How to tell someone you're depressed without saying it?
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Expecting someone ,even if that someone is close to you, to know you are depressed without saying it is probably asking a lot. Everyone has there own things, gets stuck in their own head and might not always be paying as much attention as you would like. A tip would be to work out a code word with your primary support person to indicate that you are in a depressive episode or worse. This way if you may be uncomfortable talking about your feelings with this person at least they know what is going on with you so they can help you get what you need.
Depending on how close you are to the person, they could have already noticed how you feel. Otherwise you can say things like: "I've been feeling really down lately" or "I have a hard time enjoying things anymore". Depression is different for everyone, so depending on how you feel you can describe it in different ways.
sometimes your loved ones may start observing a change in your behaviours and they may figure out that you are depressed, however if you feel the need to communicate , then communicate it to them by talking to them.. If they care about you then for sure they will offer you support and understanding
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:05am
Show them through actions or behaviour. Dont say the word depressed but talk about it. Or give out examples.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 2:37am
Quiet not eating not sleeping not interacting. Showing little to no emotion. Things you were involved in don't seem to matter. Laying in bed or sofa with no intentions of getting up.
write your feelings down and if you feel you can trust them, show it to them. If you just do not want to use the word depressed explain to them how you feel.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 9:00pm
In my opinion, I'd say that you haven't been feeling you for a while, and you can't figure out what's getting you down. I'd say that you feel like you need to talk to someone about your feelings so you can start to feel like yourself again.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 4:17pm
I have been feeling quite down these days. I dont do my usual routine anymore. I spend most of the time in my room, alone, just laying on the bed.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 12:52pm
By giving them some sad signs.. or change in behavior in sad ways. Giving them hints for your depression.
You can give small hints, but in general, it's not good to hide you feelings. They become repressed, and eventually they blow up. It's good to explain as opposed to just leaving them inside,
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 1:05am
just say "i've been/i am upset"... they'll most likely ask why, but you have no obligation to reply. if they ask, just say "i do not want to talk about it" and, hopefully, they will understand
Sometimes it can be a lot easier to say "I feel down a lot" than saying "I'm depressed." Especially if you are worried about how the other person will react, saying "I feel down" might be easier for you.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 6:49am
Talking about these sorts of things can be kind of scary. Maybe you could ask someone if you could sit and talk with them for a minute, so you have a particular time and don't have to worry about finding the 'right' time. You could tell them that you've been feeling down, or maybe not like yourself. You could also just say that you've been having a hard time lately. Most people will understand what you mean, and will be there for you. Good luck, and everything will be okay
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 11:28pm
i have an empty feeling in my stomach and i feel no joy for life anymore. none of my old hobbies interest me now either.
i think it is so hard to tell someone your're depressed because they might want to help and they could give wrong advise because they have never had depression so i would tell that person that i am not feeling right today. something is a little off in my brain, i am tired is what i would say
write it out. If you don't feel comfortable saying it, it's okay, write a letter to the person who you wanna tell about your depression. If you don't tell them in one way or another, they'll never know that you're struggling with depression. People all have their own problems to deal with so don't expect that they'll spend a great deal of time to figure out what we're thinking/ feeling. You gotta let them know. You deserve help, so don't hesitate tell your loved ones about your depression. With their help, you'll make great progress and the road to recovery will be a lil bit less difficult :)
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 2:57pm
Just tell them the truth ask them for help. You need to be strong and tell them, it can save you a lot of trouble!!!
Have you tried expressing what you need from others? How long have you been depressed? Do you have anyone you feel comfortable enough sharing your feelings and needs with?
Well, you can tell others that there are problems in your life or you can also say that there are some things that intesify your unhappiness. Overall you need to tell others your problem in order to get help.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 9:57pm
You could write a note possibly. Or even just drop little hints here and there or bring the topic up a lot and maybe they will get it. You could also have someone else telk them for you.
I understand the desire to keep your personal problems to yourself, but I think clear communication is key. If the person needs to know, then you should try to be clear with them. If you don't feel like you can tell them plainly what you are going through, then perhaps they aren't someone who needs to know.
Maybe the best way to tell them is the truth but if that’s not an option just try explaining what depression is and that you feel sad or just say google depression
Express to a person you trust what emotions you have been feeling lately such as stress or anxiety or the feeling of being overwhelmed. Explain to them what you are going through and how it makes you feel. They should then begin to understand what you’re going through.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2018 4:55am
I feel tired, emotionally and mentally. Like I can barely get out of bed in the morning or I don’t enjoy the same things anymore.
You can tell the weather so disturbing. And people annoying outside. I think I need fresh air or I need to go beach
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 6:38am
Telling someone you're depressed without saying it could involve simply showing them your feelings rather than trying to disguise them. If you're depressed and don't have the motivation to shower or take care of yourself, others are likely to notice. If your sleeping patterns become erratic and lead to abnormal behavior, those close to you will pick up on it. Things like loss of appetite can become obvious after a time, as well. Most importantly, though, I think is not pretending to be ok. You don't have to put on a happy face to appease anyone or hide your true feelings. People close to you will notice a change in your demeanor and suspect that something is wrong.
Sometimes people can tell that you're unhappy even without telling them. Your body language is a clear indicator.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2021 6:40pm
I have found that telling someone how you feel tends to been more effective than telling someone what your diagnosis is or what you think it is. This of course assumes that you don’t I have an actual diagnosis yet. For instance, instead of saying “I have depression†or “I think I have depression†you can say “I feel down, lonely, worthless, etc. a lot of the time and it has been getting in the way of the things I enjoy.†I like to focus on the things that we know are true, like how we feel and things that have happened rather than what we think about those facts, because opinions can differ wildly especially when it comes to mental health.
By his/her words the things that makes you notice is the way they say their story and their problem also their reactions identify a lot using words that can make you image it which also helps making a great listener, And never makes you feel like he or she has a difficult time typing it. A good listener will notice that the way he or she even feels from just typing, like maybe the victim is typing really fast that differs to anxiety or depression but slow with a lot of mistakes may differs that the person have no problems.
Depression is an emotion, not a state of mind.
Being "depressed" is not the same as being asthmatic, or some other medical symptom.
Depression occurs as a way of coping with how we think life is. If we find life challenging, or get easily rattled by different circumstances then we will experience feelings of depression more often than others might.
I say all that to just mean. Don't take it so seriously. If you are having a tough time with things and feeling in a dark place, then just be open about it. If you express it as just a feeling, rather than a diagnosis, then people will be more comfortable and understanding.
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