What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
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Tell yourself the names aren't true, that the person is just doing it because they feel bad about themselves
I personally go back to Lenny Bruce many years ago, and how he ranted about the fact that they're just words!! Take a deep breath, chuckle or smile internally, then remain calm and show the individual that you are not affected by their childishness.. Anyone can easily be childish. A better, calmer, smarter person is always the winner in this situation, and most others.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 3:44am
Put your mind on something else, such as sports or family/friends, block the mean person&tell someone
Telling yourself they are WRONG! You are everything wonderful in this world, nothing less than the best! Repeat that to yourself over and over!
Ignore and avoid them. If you feel you can't do it alone, go with someone the will support what your saying
You simply can't ignore them! The first thing that I would suggest to you is to forgive them. You can move on until you do.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 7:15pm
If someone is calling you mean names you should tell an trusted adult, for example a teacher, family or career
If someone calls you something mean, know that that person is hurting inside and is bullied by others and by themselves. Someone who hates and criticises others only does that because they do this to themselves. Have compassion for that mean person, because they are struggling so much inside, and this is how you will no longer be bothered by what they say to you.
You have to guard your heart; remember to keep a secure self image of yourself and never let the names they call you get to you. If they already got to you, and you feel hurt, you can talk it out with someone you are comfortable with. Empathy is important in this area, because you are in a state of grief or anger. Next, use these insults as a stepping stone for a brighter future. If they called you fat, then choose to work out so they can no longer can accuse you of so in the future. Or, you could express your emotions through art- visual art, dance, music, ect.
Surround yourself with positive people who lift you up. People who say good things about you and treat you how you deserve to be treated.
You could have a talk with this person, speak with a school counselor, or inform your parents about the situation.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 3:16am
Ignoring him or tell him thank you you're right and i have to start changing that you made me notice that bad in me
Ignore them and understand that people who are nasty are only trying to make themselves feel about because they are negative towards themselves.
The best way is to ignore them. Most of the time they do it for attention. If that doesn't work, tell someone who might have an impact on their behavior. Make sure that it's someone who won't join in with them.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 5:00pm
Think about the things you are good at that they aren't. Think abou things you have that they don't. Compare yourselves to them. Realize you are better then them and what they say means nothing to you.
I had this happen to me before and it’s hard to ignore those kinds of people. You have to make sure that you have enough confidence to know that you are not those things
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 5:33pm
Remind yourself that those names don't define you or your personality. You are not to blame for their inability to be kind.
Think of all the good people have told you and remember that they are the ones that need more love and understanding.
Rise above it. Realize that these names doesn't define who YOU are, that YOU do that. It can be difficult, but in the end it'll pay off if you do it. Or, what worked for me, fake it till you make it. Eventually it'll stop being fake and you won't care.
Acknowledge your own positive qualities and the negative qualities of the person who is calling you these names. Point out to yourself the good qualities you have that that person doesn't. be careful not to turn this exercise into a hatred towards that person, for this could spiral into an unhealthy hate obsession. Just focus on you and the people in your life who care about you and don't agree with the person who is consistently insulting you.
Ignore them. In life, there will always be people who are jealous of you, due to which they might act with pettiness.
Just remember that you are the best and don't let their negative vibes affect you
You shouldn't care about what they say to you. You have to ignore it and move on with your life. They don't deserve to be in your future, so why listen to the terrible things they're saying? If you ignore them, they'll stop because they'll see that you're not affected by it anymore. People becomes bullies because they feel less than others, so they need to be put up above someone else; the weakest link and that's how they see you. So stand up to them, insult them back. Fight back against them, you can even walk away from them. If they're not going to be in your life, then they shouldn't matter to you. Keep your chin up and keep smiling because we need more happiness in this world
Block them from your life, your phone, your social media and from any where else. Don't allow people in your life that are mean to you. Don't fall into the drama trap. Just close the door on them and move on with your life. Surround yourself with positive, people who love you just as you are.
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is to be sure in who you are. To be distraught over someone else calling you a name you do not like to be called is to believe they're right or that they hold some kind of power over you to tag you as something you don't want to be tagged or labeled as. That said, you need to ask yourself why on Earth you'd believe such ridiculousness? When something feels wrong, it is wrong. Knowing so is grounds for a laugh. There's always grounds for a laugh.
I know verbal bullying can really hurt but just remember that you are the lead of your own life and although people say mean things you have the ability to prove them wrong. Also remember that bullies who verbally abuse people are usually very hurt inside even though they may not show it. We all have our troubles and some people are just better at hiding it. Instead of being hurt from the bully try and sympathize with them.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 11:48am
Ignore him, make him know that you won't feel bad for what they say, becaouse you know that you are amazing
To get over it, one must first remember that they are loved, cherished and important. That They're amazing people and they are perfect just as they are. If one loves oneself, they can find it easy to deal with name calling.but yea, if it gets too overboard, one must try reporting it to the concerned authorities ( teachers, HR department etc). Also, i personally believe in ' killing them with kindness' as they require some of it desperately and they get humbled when faced with kindness being shown to them.
Telling the one who is making yourself feel uncomfortable that you don’t like being called in that way
Finding a name for yourself, which fits one of your good personality / phisical traits, and keep that in mind, while understanding: Someone calling you nasty names, is not trying to look into your complex human assesment, and is only able to highlight one bad thing in you.
The best way to get over that is to ignore that person and don't respond to them if they call you nasty names. If it really bothers you,try to talk to that person about that you don't like being called like that
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