How do I manage school, work and family? I want to be successful in school and work but I also want to manage a good relationship with my family.
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You can try to create a balanced life with a calendar and spread things out. You can have a time frame of when you do your schoolwork, when you go to work, and a day where it is all about family time.
Managing a schedule is based largely on your ability to prioritize tasks. When there are several equally-important overall tasks, such as school, work and family, you should consider further breaking down sub-tasks into these main areas: urgent and not urgent. Furthermore, decide whether the tasks that you have prioritized into these areas are important or not important, and then match them accordingly; for example, urgent and important, not urgent but important, etc.
Tasks that fall into the urgent and important category should be labeled as "DO," meaning do them immediately! Tasks that fall into the not urgent but important category should be labeled as "DECIDE," meaning decide whether or not they should be done NOW or can be put aside for another time. Tasks in the urgent but not important category should be DELEGATED - meaning given to someone else to complete for you. Lastly, tasks in the final category, not urgent and not important, should be DELETED entirely.
To summarize, we have DO, DECIDE, DELEGATE, and DELETE.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2018 10:56am
Creating a balanced life is key. Understanding that you can't do everything at the same time is another key. Creating a calendar can help you with this, because keeping track of things is always easier than stressing about one thing that could potentially lead to more stress. Whatever you do, make sure that you have time for yourself.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2017 9:58pm
It seems like you are a very busy person, but i can assure you that It is definitely possible to manage school, work, and family at the same time. How much time you are able to make for them depends on your situation, though. Are you currently attending a university away from your family? If that is the case, how far apart are you? If seeing them during the weekends and holidays is not possible, I would suggest Skyping them at a time that works best for all of you! Sending them e-mails and letters may also be another, more exciting way of connecting with them if you are far apart. While contacting your family members can be stressful and may involve some sacrifices in time, I think it would be worthwhile for your mental well-being to talk with them too.
School, on the other hand, can be stressful. As a college student, I know how rough it is to manage a full schedule, especially with extracurriculars and internships to keep in mind. I don't know how rough your course load is or how many hours per week of work you are doing, but if you ever feel very overwhelmed, do consider cutting down if at all possible. You need to take care of yourself above all, and by maintaining your relationships and getting the proper sleep/nutrition, you will return to your schoolwork less stressed (trust me on this one!) Also, seek help from a tutor or friend on your schoolwork if needed. Create a calendar and see where you can have downtime.
I hope that this helps and I wish you the best of luck in managing your time!
This is exactly how my daughter feels at rhe minute she is so exhausted from wanting to do good with work then not speaking to anyone because she studies that much. We have said she needs days where we all just chill have movie days or even help cook tea so we are doing stuff together. Don't let studying get in the way of other things it's not healthy for you. I'm glad your thinking about studying and home though it shows alot of courage. Maybe set your self days where you just spend time with them even if it is for an hour, a brew some biscuits a quick chat here and there during the day. Definitely have breaks though otherwise it will send you crazy isolating yourself away
First of all, you are not alone and no one can tell you exactly how to do well in school, be productive an work and at the same time manage your family, however, they can suggest ideas and it is up to you to figure it out. Time management is key and being able to allocate the adequate amount of time to each of these tasks is not easy but it is doable. If you don't, you might end up being burned out and failing in one, two or all.
Time management is a skill that takes much practice to get good at. Often, when we have a lot going on, self care and relationships are the first two things to go, but they are the very things that make us successful. I am sure your family knows and supports your efforts at work and school. I would suggest just making sure that they know they are a priority too. Be open and honest with them about your struggles to juggle things successfully. Look for time wasters that you might have let creep in to your schedule. Look carefully at anything you can let go of that isn’t as important as others.
Ask yourself why are you going to school, why are you working once you know this two question then you will be good relationships with your family but keep in mind that your wants best for you and there will be controversy in your decision or they will acknowledge your decision until you succeed. If your having any problem school, work ask your family and friend how they do it and see what ideas you can get that will help you manage your school, work, family. Also, keep in mind that alone in this, everyone has they similar issues as you that why it’s good ask other people.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2016 10:05pm
You need to prioritize on what things are more important for you. What should come first, second, and last.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2016 11:32am
don't mix your work,school and family.then you enjoy your life more because if any of one is bad it impacts on other two and makes life bad
Managing multiple goals at once is always challenging. Setting aside time when each one will be of primary importance can help a lot. Asking family to understand that for the next (hour/half hour/etc) you need to work on something but that you'll be there for them afterwards can be helpful as well.
Anonymous
April 19th, 2016 6:01am
All investments need time. You need to put time in work, school and family for each aspect to grow well. School and work is part of you and therefore, sharing your passions for work and school with your family is also a good way to bond.
It is important to set aside time for each important part of our life. If everything is scheduled properly, and explained in situations, there will not be difficulty in giving a proper amount of attention to each sector of our lives.
Sometimes it could be difficult to make these two parts of my life fit together, sometimes I just haven't so much time for this but since I am volunteering in non-proof organisation, it show me that if I plan the time I could make anything possible. Maybe it could be hard but it's possible and I am happy to say that I manage these two things and have best of both!
Choose a day when you do not have school or work once a week to spend with just your family. Use any free time you have to talk about your day with them, too.
Time management. You can make a list of things you'd like to do for your family everyday that would only take a short amount of time, such as giving them a call, asking them about their day, buying food or a small token for them; and do one of those everyday to fit into your schedule. Then fit a big thing into your schedule every week/month, such as a movie marathon, eating dinner out, going to the amusement park, baking together, or catching the sunset.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 2:06am
talk to them about how you fell and listen to what they say and try to take deep breaths and find your happy place
I set time aside for school and time for family. I try to not mix the two because it creates a stress that just isn't necessary. When I'm working on school stuff, that's all I focus on. The same goes for family time. The more I keep them separated, the less stressed I feel.
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