I want to move out and have the opportunity to, but I'm scared my parents won't allow me. Our relationship is always tense and I want nothing to do with this toxicity. I love them but help?
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Anonymous
June 5th, 2018 2:44pm
Sitting and talking with them very candidly will help. Need to share your feelings, thoughts, emotion with them. There are chances they will understand.
You need to prioritize yourself and your mental health. It's scary and hard to move out on your own, but as long as you will be able to survive, take care of yourself, pay your bills, and accomplish anything you need to get done - it is definitely worth moving out. You may find that once you are out of the house, your relationship with your parents improves. It is sort of just a leap of faith honestly, at some point you just have to dive in head first and hope you can catch yourself. Sit down with them and talk about it, if they seem like they are against the idea, just explain how you are feeling. Figure out the numbers, so that you can sit down and show them that you can afford it, show them that you will be able to take care of yourself. At the end of the day, your parents should want the best for you. If they don't want the best for you, you have an opportunity to get out.
Often, it can be difficult to think that we can anger others. We have a duty to ourselves to act in our own best interests. If others are making the choice to hurt us, we have to protect our most sacred possession which is ourselves and everything that makes us who we are. You intention is not to cause pain, but to realize self preservation. This is nothing to feel shame or guilt for and does not mean you do not love them. It only means it is time for you to leave the nest. It can be scary. What would you do if you had no fear of the consequences?
Anonymous
May 17th, 2022 4:06am
sit down with your parents and have an honest conversation about it. tell them you want to experience life on your own for a bit and would love it if they supported it. a conversation can go a long way so give it a try. toxic relationships with family make people want to get as far away from it but you can’t specifically say that to them so say that you want to be independent and learn about life on your own so you know what to face when you are all on your own and self sufficient. it could be an opportunity to figure out who you are
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