Why do I feel so hurt and like crying when someone use offensive words to me?
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Last Updated: 03/26/2018 at 11:52pm
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We all find it hurtful when others don't respect us, and sadly the use of language is the most basic and common way to offend another person. Vulgar words used against someone feels as though they have been branded with that hateful word, that the receiving person is categorized under a filthy word. Nobody deserves to be branded with such words and that is why we find it so terrible to be labelled with such words, as we don't deserve to be.
You feel hurt because you are human. Nobody likes being offended and nobody deserves to be offended. Avoid believing what they say. You gotta be on your side, not on theirs.
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 6:41pm
Everyone will feel that at some point. You may be hurt when people say that to you because you may believe them or you think it's true.
Because you have feelings. It's natural to feel that way and it's perfectly fine to cry! You're only human.
Because you take their words too personal. Always remember: only your opinion about yourself matters. People tend to offend others when they feel unhappy, so their words are not objective and usually describe their own pain.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 4:41am
A possible reason why you might be feeling this way is because you are not used to this kind of language and the sheer aggressive nature of offensive language is overwhelming. It is called offensive language because the particular words are not meant for positive thinking.
It often branches from a low self-esteem. There could be any amount of reasons, but that seems like the most common one. But it's important not to let negative comments toward us be a reflection of us, because it reflects poorly on the person saying them.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 5:06am
Honestly, some of us are sensitive and it is probably one of the greatest qualities I have. It makes me feel more alive.
Anonymous
November 1st, 2016 12:58am
When people are horrible to us we can sometimes project the things that the person abusing us has said to ourselves, It may be worthwhile establishing a boundary that this behaviour is unacceptable if the behaviour is consistent. Seeking support from someone who speaks to us more positively can boost our mood and give us a sense of happiness after these challenging situations.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 11:58am
You don't have to care about their opinions they just offend you to bring you down and make you sad but you have to show them that you are strong and that you don't care what they think
You feel like you want to cry bcause it's a natural response to being hurt. When someone says something harmful to you, your hurt. It's as simple as that.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2016 7:43am
because offensive words aren't nice to be used against a person therefore they hurt your feeling and your automatic response when hurt physically, emotionally and/or mentally is to cry!
This is quite the question.... Offensive words. let's change that term to bad words.. Why are words even bad.. did someone think of it then said it's bad? Is the word ''Bad'' itself, Bad? Defining bad words can be very hard because the answer will vary. However, us humans are built just like the inside of a cage. we are weak yet we are special. We are smart yet we make the most ridiculous blunders and why is that? It's because we're simply humans. Just saying that for a matter of fact PEOPLE offense PEOPLE it's us not the words. think of it when someone finds an annoying song yet he likes it. people decide if its annoying or not. We put the base meaning of ''annoying'' so the song becomes popular. who do we blame? The song.. BUT who should've been blamed? People. it's kind of hard to explain it but i'm sure you'll understand. Hope that answered that question
It's because words, like you said, hurt. That whole "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," is just what we tell ourselves so it seems like it doesn't hurt as much as it does. Just hold your head up high an be true to who you are :)
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 1:25am
Words are meaningful than actions. It's normal to feel hurt. But sometimes, you need to know if something is a joke or not :)
Anonymous
March 26th, 2018 11:52pm
You may feel like crying when someone use offensive words to you because it made you think that you did something wrong or it's so direct that it triggered you to start crying.
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