How to tell someone you're depressed without saying it?

Mmm maybe you can say that you have been feel really sad for a long time, that it involves others parts that like lees appetite and insomnia

Hmm.... honestly my answer is a question. What reasons do you have for not saying "depressed"? Is it that you don't want your friend or parent or teacher to 'freak out'? Are you yourself afraid of something, like what their reaction might be? Sometimes it is good to say out loud those hard (okay, very difficult!) things. Other times it's okay to cut yourself some slack and beat around the bush a bit. I do find though that the more I come at a conversation or subject head on, even when I *really!* don't want to ... when I face that topic straight on and with honesty, the person I'm talking with usually can understand me better and can offer the help I need - or offer to go with me to find such help. Maybe you could ask yourself, what do I want this 'someone' to know and what do I hope their response will be?

Tell them you feel lonely and you feel that you need help. Tell them you aren't having as much fun with life. You need someone to talk to.

You can express the feelings you've been having toward yourself, this might express to the other person that you have depression without explicitly stating it.

Perhaps you would find it easier to write it down. You could write a letter to someone explaining how you are feeling. Maybe include in that letter that you are struggling to say it out loud. The main thing is that you tell someone whether that be verbally or written. You could also think about sending an email or a text message. Whatever you feel most comfortable with. This can also be a good tool to use when going to seek help from a medical professional. That was if you aren't able to actually verbally say you're depressed, you can show them what you have written down .

There are lots of ways, but here are some that might work. You could describe how your feelings and your symptoms (i.e. I've been feeling down, I lack an appetite etc) You can be more general and say that you are struggling right now, going through a hard time, or something similar. If you want to avoid the face-to-face telling them, you can text, email, or write to them about it. You can just be up front and say it too even though it is difficult.

Start by telling someone about the feelings you are experiencing.. ring a helpline or speak to your doctor in confidence about your feelings. Feeling depressed and low is not a nice experience and wont just go away the more support the better and the more you open up about your feelings to your loved ones will also help them have a better understanding of what is going on and how you are feeling. Tell your loved one you feel low. Upset. Angry. Sad. Confused. Scared. What ever feeling you are experiencing try to tell someone who can help and support you.

You could say, I am not feeling like myself lately. For some reason, I am not so interested in activities I love and it’s making me feel sad. Have you ever felt like you were in a funk that you just couldn’t shake? That’s how I feel lately. People will understand. Life’s circumstances can push us down, but talking to someone who cares for you and wants what’s best is helpful. Asking them if they have noticed a change in you helps too. Because sometimes we don’t know we are depressed until it gets so bad that we feel stuck.

If it’s someone who has known you for a while, they probably would have picked up on the symptoms by now. The fact that you’re losing interest in all the things that you used to be interested in is usually the first indicator. If they are really close to you, they would also notice how your eating and sleeping patterns have changed. They would also get clued in due to the mood swings. Maybe you could tell them about how you have terrible mood swings often and how your eating and sleeping patterns have been changing for a while now.

Well, if it’s a loved one, they’ll probably notice on their own. Has your appetite changed? Have you been sleeping more? How often do you cry or break down? Does that glow of passion and excitement still sparkle in your eyes? You’re usually not you when you’re depressed. And people can tell, even if you think they can’t. They’ll notice your different behaviors. Often times people even talk different when they’re depressed. They might make a comment that’s “out of character” for them, or something of the sort. Believe it or not, people DO notice these things. And if they don’t, then don’t be afraid to bluntly explain to them how you’ve been feeling lately. They love you, I promise they really do want to be there for you.

Telling someone you are depressed without saying it? that's a difficult question... I ask myself this everyday when I want to open up to my family. When I want to let them know how alone I feel because they don't understand me. I don't know if they know I am depressed, if they do know and have never said anything to me... well I really wish they would say something. Some days I really think they do know but they choose not to say anything to me because they are scared they don't understand or they can't accept the reality that their daughter is depressed. Telling anyone you are depressed is one of the biggest challenges because you don't want to be seen differently, you simply want someone to be there for you, to understand you, to accept you, so you don't feel so alone.... I know I feel that way all the time. I want someone to see that I am hurting but not to make a big deal out of it. I want you to see that I am trying to get better, I am making an effort, but everyday is a challenge... Some days worse than others. I just want acceptance. Just see that, yes I am depressed but that doesn't mean there is something wrong with me. I am still normal... maybe not at the same level as you, but I am still normal and I am making the best effort to be the best person I can be. I am trying to be happy.

I recently got diagnosed with Depression as well as Social Anxiety. It took me nearly a year to build the confidence to finally seek help. Now, how did I manage to tell my GP this without speaking words? I spent some time writing down everything I feel all the time and things I struggle with, not needing to speak made me finally feel a little relieved I was able to finally get help. My suggestion, book an appointment with a GP, (If you haven't been diagnosed) and write down how you are feeling and why etc. If you have been diagnosed and want to tell family members / friends, writing down a note about it can also help and be really effective. Good luck.

While it's probably best to tell someone your depressed so that they understand and there is no chance of miscommunications, if you wanted to tell them without "telling" them per say, you could ask them questions. Questions like "Have you ever been depressed?" or "Do you know any good ways to stop feeling depressed?" could be good ways to help them realize you are going through this. Hopefully they will catch on, but of course there is always a chance of miscommunications or misunderstandings, as with everything. I hope this helps you out! Remember to shine bright and stay positive!

when they dont talk alot, have alot going on , always seem in an upaset mood . sometimes if they wear long sleeves it could indicate that. not all the time though

Expecting someone ,even if that someone is close to you, to know you are depressed without saying it is probably asking a lot. Everyone has there own things, gets stuck in their own head and might not always be paying as much attention as you would like. A tip would be to work out a code word with your primary support person to indicate that you are in a depressive episode or worse. This way if you may be uncomfortable talking about your feelings with this person at least they know what is going on with you so they can help you get what you need.

Hey, I am not doing that well. I feel pressured and suffocated. I have no clue for the start of it. I am just not being myself lately. I feel sad, angry,annoyed, and not heard. I have tried sorting things out but am not actually able to figure it out. Being not heard makes you feel not to live. But I am not that dumb to do something stupid. Just want to come out from this suffocation, want to be free, and want to breathe freely. Wanting to live my life, wanting to do things and wanting to help others.

Hi, welcome to 7cups. First I'm sorry to hear you're feeling low. Talking about our emotions directly can be daunting sometimes. Whether it's a fear of upsetting someone by telling then how we truly feel, a fear of being mocked, fear of being misunderstood or even a fear of getting better (it happens). Do you identify with any of these reasons for feeling a little reluctant to tell someone how you feel directly? There are many reasons for why people don't open up, but whatever the reason is, I just want to say I am so pleased to hear that you plan to reach out to someone. There are many ways to say it. "I haven't been dealing with things too well lately". A simple text to a friend, "I'm struggling at the minute, can we talk?/ Do you mind if we could meet up?" Those are just two ways, as there are already a lot of great answers to your question and wouldn't want to repeat any. Can you can figure out why you feel you can't tell someone directly? If so then maybe getting to the root or your concern will help in getting the courage to tell them directly. After all, if we can't explain how we feel directly, it can be difficult for someone to understand exactly how we feel. Best wishes 🙂

You can’t really tell someone your depressed without saying it, like others said you don’t have to say ‘I’m depressed’ I’ve struggled saying that to my mom and I haven’t even told her im struggling, I’m not diagnosing myself but if you can’t get the words out just say ‘recently I’m not coping with things very well, I haven’t (say what’s wrong) and I’ve been more emotional than ever(if you have)’ you don’t want them crying thinking it’s their fault, that’s the worst thing ever and you don’t want to be treated like your unwell because your the same person but just more down than usual.

Use a metaphor from nature... I am a leaf that has fallen to the ground and is supposed to blow in the wind, but is too heavy to move. You can share what functions you've stop doing or participating in. What in your life has changed because of your depression. What self care rituals have stopped? Which base level needs are you not meeting for yourself? What social engagements have you stopped participating in? How has it impacted your work life? An example: I just have a hard time getting up in the morning and I want to wear the same thing most days. I don't even care about taking a shower and even forget to eat some days. I am late to meetings and can't seem to focus on anything.

Leave a note or message to someone you can count on asking for the kind of support you know you might need during depressive times. Calling someone in for comfort and help doesn't mean you owe them any details or justification for why you're reaching out. When you've called someone in and they respond affirmatively, it gives a greater sense of closeness, better trust, and permission to be more open and vulnerable when you feel ready to talk now that you know they actively want to be here for you and are willing to listen. A message you could send that hints at the depression without making you come out with what's going on could say something like this: "Hey. I wanted to let you know why I might not seem myself lately. I think really need something to lift my spirits and feel supported right now, and that's hard for me to ask. Are you around? If I need to talk sometime, is it okay to confide in you?"

Without saying only those people will understand who know you. It is not a certain situation and will heal with time, so ask them to give you space. Focus must be on cure and not on explanation. Only case person won't do that is when they have accepted their state of mind as permanent, which is not true. Most of the time factors are external and with enough understand and counselling it can be dealt with. If telling someone close relation about it, its better to be clear and straight forward. You should not hide it. Better to have help around you when you need.

A common source of dismay is expecting someone else to notice depression through subtle hints, as it can be well hidden or even dismissed when someone asks you about it. You can begin with an opening to the topic such as, “I have been feeling unhappy lately, i would like to tell you more about it,” or “I need help, please listen to what I have to say.” You can start to elaborate and be honest from there. It is important to communicate your feelings in an unambiguous way; try to verbalise what is troubling you and convey the depth of your concerns. It is helpful if you are both sitting down and have the time to talk seriously about it.

In my experience, it can be really difficult to come out and ask for help, especially putting a label on it when there can be so much negative connotation to saying, "I'm depressed." Some of the world thinks it's funny or okay these days to be upset by something and throw the word around like it's a game, so it can be difficult to say it and feel like you're actually being heard. People care about you, and they want to help, so I encourage you to tell someone "Hey, sometimes I feel really overwhelmed by life, and sometimes I feel a little bit numb." and explain the symptoms that are affecting you and your relationships to them especially so they understand. The other day I had to tell a really good friend, "Hey, I'm sorry sometimes I get really overwhelmed by social interaction and all the things going on in my life and I just have to take some time to myself and I can't respond to texts when I'm like that. Thank you for understanding."

In order to get the help you need I suggest you reach out to get that help. And to be able to do that you need to be honest and tell them that you are depressed. No one is a mind reader and its not always easy to know if someone is depressed or not. I suggest that you just tell a trusted adult straight out. And they will direct you to help. Depression can be read as so many other emotions as well not just depression. They might not realize that it's depression.

This is hard. For me, I tried showing subtle signs. My subtle signs included trying to getting closer to my friends which showed them how I needed their support. It worked and will be able to help me overcome depression slowly. However, do not hesitate to get help! Depression is not something to be taken lightly. I earnestly hope all the best for you. xx

I'm just not feeling myself. The things I used to enjoy I now don't and all I want to do it sit and do nothing. I'm just sad. Just so super super sad. I cry for no reason just because it hurts so much inside. It's like there's stones in my heart and it's pulling me down and I don't have the energy to get back up. I feel hopeless and nothing will get better and this is it. I have to put on a smile though because I don't want people to worry. And often when I do try and talk about it I get shut down. "You're just tired", "Stop moaning", "You have so many good things in your life". So I just stay quiet because no one really cares. Which makes the feeling worse. Sorry to be a downer..

When a person is depressed, there are a few tell-tale signs that one can look out for; even when it has not been verbally confirmed that they are. Some of these signs include being withdrawn from society and family. How you converse; if your words are heavily negative or if they sound weak or slow in response, it could be noticed. Mood swings can be shown as well; a change in mood can indicate an imbalance of emotional state and if this is noticed, it can be understood that you're going through a tough time. In general, a depressed individual would pose a negative outlook on life through their words, behaviour, mood and cognitive functions. If you find yourself going through these symptoms/signs and/or more, please take care of yourself and remember, how you feel is valid and what you are going through is important for people to know. So please don't be afraid to let them know about your situation, if you can.

I think maybe just tell them that you’ve not been feeling yourself lately, maybe give hints about how your feeling and how this effects your daily life. Explaining depression is a hard thing to do, so maybe trying breaking it down into smaller parts, like maybe just starting with how long you’ve felt this way, or maybe how you want them to help you. I also think you should tell that your close to and think will understand and better be able to support you, by doing this you can establish a first conversation and then work it out from there.

If you're going to try to get the same message across, do it in the most straightforward way. Just tell them with an open heart and an open mind.

I would say that us as humans shouldn't judge each other by our depression.I just now took a test from a psychologist and it came oit for me as me having severe depression.Im starting to starve,damage,and keep my self up all night.I would say tell the ones who are close to you but, in a sad or serious tone.Im planning on telling my parents during the summer of 2018.And also on telling my Church friends that I have depression THIS Sunday.Give the "friends" a subtle hint and if they dont get your hint.Theyre not worth telling.