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My brother and sister are always mean to me, what can I do about it?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 16, 2014
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Maybe they don't know, how you really feel! You should talk to them. They'll understand you. In the end, they are your brother and your sister.
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Profile: thedancerwithin
thedancerwithin on Aug 10, 2015
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I'm going to assume that going to your parents isn't an option that's why you're asking. It depends on the severity of the word "mean" according to you. If it's severe then talking to a trusted adult like a teacher or a counselor could work (if you're a child). If it's in the grey area then the best you can do is just stay out of their way whenever possible or try to turn the situation into a lighthearted joke instead of getting all upset over it. Sometimes siblings are mean just to see your reaction and being all upset about it just fuels them to do more of those mean acts to you... Instead, try laughing about it. Easier said than done- it's going to take a while to get into the habit of turning the situation positive... but it's worth a try right?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 5, 2014
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Brothers and sisters can be our biggest bullies but you are not alone. Speak to your parents or another adult. Ask for advice on how to stand up for yourself or avoid confrontation with your siblings
Profile: olimaar
olimaar on Oct 27, 2015
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It's a natural happening in families. When my sister picked on me, I would always respond in a kind, soothing voice, almost a little creepy. That makes them realize that what they are saying does not impact you.
Profile: Unmasked
Unmasked on Sep 4, 2015
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I can relate, I asked my older brother for simply a pencil while he was playing a video game. My brother then kicked me out, I waited five minutes, then, he came out, threw a pencil (an attempt to throw it at me, but, failed) and then decided not to give it to me afterwards because I said something due to him hitting it on my arm multiple times and trying to throw it at me. So, basically, my brother is a jerk regardless.
Profile: AlyssaHugs
AlyssaHugs on Sep 14, 2014
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Try and speak with them. Ask them if you can talk with them privately. When talking to them make sure to express how you're feeling. If they're willing to listen then explain to them why.
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First of all, make sure they know how you feel. They might not even realize they are hurting you. If they still don't stop, tell your parents. This is not 'tattle-telling'.
Profile: Warlock
Warlock on Nov 10, 2014
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Nothing. Tune them out and know that deep down they care about about as much as you care about (or should) them and that this is just them taking their personal frustrations out on you and the people around them
Profile: Kimberly42
Kimberly42 on Apr 8, 2015
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Have you spoken to your parents or other trusted adult about this? I do very much empathize with you. It sounds very difficult and maybe hurtful to deal with.
Profile: healingHelp
healingHelp on Jun 21, 2016
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If you can, talk to your parent/guardian about it - often siblings can be mean, but they don't necessarily realise that they've really hurt you. Communication is always important, tell them they've hurt/offended/upset you and go from there :)
Profile: Kinshiplove
Kinshiplove on Oct 30, 2017
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Have you tried to explain to them how they make you feel? You could try writing down your feelings and then give them the paper if you're not able to verbally tell them yourself. Maybe they don't understand how it makes you feel. You could tell a parent or guardian, a trusted friend or another family member, just so you can get it off your chest. Talking to someone helps.
Profile: Lachielistens1
Lachielistens1 on Oct 24, 2017
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From personal experience, your siblings aren't specifically being mean to you to just be mean. They are your family and we as family love each other even if we don't always show it. Be sure to make sure you are not giving them unkindness in return and just talk to them, explaining your point of view and asking them to stop being so nasty to you. If they don't listen, look to your parents for help.
Profile: WonderlandDream3
WonderlandDream3 on Oct 13, 2014
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Try talking to them about how their actions affect you, calmy explain to them why some of the things they do/say hurt you.
Profile: AdviceBuddy
AdviceBuddy on Oct 21, 2014
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Talking to your parents helps. Try to talk to your siblings too explain your situation and your feelings
Profile: GabrielNico
GabrielNico on Oct 22, 2014
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Believe in yourself. Know that life is full of ups and downs. You don't need to prove anything to them, but still continue living with your morals and show it to them. Besides, if can no longer tolerate them, maybe it is better talking to your parents
Profile: Uniqueg
Uniqueg on Oct 23, 2014
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Maybe you can talk to your parents about it, or have a meeting with your siblings and tell them how you feel and what kind of relationship you want with them!
Profile: Helper6754
Helper6754 on Oct 29, 2014
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you can ask them to stop also if you are still living with your parents you could tell them and ask them to make them stop
Profile: QuinnBrendan
QuinnBrendan on Oct 29, 2014
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You can talk to them about it, or if you don't feel save doing that, speak to your parents or a counselor.
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Talk to them!(you can try to talk with someone you trust) tell them that you feel bad because they are mean with you.
Profile: akireleon
akireleon on Nov 11, 2014
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Remember to always be humble. I am not sure in what degree their meanness is, but I am quite sure that if you will stay humble, it'll pass soon. They will get tired of being mean to you eventually.
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