How can I tell my parents that I think I'm depressed?
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Ah, parents. Aren't they sometimes both wonderful and ignorant to mental health? In my case, talking with my parents and backing up my admissions with lots of resources helped them discover that mental health can present as something they don't understand. Depression has physical elements just as a common cold or serious physical illness might. When you choose to ask your parents to support you with depression, please have some online or doctors information to help them understand and respect your illness.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2017 9:42am
Telling them is never easy but sometimes not saying it out loud can help, so things like writing a note! A detailed note telling them how you are feeling and what you want to acheive by telling them that
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 2:57pm
Find a time when you can approach your mom or dad in a calm way. You might want to open the conversation by asking, "Can I talk to you? I think I might be depressed."
Or you could say, "I've been feeling depressed and bad about things. I've been thinking I might need to talk to someone."
If you can't bring yourself to start a conversation in person, you could write your parent a note saying you need to talk.
Try just telling them that you don't feel good and that you need to see a therapist. They're your parents and they should understand.
Sit them down and tell them what you're thinking, tell them the symptoms you think you have and why you think you're depressed. They want to know, they want to be able to help you.
Telling your parents that you are depressed can be really difficult . You may get a negative or a positive response . Sometimes parents understand , and will talk to you about the situation and help you find a way to fix the problem . But sometimes , they might not understand , not believe you or think that you are exaggerating your emotions . But if you believe you are depressed , your emotions are valid and your need for help is valid . Regardless of the possible outcome , you should seek help from a trusting adult when you feel that you need it . Recognizing the problem is 75% of the job done ! Fixing it , is the next 25% . When I told my parents I was depressed and having suicidal tendencies , they thought that I was exaggerating my feelings and that I was just going through a 'phase' . My extended family thought I was nuts because I was asking for therapy . But after being persistent , they finally accepted to take me for therapy . Attending therapy really helped me personally . I no longer face depression or suicidal tendencies !
Tell them how you are feeling, the "symptoms" you may be feeling, why you think are you depressed and also what you may want to do about it.
It may be a good idea to ask them for some one on one time together. That way, they will understand it is something incredibly serious. Always remember, they will support you no matter what, so feel free to spill all your feelings out. They will always be there for you, and they will always listen to what you need to say.
Keep in mind that your parents love you, very much. Any reaction they have is probably based in love and that they don't want to see or hear that their child is suffering. I might sit them down and tell them that I've been struggling with depressive feelings for a while, and while I waited to see if they changed, they haven't. I would mention that you want to get better, and that you want to make it through this and they are very important to that process. Good luck!
You can talk first about depression in general. Like talking about what depression is and how depressed one feels depends on how you feel, and gradually telling them you think you're depressed and this though is a strong one which you're not faking because you really know how sensitive this subject can be.
It really helps when your parents feel that you're aware of what you're saying.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2019 5:40pm
Asking for help can be very difficult, and especially asking for it from those we love. When you have a hard time and are struggling, it may feel simpler to close off from others. However, getting the help and support we need, is very important and should be a priority.
A good step, would be first to chose a time that is optimal for the discussion, so that there are no distractions for your parents and they can focus on what you have to tell them.
From there, you can open up to them about the struggles you have been facing and how this has made you feel. You can ask to discuss options of what to do about it, such as talking to your doctor about it, going to see a therapist, etc from there, and making sure you get the support and care that you need to take care of your mental health.
I hope this helped, and I wish you the best of luck and strength for this! 💛
Anonymous
June 16th, 2016 2:42am
You are not alone in this. Tell your family you need to speak with them privately. When you have the chance to do so, be open and honest with them. Let them know you're struggling and need their support. Ask them for guidance and to seek professional help. You can do this. Good luck.
Talking about depression to an adult can be scary. You might feel uncomfortable talking about issues like self-harm, suicidal ideation because you're afraid of making your parents worried or upset. But they'll be glad that you told them and reached out for help and can even help you receive the attention and support you need. You might want to open the conversation by asking, "Can I talk to you? I've been feeling really upset and unhappy lately and it's been getting out of hand. I've been thinking I might need to talk to someone about it. I think I might be depressed."
Your parents will love you just the same. Every parent is different, some may have a hard time wrapping their head around depression. Try helping them feel like it isn't their fault. It's great that you're trying to get help, I'm proud of you.
Here is a helpful link to look at if you want to process things at your own speed: https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/talk-depression.html
Opening up to your family can be SO scary because you are making yourself vulnerable and sharing something very personal to yourself. I think the most important thing is to be honest with them as they will be able to see how what you're telling them is something important and therefore they will understand and want to support you to get you the help you need. Taking that step to telling your parents is a massive step but definitely a daunting one and shouldn't be diminished. It is something that will take time. Don't rush into it if you don't feel ready but make sure you reach out to someone who you do feel comfortable to talk to to ensure you're getting the support you need.
Admitting to feel depressed is already a great step to then move on and ask for help, so if you are wondering how to talk to your parents about your concerns of being depressed, I believe that this means you are already on the right path and want to be helped. As it is not easy at all to suffer with depression, it is also not easy for those around us, especially if they don't know what is going on with us. People with depression might feel embarrassed or intimidated to open up about how they feel, but it is crucial that they do so to receive help. On the other hand, it is also very difficult to deal with someone suffering with depression. Often, also the people around us feel intimidated when they hear the word 'depression' and don't know how they can help, what are the right things to say, what to avoid saying. Carers too need help to know how to handle a beloved suffering with depression, but sadly, it can happen that the challenge is too much and their sense of helplessness leads them to move away from the depressed person making things even worse. If you are blessed to have loving parents, who better than them would immediately help you unconditionally, who better than them would never leave you and would support you all the way through this journey? Do not be afraid and talk to them about it. They will be there for you always and whatever happens, they will not abandon you. They will help you finding the best possible care and will collect you when you feel that you are falling apart. You will always have a safe place with them, you will always find a part of arms ready to hold you tight when you feel dreadfully scared and lonely. They will understand you in your silence, they will read the look in your eyes. Parents are our light, that light at the end of the tunnel which gave us life once and can bring us back to life as many times as we need it.
Parents are the most precious thing to a child as the child is the most precious thing for parents. They will see in your fragility at this time, a huge strength for having come forward and having exposed your weakness to them. They will incredibly appreciate your honesty to them and be thankful for it. Love between parents and their children is unconditional: remember, they are there for you for good and bad times. Always. Even when you think they wouldn’t understand you. Even if you feel them not close to you, they are. Good luck.
Sharing depression with a parent is tough. They may react differently. They may think nothing is wrong and have too much pride. They may respond helpfully. An effective way to do so is not necessarily say depressed but explain how you specifically feel and the symptoms. That way, they will have an idea of how to help you.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2016 1:09pm
Parents usually don't like to admit that their kid might need help. They have more difficulty in acceptance than the kid themselves. The child can calmly explain to their parents what he/she has been feeling lately and let them understand the meaning of it themselves.
Sit down with them and tell them you need to seriously discuss something with them, tell them you're not sure about it but you may be depressed and explain what symptoms make you think so, and then they should set you up with therapist.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2016 7:55pm
It may be hard, but sometimes just being strait forward is the easiest thing to do, so try to just tell them.
One can simply go to any one of the parent and tell them about the problems that they're facing in life and what really makes them feel depressed, Parents are there to help us out and support us and so they will make sure that we get out of the bad state as soon as possible.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 7:52am
Come straight out and tell them. It may seem scary, but they are your parents, and their job is to help and protect you. Get professional help and stay strong.
I would tell them by sitting them down at a table, where there are NO distractions and they have your undivided attention. When you are face to face with no distractions, its showing them the seriousness of the situation. Once you tell that you think that you are depressed, let them know that you are seeking help from them.
Telling an adult when you think that youre depressed is a commendable deed. It shows that you want change and that way you can all learn what and what not to do. You all can search ways to receive help and make a great change.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2018 6:56pm
They are my parents and i dont need to shy to share my problems. I will try my best to convey my troubles. Hope , they will understand. Atleast they may help you .
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 5:31pm
if you are depressed , talk to some one you are very close to and kinda see if you really are . If you find out you are , ask politely to your parents have them sit down and have a serious conversation . Seek some help .
First, it's important to tell them. But the way you will do it is very important too. Choose easy words but significative, try to explain why you're feeling that way or since when, and be ready for one or two little questions from them. It's difficult to understand and to accept as a parent.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2018 2:26am
Just tell them. There isn’t really a right way to do it as long as you convey why you feel the way you do. Ask to see a professional. You need a diagnosis to officially be considered depressed. The sooner the better.
Coose the perfect time when your parents are having the free time. That way, they can listen more to your problems.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 4:17am
You can try to approach the topic by testing the waters and gauging their opinion on depression before broaching the actual statement. It also helps to make sure you understand it well enough to explain to your parents if they don’t understand.
When I was younger I tried to hide it, I would look tired from staying up crying, Again I would lash out, Till one day I met a gitl who I fell for, Some things happened and I ended up cutting myself deep, The girl told my mum which ended up in me going down stairs and showing my mum, My point is, I should have just told her first
Having faced this conversation before and not having it go well, just trust in yourself and in your parents, if you know that you have loving parents who have supported you in the past then trust that they can handle this and they will be there to support you now, as I said my conversation did not go well I was persecuted my by own mother for the topic of my depression and it made me feel hopeless but I found 7 cups of tea and a listener saved my life, they were there when no one else was. I’m hoping that for you your parents will be there for you no matter what, but if that’s not the case we here at 7 cups of tea are here 24/7
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