nov 18, 2014
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Why aren't they talking to you? Did something happen? Did you do something to upset them? Communication is always the best answer, but sometimes you have to wonder if they're not upset or concerned about something and need a time to put their heads on the right place. Anyway, I believe it's always good for the parents to know they're being missed by their children.
dreamWillow68
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Jan 23, 2017
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Remember you are resilient, and nothing lasts forever. You are strong and can cope with this; it can be heartbreaking when you fall out with someone you care for. Sometimes time is what is needed for a person to heal. Take heart, you will survive this.
NoNeedToFearHayleyIsHere
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Oct 29, 2014
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You need to talk to them, even if they don't talk back. You need to let them know how you feel (that you miss them) and that you want to change the way things are right now. You should also apologize, even if you feel like you don't have to.
faithlove1111
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Apr 26, 2016
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It is not easy to cope with missing your comfort zone. It can be lonely, hurtful and even irritating. You miss them because you love them. They too might have the same feelings but for some reason have not cleared the air. May be they need time to cope with their emotions. You too are going through that phase. Give them some time, meanwhile, you go on with your daily routine. Go about doing your work , your studies or whatever you are doing. Be mindful and enjoy or do the task at hand well. Be aware that you a fully functioning individual and you have a responsibility to care and be kind to yourself. As you live mindfully, you might be surprised how you would be able to accept your parents behaviour , the problem that existed between you and try to move past it. You cannot choose your parents response but you can do something for yourself. You can always try to talk to them but if they are not ready then you have to be the adult and wait patiently.
Anonymous
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Sep 14, 2014
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Have you tried doing small gestures to show them you want a truce? They might miss you as much as you miss them
RubyAli
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Oct 8, 2014
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Analyze why arent they talking to you, have alook back and see what went wrong , maybe correcting what happened might help and if possible apologize to them.
awhisperofreassurance
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Nov 12, 2014
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In my experience, if someone you love isn't talking to you and you want to reach out to them without getting hurt, I write a letter. A long letter detailing everything you want to say. Whether you send it to them or not is up to you, but it will help you get your thoughts out without the pressure of them being right there in front of you.
Talore
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Oct 31, 2014
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You're parentes aren't speaking to you. Sounds difficult. I can refer you to the managing emotions guide to see if you can learn some coping skills from it.
Anonymous
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Jan 6, 2015
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You can always give them a phone call or send them an e-mail saying you miss them. Even if they're not willing to talk to you at the moment, they'll appreciate the gesture because it shows you care about them. And you'll feel much better knowing that you tried.
Anonymous
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Oct 30, 2014
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By asking why they aren't speaking to you and if they refuse to answer then find ways to distract yourself from these feelings of being ignored.
iWarrior
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Oct 24, 2014
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You should spend quality time with friends and other family members. They can help take your mind off of you missing your parents.
bountifulMemory59
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Oct 27, 2015
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It depends on the reasons why you aren't speaking I guess could the situation be resolved ? Have you tried contacting them to arrange a time to talk things through? Or are they just ignoring any efforts you make?
It's hard because family can be a big part in peoples life but sometimes for whatever the reasons its better not to have contact if you don't feel talking to them again is a option try to be around people you trust and who care about you friends a partner (if you have one) feel free to connect to a listener if you want to talk things through and you could always look at getting some professional support if you feel that's something that is needed
Take care
Good luck 😊
HANN1BAL
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Oct 25, 2014
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Parents always have soft spot for their children even when they grow up. The right moments are the anniversaries, birthdays or events like Christmas that brings families close and together.
Zinnia
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Apr 24, 2015
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Have you let your parents know you miss them, and that you want them the speak to you again? Nobody wants any rifts or wedges formed in the family.
Anonymous
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Jun 3, 2015
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i suggest giving them some time to get over whatever it is thats eating their mind...be patient, understanding and humble.
Anonymous
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Aug 6, 2019
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I know its challenging when the people you love dont speak to you for whatever reason. Please know your not alone during this challenging time. Have you ever thought of trying to write a letter to your parents explaining your true feelings? sometimes putting things in writing is easier not only for ourselves but for those we love and care about to understand better where we are coming from. Another idea could be if you have siblings or friends talk it through with them and maybe someone will be able to help you get through to your parents. No matter what know your not alone and that even if they arent speaking to you deep down they still love you.
Anonymous
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Oct 31, 2014
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well try and do nice thins for them and they might speak to you if not then sit down with your parents and tell them how u feel with them not talikng to u
chloeegrayson7
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Jul 20, 2015
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You should try talking to them, I know it sounds hard but I don't think theres any other way. Give it time
Anonymous
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Apr 23, 2015
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Tell them that you love and miss them. If there is a disagreement, find a solution and settle it quickly.
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