How can I get my parents to stop yelling at me for everything?

Unfortunately, I doubt you can. If they’re that aggressive I don’t think you could sit down and have a chat with them to explain how you feel and why they should care about it. I’ve tried that with my own parents, I was not taken seriously. BUT, you can always try to set boundaries. Explain you need time to yourself sometimes. Put a note on your door to let them know you’re doing work. Know that even if they hurt your feelings, they’re not doing it because they want you to feel bad. They’re doing it because they feel bad inside their heart and want some way to let it out. Talk about it with friends privately, the more you normalize it the less power they hold over you. Be objective about what they say. Are they being dramatic? Are they being reasonable? If they are being dramatic, do they have a reasonable reason to be? You don’t have to take them seriously and believe they’re right every time they yell at you for something, but it’s okay to take it into consideration. Just know they don’t have a final opinion on anything; you can trust your own. Don’t argue with them and try your best to tiptoe around any conflict. The more you can avoid the situation the better you’ll feel in the long run but it might make you feel a little tense to be around them, almost like you’re guilty. Don’t take what they say to heart because I’m sure you know you wouldn’t treat someone how they treat you, so you don’t have to be convinced by their words. :)

Explain them that this behaviour is causing you mental disturbance and if they can't stop with this then you will have to stop having a talk with them. You have to explain them that if there will be a conversation then it has to be in a peaceful way else there is no lecture session. But along with this you yourself will also need to look after your deeds. Not always parents are wrong. You have to keep in check of your activities and be more responsible of your duties and more important thing ie your career and future.

Well I guess you all should sit down and talk in a calm, reasonably and hopeful peacefully on why they yelled, find out why and how it effects you and ask them to stop. Sometimes direct approach might help. It might be your behaviour in how you act, what you do or something that you dont notice or sometimes they are just concerned. They yell sometimes because they care and people would react more to being yelled at than talking the same things over and over again. Or else its more to their personal lives that end up being taken out on you, which i hope not. But being there and consider on why and think how would you improve on it i guess.

Standing up for your rights is the best way to fix all the problems that me, and you, and others, can across especially when it starts being a real issue and effect each person's personal life When it comes to parents the best way is creating a good atmosphere maybe going on a picnic, or having a sit, drinking coffee and talk in a good way mum or dad that's making me feel stressed anxious. I'm sure this will make a change Sometimes parents make mistakes without aiming to show hate or anything else it's just life stress and fighting to make a living.

This one is a hard one. The only thing that I did was to sit down with my mother and tell her how I felt when she did that and explained that it doesnt make me understand or hear less if she uses her normal voice and explains to me what it actually is trying to tell me (make a point). I think she kinda understood it and accepted it with a time. Of course it didnt happend just in two days but there was alot of progress by every day. Now I feel I can talk to her better as I dont feel attacked every time I ipen my mouth.

If you want your parents to stop yelling at your for everything, let them hear and understand the thoughts and struggles you're dealing with and hear their opinions so that you and your parents can both clear some misunderstanding with each other. Patience is the number 1 tip that you must have since it takes a lot of patience to be able to tolerate something that's not easy to face on wards. Stay calm as much as possible. Being loud and harsh won't get you and your parents inferiority anywhere else. Let them speak first as a sign of respect so that they could do the same thing to you when you speak calmly and well composed.

I would try calmly telling them how it makes you feel during a time when they are calm as well, and hopefully communicating your feelings would give them some insight into how their actions affect you. Of course, that may not fix everything, but if it doesn’t work at first, I would continue to have those conversations until they start to respond. However, I would never start that conversation when they are already yelling at you or if you’re in an argument, because feelings are too strong then. Tell them after everyone has calmed down. I hope this can help you!

Sit down and have a conversation with your parents, discussing how you feel about them yelling and develop a plan together about how to get their feelings across without yelling. Communication and understanding is not a one way street, but a two way street so with both parties (you and your parents) understanding issues across both parties is very important for a healthy and long relationship. Often times, some parents don't understand how to talk to their child and will resort to yelling to get the point across, while children might do the same. Talking to them and ensuring both parties refrain from yelling and arguing is important for long healthy relationships.

Try to explain them how you feel when they raise their voices against you. No one deserves to be treated badly, let alone by those who should love you inconditionally. Our parents are our most precious guardian. We can have our friends, teachers, bosses, neighbours, lovers... But our parents are the ones who should love us the most. I know how painful it is to be yelled at by your parents. It really hurts, because you never expect such harsh treatment from the ones you love. Tell them how you feel. If they really love you, they will undertsand your words.

The best thing you can do is sit and talk to them. Like sit with them and explain exactly what u feel when they yell at you. Help them understand what they can say instead of yelling and also try analysing what makes them yell at you and try to make little changes. Talk to them and understand why they are so stressed or frustrated, maybe its due to the stress from work or from other family members . The solution to everything is communication. Just try to build a bond with them, it might take time but things will change soon.

Every situation is different, so I'd suggest experimenting with different methods and see what works best for you. If they are emotionally abusive parents, the gray rock method is an effective method. In order to do the gray rock method, you essentially don't engage in conversations with your parents, even if they are in a good mood since that super friendly mood is just a part of the abuse cycle. Though there are times where it makes sense to make an exceptions to the gray rock method since your parents might be the only ones that can give you what you need (asking for your birth certificate, for example).

First of all, try to not yell back. This only elevates the situation and can make it worse, most of the time. Often times, if you are respectful towards them and then go to try to talk to them about how you are feeling about them yelling at you, it will be more effective than if you have talked back. When you talk to them, try not to speak as though you are pointing out what they are doing wrong, but instead, be honest and tell them how you feel. Acknowledge that you understand where they are coming from, but be sure to express why their actions are hurting you.

First figure out what theyre yelling at you for. Then ask yourself: Can I change it? Is it something reasonable? Look at it from another POV and if you find yourself in the wrong, correct yourself. But if you truly believe they are being unreasonable then do not be afraid to have face to face conversation with them about how you feel. Opening up is the first step to solving a problem. From my personal experience when I am too afraid to have a face to face with my parents, I would leave them a letter stating how I felt and then they would approach me calmly so we could talk and solve the issue. (Remember This worked for me and may not work for everyone) but anyway they’re your parents and would only want the best for you. Just ask them to be more patient and approach you more calmly.

This one's difficult because I was in the same spot and it did not end well in my case. You're probably afraid of speaking up to them because of the yelling, and that's a difficult paradox. I'm not certain of any solution, but I do have some tips if you want to approach them. 1. Don't "attack" them on it. I was guilty of this one and it only escalated things. 2. Alongside that, understand that they are people too. They may not realize that they're hurting you, so tread gently if you want to see change. 3. Ask them what you can do to contribute to the change. This is another piece that I was missing and that my parents helped me realize I really needed. My behaviour is why I get in trouble most of the time, and identifying that helped us both. This way, you're not just being yelled at to "fix yourself" and they're not being "attacked" when you ask to change things. Work together, not against each other. 4. Understand that it's not your responsibility if all goes wrong at the end. Sometimes parents are irrational and hard to budge. I'm proud of you for trying your best.

Parents sometimes yell at other people to get the anger they have off of them. This can be seen as a way to redirect there anger from what there feeling and also so that they can make someone else feel better. I might wrong in saying this but also am saying as this as from my personal experience have seen parents yell at each other as there just angry. Some parents do it as it makes them feel that you will take them more serious and that might be the case. But yelling doens't always help a problem that is going on.

Unfortunately, it is nearly impossible to control your parents' behavior. If they are yelling at you for almost everything, there is a good chance that the underlying problem has to do with them and their own feelings rather than you. And as hard as it is when someone is screaming in your face or saying hurtful things about you (especially if that person is your parent!), it's important you do your best not to take it personally. That's really hard, though, and if you feel like your parents aren't figures you can talk to about the feelings you're having, reaching out to a trusted adult or friend -- or even a listener here on 7 Cups -- can be a good way to cope with this situation. You are loved and important, and your parents' behavior does not mean you are a bad child or bad person.

A really important factor to situation like this one, is communication. What you could do is discuss calmly about this with your parents. Tell them how you feel about it and give them alternative ways of communicating such as discussing. Be an example for them! Parents are humans as well. They are not perfect and surely not all humans are suitable for being parents. However, you can always hope that they may change because of you! Try to understand them and encourage them to understand you as well. If this situation continues, you need to accept the situation and move on. It’s not something that will ultimately determine your future behavior towards your friends, lovers, colleagues, strangers or kids. You ALWAYS have the opportunity to choose how YOU WANT to behave. Good luck! :)

You know sometimes parents feel more vulnerable than us. That is the time when they abuse us, emotionally, verbally, and even physically. That's the time when they feel strongest. But deep inside it's them who are vulnerable the most, not you. I had a history of emotional and sometimes verbal abuse from my parents too. It almost destroyed me emotionally. Sometimes it felt like I am tearing apart piece by piece. Once I realized it's not me, it could be them. I stood up for once or twice for myself, pointed out to them where they are doing wrong. I mirrored them in words. It seemed clear to me that it crumbled their feet. I continued to do this, standing up for myself. Believe me, things began to change. Sometimes there is no other option except becoming a brave one. Hope things get better for you. Love.

Unfortunately, sometimes parents can't properly express or demonstrate their emotions, and that results in them yelling instead of talking about how they feel. One of the best things you can start doing is to respond calmly when they act frustrated or are yelling so that you can come off as more level-headed. In the end, anger and yelling only breeds more anger and yelling. And one important thing you can do, is if your parents are unnecessarily yelling are you, try speaking up to them in a respectful manner. Tell them that they don't need to yell at you for whatever you're doing and ask them to calmly tell you what they want.

Well the first thing to do is to understand that it may not be YOU the reason for their yelling. Sometimes people take their frustration and anger on others without realizing. if you know you have done nothing wrong to deserve a yelling, then keep that in the back of your head too. also, maybe expressing this to them may help. having a polite and civil discussion (when they are not in a altered mood) would bring the awareness to them about how you feel. most parents, i speak from personal experience, have so much stressors in our lives that don't realize we sometimes take it on our kids or loved ones and if they make it aware to us, we would take a step back and analyze the situation. i wish you the best of luck with this!

Express to them how their words can affect you. Pin point what these words make you feel, and how they can impact your overall feelings. Express your intentions and what you would like to accomplish in the relationship. Being yelled at on a daily basis by your parents can be draining. Sometimes parents are unaware of how they come off and want the best for you, but is understood the complete opposite. Openly expressing how harmful their speaking style is a way to make progress in the relationship with your parents. They will be able to understand you better, and hopefully start a better communicative route.

When your parents yell at you, I can only think of 2 things it may mean. Firstly, you might not be doing your side of the housework. So it piles up and makes them frustrated leading to their annoyance at small matters. Henceforth, be responsible clean up after yourself. Remember with greater power comes greater responsibility. Secondly, they might be having a hard time and it may lead to leaking of their frustration. At times like these, do your stuff, help them out, if possible and when they have calmed down (only then), you could often ask them whether you made a mistake or whether they are having a hard time at anything like their job or their friends. They would often love and appreciate you for that, though.

My mom used to yell at me for pretty much anything I did. I had to sit back and try to understand why. I realized later that she had severe anxiety from other issues and was just taking it out on me. I started doing things that I felt would make her life easier (like helping around the house) and I also sat down with her and told her how I was feeling. This improved our relationship tremendously. I recommend that you try to find the reason your parents always seem frustrated. It might be an issue that can be resolved by better communication. I'm sorry that you are going through this though. I hope this helps!

Based on my personal experience with my parents yelling at me is to get them both to sit down and talk to them both to explain how they make me feel just for yelling at me for anything that I do. Sometimes we may need to figure out what triggers our parents to make them yell at us. Often times we get emotional damage from this and we are so scared to really sit down with our parents and talk with them. An additional when your parents yell at you it is because they are mad at each other and they are just taking it out on you.

My heart was aching as I was reading your life as it is right now. I truly feel bad for you that you have to deal with your parents yelling at you. I understand that is a huge problem and your parents seem to not understand what you are truly feeling. And the world is a hard place. Have you asked them what they are so upset about? Maybe you can have a conversation with them after you feel more comfortable to talk to them. I understand that you are in a negative mood and I am here for you to talk about it. Have you tried ways to distract yourself? These can be hobbies, listening to music, or meditation. When you focus more on yourself, you can try to communicate with your parents to see what makes them so angry in a quiet or private room. I completely understand that it is not easy, but just try, and then later you can let your feelings out to them. You can also reach out to friends to discuss about it and they can be an excellent step to let go of your thoughts about your parents yelling at you. Once you have spoken about what makes them angry about you and tell how you feel, you can ask them on how to find ways that will accept you the way you are. If things still do not work out well after, we can discuss it further and I'll be here for you. I wish you the best of luck and thank you for speaking it out to me. ;)

Sometimes the pressure of life increased and people act the way they are not supposed to. Especially during this pandemic, we are experiencing these days, people are getting irritated easier than before. The first thing is to remind yourself it's not personal. They may have had a hard day, maybe not in the good mood at that moment. You need to find an appropriate time to discuss this with them and tell them about how you feel when you see them like this. How it negatively affects you, and how you want it to be stopped. I'm sure they will understand if you find the appropriate time to talk to them. They love you for sure, may be just so stressed that are not aware of their behaviour.

Hi there, hope you are having a great day. I am so sorry that you are going through your parents yelling at you for everything and I know how it feels from personal experience. One thing to know is that parents usually feel the need to yell if you do not do what they want and while they shouldn't yell, it can sometimes be a habit for them without even knowing. The best way is to gain their trust and let them know how you feel about them yelling, let them know that you will still listen if they don't yell and that they don't need to yell at everything. Have a small talk with them knowing the detrimental effects yelling can be. And if having a small talk is hard, gaining their trust would be the easiest route to take. And I know from personal experience and usually my mother would get mad if me and start yelling for no reason. Something I had to understand was the amount of work they have as as adult and parent, the amount of stress they carry everyday. So you can let them know that they do not have to yell, and you will still listen. Communication is key! and If you have any additional questions, let the 7 cups community know and someone will answer! Thank you so much

Politely ask them to calm down and have a talk. Ask them to sit down and how and why are they yelling at you and make you feel stressed out. Also, there could be 2 types of parents behavior on why are they yelling at you: 1) They could be stressed out from work every day. 2) They could be toxic parents. Find the solution and their movement actions and how they talk back to you. Don't fight back/yelling back, it's not a best way to solve the problem. Tell everything about why are they yelling at you and will sorted things out.

This can be a hard situation to go through. I would recommend trying your hardest not to argue with your parents, and if you think you are going to argue with them: take your self into another room and distract yourself by exercise, reading or speaking to a friend etc etc. You could also try speaking directly to your parents and voice your opinion but make sure that you are in a safe environment to do so. Also, pick your moments! Your parents probably don’t want to speak about it in the middle of a zoom call! If this doesn’t work, speak to a sibling, friend or teacher.

1 Breathe. Try to pay attention to how your body feels while you're being yelled at, with mindfulness. Chances are you are feeling tense and tightly wound. If this is the case, taking deep, measured breaths will help you remain calmer and looser. Breathe in for at least four beats and out for as long as you can. Make sure that the air you take in travels all the way down to your belly and makes your abdomen expand.[1] 2 Understand that yelling is not eternal. It may seem like your parents are yelling for two or three hours, but if you look at the clock, you will see that very few parents have the stamina to do so. If you respond correctly to the yelling, your parents might stop. Tell yourself that you're strong enough to endure the yelling. All kids have to deal with yelling parents at least sometimes.