Why do I always get pushed around, even when I have done nothing to them?
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Because, you've got something they will never have, you have a beautiful soul, heart and mind. And that is something they want, but will never earn the satisfaction of having. Stay beautiful ^-^
I know the feeling I went from being bullied to becoming a bully.
Some people simply push others around to make them feel more superior to mask their own insecurities or depression in life. It's nothing person usually they just need someone to talk to and don't have anyone. Sometimes people do it to just fit in and end up being hurt in the process because of peer pressure. Don't take it personally!
Some people just like to push others around to feel better about themselves. Don't take it personally!
Sometimes people take out their own frustrations and problems on other people. Try to stand up for yourself and point out when you're being treated unfairly.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2016 12:03pm
you have to start saying no to people. and building your confidence , people see you as a easy target okay :) so be stronger
You do not deserve to be pushed around, and please never believe anyone who tries to tell you otherwise. Don't let someone's cruelty make you a bitter person in return. Keep smiling!
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 5:28pm
You know, some people are just mean :(
Anonymous
November 7th, 2017 2:22am
Because you perhaps didn't put your foot down and stand your grounds. People can take advantage of you if you're too naive and genuine. Speak up and voice out your stance if you're dissatisfied about something.
Because they are jealous of how awesome you are , they envy qualities and talents that you have and they don't.
Be confident and rock it.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2017 3:44pm
Bullies bully because it makes them feel good about themselves so the find the person they think would be an easy target. Just ignore them don't let them see it gets to you. Always remember they want a reaction dont give them one.
Some people are insecure and can feel the need to control others if this is happening talk to a trusted adult about how the people pushing you around are making you feel
Bullies tend to do what they do because their lives are bad, and they want to feel better, so they take it out on others, so that they will know that they are feeling better than them. It is not your fault, you have not done anything wrong or anything bad. Everyone has something special in them and you are someone special. Report them to the authorities, or teachers or whoever you can. Take the time to know yourself, and who you are, never let anyone change the way that you feel about yourself, and what matters most to you. When you know yourself, and love yourself, no one can stop you, or push you around and make you feel less, because you know who you are, and who you will be, and the people who know who you really are, will be with you, and be by your side and care for you.
Sometimes people believe that they are superior and like to intimidate others, if just once you let them get away with it they then think you will always let them and it continues on from there. To stop it from happening you have a few options: if you feel confident enough to, you can speak up for yourself and say you no longer will allow this to happen, this often shocks them and they move on from you. Alternatively you can speak to someone of a higher level than them so that they can be disciplined!
Anonymous
February 29th, 2016 2:48pm
There are times that people push you around because they are insecure of themselves or having problems also. They might be encountering issues with family, friends etc. and bullying is an outlet for them. It isn't right to tolerate this things, asking an elderly for assistance would be the best option.
It's not you. You haven't done anything to them, and yet they're treating you this way. I think it's because they have some demons of their own to face. It could be anything, family life or grades, and they're taking it out on you. But whatever they do, it's not your fault. You could try negotiating them to see if they will listen, and if they don't, know that it is not because of anything you did, but because of something that's happened or is happening to them. There are better ways of taking out these emotions, like talking to someone like you are now, and maybe that is what they need to feel better about life.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2018 3:37am
You can get pushed around even when you had done nothing wrong because they want to feel better about themselves about their situation or even they are in need of something at the moment.
People tend to focus on not those who fit in with the group but those who do not. If you are getting pushed around, hold your ground and communicate what you want until it is done.
It doesn't have to do anything with doing something wrong. They are just trying to show that they are stronger. Do not let them.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 4:23pm
I can understand. Sometimes you have to stand up for youself and make it clear that you dont want to pushed around. Remember, noone can make you feel inferior without your consent.
I have been known to be the person with their head stuck in a book. Therefore, sometimes people would look at me and think that it would be funny to try to provoke me.
I used to bully people a lot and it would actually help me feel more powerful and superior. I eventually realized how much I was hurting others and it was enough guilt to make me stop and apologize to them. Believe it or not, I ended up becoming friends with some of them!
Hope this helped :)
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 6:56am
People like to push others around for no particular reason. If they push you around, stand up for yourself. That's the best you can do.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 2:52am
Tell them to stop and if this doesn't work go to a trusted adult. Best option is just ignoring them
Anonymous
February 16th, 2015 5:28am
People who are not happy being themselves push around people who dont deserve it to make themselves happy
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