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Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 10:08pm
If you think it's hurting you and you tried fixing it but still doesn't work out than you should just talk to your partner and let them know how you are feeling and just tell them that you are not happy anymore.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 10:47pm
The best way to leave a toxic relationship is to lay down the law and say it straight and offer no loopholes for them to grab. Say we are over and do NOT listen when they beg for you back if you must block that person file them out of your life and most importantly accept that you can do better and be treated better and you deserve the best.
Get help from an outside person you trust, they will stand by you and help you recover afterwards. Family is a good idea.
Although it may be hard to leave a toxic relationship, the best thing you can do is just wake up, pack up and walk away. It is going to be better for you in the long run.
Anonymous
August 20th, 2016 4:02pm
You could get friends help, and do it in a public place. Bring someone alone maybe. There are also helplines on here if you want to check them out.
The first step is understanding that you deserve to be treated better. Accept that you cannot change who your partner is, understand that the best thing you can do for both of you is to leave it. If they truly loved you, they wouldn't make you feel this way.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2016 8:13am
Break away. That is the best you can do for yourself. Call the crisis hotline or a friend and loved one for immediate help if you are in danger or stress. No one deserves to be in a toxic world.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 1:54am
Just be calm about it. Make sure you don't come across rude. Make sure they understand what your needs are.
Look to friends and family for support. Speak to a counselor or therapist. Approach the toxic person calmly and reasonably, and make a clean detachment. "For my own mental well-being, I cannot remain in this relationship. I wish you luck and happiness in your future relationships." Do not allow them to talk you out of it, do not listen if they try to convince you that you're wrong, or that they can change. Put yourself first and remind yourself that you deserve better than a toxic relationship, because you do!
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 6:44pm
You have to bring yourself to want to leave. It's hard. If there is a change of your partner hurting you in some way let someone know what is happening and they can help you leave in a way that is safer.
You talk to someone you trust. Tell the partner you are with you no longer want to be with them you are sad with them. If they don't understand that. Go to the police with the person you trust
Anonymous
October 12th, 2016 6:48pm
Find a person who will listen and support me through the process so that I realize that I can do it and will be ok, that there is no other way.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 3:58pm
Tell yourself that it's not worth it and tell them bye. You could do so much better than them. You just need to get the courage to leave
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 9:37am
You need to get yourself together and decide you must end it. You can ask for help from friends and family and they will support you if you have any emotional ups and downs. But you need to go on and finish what you started even if your partner is dragging you back. It's a hard decision and it's hard thing to do but the outcome of a happier life worth it!
Keep on reminding yourself how much you get hurt being in that relationship. Also think about how happy you were while you were single.
I find that lists can be really helpful, especially in situations of which we are stuck, such as this one. I think that making a list of the pros and cons of leaving the relationship can be really helpful. It gives you a chance to actually SEE what it is that you're getting out of and moving on to. It can show you the very reason that this is good, and give you the motivation to get out.
You tell the person it is unhealthy and attempt to move on slowly. It takes time to get over that person.
Toxic relationship is the one that makes you feel like you are forced and miserable in case this happens inform the person about how you feel and stop it if you don't want connection with that person
Anonymous
May 14th, 2017 2:33am
Talk calm to your partner, if he doesn't want to break up and then try to do it your way. A relationship needs two and reciprocal romantic feelings to one another, it won't work with how your partner wants it to be.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2017 11:45am
Leaving a toxic relationship is incredibly difficult. It takes a lot of strength to do and having people around you to support you helps. Try and cut that person out of your life as much as you can - remove or block their number, block them on social media, anything to stop them getting in contact with you while you're trying to move on.
Recognize that you deserve better than how you are being treated. Self-care is the utmost important thing, so it is essential to remember that you deserve to be happy. Also, try to confide in someone close to you and realize that it is okay to reach out for help.
I know how hard it is. You have to ask yourself if staying in the relationship is worth it anymore. You have to consider whether you can put up with this long term and if you will be happy. If all the answers are no then it has to end for your own well being.
Toxic relationships are just that, toxic. They're unhealthy for you both mentally and physically so leaving one is the best route. Of course, leaving a relationship is hard, regardless of whether you're leaving a parent, sibling, lover or friend. The best way to leave this is to explain that you can no longer be in this relationship anymore due to certain reasons, and then cut off communication. Yes, it'll hurt, but in time it's better for you â¤
Anonymous
August 31st, 2017 11:56am
In order to leave a toxic relationship, what I ended up doing was reaching out to my family and friends, who were able to help me to leave. Another thing I would suggest would be to call any of the crisis lines that deal with this type of situation, and if it's really bad don't hesitate to call the police and / or go to a shelter. I know how terrifying it is to leave, but believe me it will end up being worth it. If you aren't quite ready to leave just yet, then maybe you could start gradually making a plan to improve your self-confidence and independance, and look into what options are available for you in your area. No matter what, make sure to keep yourself (and any children you may have) safe first! Thinking of you and wishing you all the best.
Just leave. If that relationship doesnt give you a happiness or positive impact or hold you from progress in life, it is not a good relationship. There is no good keeping a toxic relationship. You deserve to be loved and happy.
This is a tough one. Personally, I've been stuck in many toxic relationships due to not wanting to upset my partner. One thing I suggest doing is get support from your friends and family. Let them know what's going on and ask for support as you step up and end things. It will be extremely hard for you to do this, as toxic relationships tend to make you feel stuck and dependent on the partner, but I truly believe you can do it.
This one is difficult , because I myself have a sibling who is dealing with this herself , So for me to do this would be difficult , Although I'd have to think about myself and my safety really and also ask a question like how is this benefiting me.
Leaving a toxic relationship can be hard, but ultimately you will find that once you are out of that toxic relationship you will feel so much better. To leave a toxic relationship you might want to write down some of the things or problems that you have and are bothering you and making the relationship toxic, then try to piece together what you might say to that person, and writing it down always helps too. Once you feel like you are ready to end the relationship and talk to them about it, with the pros and cons kept in mind, then the best thing to do is just go for it because sometimes we get anxious or too nervous to go through with the plan, so just sit them down and explain the issues but remember to be assertive and calm too. I know personally that it is hard to leave a toxic relationship but it will only help you, don't let the toxic people in your life drag you down. Good luck and just hope for the best.
By telling yourself that you deserve better, you want better, you can have better and you will find better.
If you can't say all of the above, then maybe you still reasons to believe that a toxic relationship is still the best option that you currently have.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2017 4:04am
Sometimes it's hard to leave a toxic relationship, depending on your situation of course. (Depending on the reason that its toxic) sometimes being honest is the best policy, but of course that won't work for everyone since every relationship and situation is different.
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