Mother in law says I hate her. How can I change her mind?

I can understand how hurtful and how hard that is to swallow, especially when your mother in law is in the family and the mother to your partner. In this situation it would maybe be best to get an understanding of why she's saying she hates you? Getting her perspective and her reasoning, it's transparent and from the source. As hard as the conversation will be, you deserve answers. From that conversation you can hopefully find solutions and find a level ground? People can't solve problems when they don't know what it is in the first place. Good Luck :)

Have a genuine conversation with her. Ask her why she feels that you think poorly of her. Take the time to hear what she has to say. Maybe it was a simple misunderstanding? Maybe her feelings of thinking you hate her are actually her fearing that she’s losing her child to you. It’s tough seeing your children grow into adults and maybe she’s having a hard time letting go. Does she enjoy tea or coffee? Give her a call and ask if she would like to meet up, just you and her. I bet she would appreciate the olive branch and it would give you both an opportunity to talk things out.

this is a very difficult question. sometimes when people make up their minds about something it can be hard to sway them. The first step would be talking to your Mother in law. you should ask her why she feels the way she does and listen sincerely, you may want to bring your partner or have this conversation one on one with your Mother in law. you should take what she says to heart, and then tell her how you feel. explain to her why you act in the way she explains and how it isn't personal. explain to her how you feel, and try to make amends with her. Ask her what you can do to show her that you have no ill feelings towards her.