How can depressed people withdraw from people that love them but go to work and act like all is fine??

At work (in most cases, I'm sure there are many professions where this doesn't apply), it is easy to emotionally distance yourself from the situation. You can go on a sort of auto-pilot. Typically, people don't notice because you're not really expected to be particularly emotionally demonstrative in the workplace anyway. However, at home & around loved ones, there is the expectation of being open with your emotions. When what you're experiencing is difficult or painful, it can be overwhelming to be around people who want so much from you emotionally. And trying to fake happiness can be even more exhausting. Loved ones don't give us the option of being on auto-pilot, so the alternative tends to be to simply withdraw.

It is your life to chose between success and failure. I've gone through this and right now I feel far more better, the reason is because I left the girl I loved behind. Most of them are toxic and that's why you feel depressed. It's your life, and they have theirs', believe me that they don't really care about you're life (If they're toxic) At first it feel's hard and not right but after sometime you know that you've done the right thing. You can try to do one of these: 1. Try some new interests 2.Tell the person you love that you, love them but you need some break. 3.stop thinking of them by making new friends 4. make sure you're always happy by doing what you like. Hope you get better , and forget to ask questions if you need help. We are all her to help you.

Work is a requirement. I have to go to work to make money. Love is also a requirement, but it's not up in your face like work is. It's really easy to accidentally withdraw from people, but if you miss work too much you suffer immediate consequences. As far as acting like all is fine, that's pretty normal for depression and other illnesses. It's hard to accept that you need help. Work is also an easy task for the most part. You have a simple job. Accepting or asking for help is really hard. Most jobs don't require you to step out of your comfort zone, whereas starting conversations and reaching out usually does. It's always hard to see a friend struggle but act like everything is okay, and oftentimes the only thing you can give them is support. What that support is differs for each person.

This is a survival instinct. If you look at Maslow's hierarchy basic needs of food and shelter have a higher ranking than relationships with family and friends. Going to work provides the means to purchase food and shelter. It also provides the ability to form relationships with co-workers from a distance, which can be more comfortable and far easier than forming relationships with friends and family. Relationships with friends and family take effort and can be complicated. While you are going through this process let your friends and family know what you are feeling and remind them that you are struggling. This will help them not to feel hurt by your withdrawal and will help them to know how to support you better.