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What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?

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What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
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ellecbr
October 22nd, 2017 4:05am
My answer is a cliché one, you can just ignore them. It works well! But to be honest, it's not that easy. You can start off by thinking that their opinions on you don't really matter. You're you, and you don't need to care about someone else thinking you're fat, ugly, weird, or more. You don't need someone else's approval to love yourself.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 7:27pm
just think positive its the only way to go. then you just find nice things to say to yourself like: i am a good person i can do anything i want to and i can be anything i want to be.
reflectivePRISMS
December 10th, 2015 11:04pm
I think that the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is to call them something nasty back. It always works then they will stop :)
blissfulKiwi74
June 22nd, 2018 8:04pm
Ignore them because they are only doing that for attention and if you give them attention then they will get what they want and win. Most of the time, the people that call you nasty names do so because they feel bad about themselves and want someone to feel the same way.
LittleButterfly
July 4th, 2018 5:45pm
It can be really tough to get over something like that. Words can cause so much damage. As hard as it may be, and what has helped me also, is to try to remind yourself that what others do and say has nothing to do with you. People who are negative to others often feel miserable with themselves or an aspect of their life. That in no way excuses their behaviour, but in saying that, people sometimes unfortunately try to bring others down to raise themselves above those individuals. But sometimes, people are just mean for no given reason. At the end of the day, what people say and do is only a reflection of who they are, not who you are.
elizabethunter
July 11th, 2018 5:58pm
Just ignore it.They are doing it because they are contstantly thinking about you which is different from you,you dont thin about them at all.If you ignore it there is a huge chance for them to stop.And also whatever they say you know the truth,that you are beautiful just the way you are!!!
Imheretohelpu12
July 13th, 2018 1:25pm
Remember that you can’t please everybody. We aren’t perfect and we can’t please everyone and that’s ok because we are all different. Stop remembering what someone said negatively about you and start remembering more often about the compliments that people who really care about you tell you. That’s what you should focus on, the people who love you and want to see at your best.
Nansidrew
July 27th, 2018 6:09pm
Just know that what people say is a definition of who they are, not who you are. If people call you nasty names, it is because they think poorly of themselves. Furthermore, if people spread positivity, they are most likely happy, healthy individuals.
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 11:15pm
You have probably heard "They're just jealous" before, but that might be exactly why they do that. Just remember you are fantastic and that person doesn't know what they're messing with!
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 5:12am
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is to remind yourself that the person may be going through terrible things at home. Ignore the person, they will eventually stop.
CandyMandie1391
October 14th, 2016 12:47pm
Know your self-worth, if you know who you really are, those words have nothing on you, I know it is not easy but rather focus on your succes, people calling you names are usually jealose
HummingWisdom179
October 1st, 2016 5:50am
Filter those nasty names; an insult is a compliment wrapped in spikes. Don't fight fire with fire, though, as you don't know what they could be going through!
Sewyn
August 12th, 2018 11:15am
Take those insult and wear it like an shield, it won't bother you anymore if you know these ain't true, and most important, if they see they can't hurt you they'll get tired of it.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2016 2:36pm
The people who call you names, they don't care about you. What they say is downright mean, and though it hurts, know that those people are just being mean and that it's not your fault they targeted you.
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 6:30am
Often nasty names hurt because we try to associate some truth to it. We question whether or not we deserve those harmful words--and if we have self doubt, those words can damage our hearts. Write down the word. Figure out why it makes you feel so awful. Remove the emotional charge from the word...Then, discover where the venom from the individual is coming from. Hurt people hurt people. Find comfort and validation from your own heart and remove the sting of someone's sharp tongue by ignoring them--or take it a step further, and see if maybe they have some issues that they are unable to resolve.
sunsetflowers130
July 6th, 2019 1:25am
It can be hard when people are calling you nasty names. One good way to cope with it is to just ignore it. If they see that you don’t care, they will most likely stop because all they really want is a reaction. If you feel like you need someone to talk to, you can ask a close friend or family member. You can also talk to anyone here at 7 cups! we are always ready to listen and it is a good way to let your feelings out. If it gets to the point where you need professional help, you can connect with a local therapist or a therapist online.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 10:30pm
Just think to yourself your better than getting emotional over stupid evil people and your better than them!always remember your not the only one going through this,we can all help you and alot of people care about you x
SilveryBlueSkies
December 30th, 2015 3:19pm
It can take you a while to understand that someone who has to resort to calling you nasty names doesn't have enough creativity to come up with something better to do with their time. they are also closed minded. these types of people often end up sitting at home on unemployment in the future wishing they had 5 more $ for a bag of chips to go with their small fuzzy television set playing some old timey movie. People who have sucessful futures are those who have creativity to be innovative and are open minded.
Cosmiclover01
December 30th, 2015 3:32pm
Just don't take it personal and try to brush it off. In reality, who cares what they're saying. Most of the time, those individuals just have their own hangups, therefore, they choose to pick on someone else to make themselves feel better. Do your best to ignore it and don't give them the satisfaction of gaining a reaction from you.
VanessaCheetoh
February 19th, 2020 7:12am
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is by taking a moment and think about how you are not defined by someone else. You define who you are. It is easier said than done but remember who you are. Remember what they are saying is what they are projecting onto you they are having issues within themselves that have nothing to do with you. You and only you have the power to define who you are as a person. Show them apathy and that they will not get a reaction out of you to put all your energy towards yourself.
wonderfulWaterfall86
January 13th, 2016 3:15pm
Ignore them. It doesn't matter what people call you. You know who you are. You know what you have done. You are the expert on you. No one else.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2019 6:55pm
The way others call you by nasty names , says a lot about themselves than you. So don't be bothered by such people . They don't have anything better to do in their life . So instead of worrying about such things , you should use those time to improve and love yourself . You should have a strong mind . Nasty name calls , shouldn't be taken into your heart . You should avoid such people in your life . And yeah don't let it affect you . Be with positive people and live happily . Cheers
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 2:37pm
Ignore it .They will stop it because they will become tired while you becomes stronger.Be ready to see them becoming weak after seeing that you are not affected.
Jazyjeff
January 21st, 2016 9:35pm
Ignore them, they aren't worth it, what they really want is a reaction don't give them that satisfaction
Rayofhope10
December 25th, 2015 8:10am
Just ignore them.Stop takng personal.They are wasting their own time so you dont waste your time :)
Shikamaru42
December 23rd, 2015 12:29pm
That depends on you and your situation. I think there's two general ways to do it. Firstly, you can try to simply ignore that person through calmness and ease of mind. Secondly, you can listen to the insults and use them to feed your motivation, basically turning the negative stuff being thrown at you into positive energy. Both ways require lots of practice but they are likely to pay off in the end.
IAmGladUCame
January 6th, 2016 5:57pm
Not paying attention. Saying that there's no need for all of that, and that conversation is not healthy at all.
GoldenRuleJG
November 17th, 2020 9:12pm
It's relevant to know that any arguement or fight does not give any man or women a free pass to endorse in name-calling against their significant other. You may feel obliged to defend their actions that indicate any sort of verbal abuse because you are in love with them and feel this is normal in a relationship if you have not experienced one before or feel the need to give their behaviour as bad as it is the benefit of the doubt. Please take a moment to reflect whether or not you feel safe with them - abusive relationships are not always about physical violence but can be about control do. Do consider whether you have sacrificed things that make you happy , hence is the love conditional on your significant others part ? Any form of verbal abuse should be responded in a diplomatic way by letting the person know you did not appreciate what they said to let them know what your boundaries are clearly. The effects domestic violence can have on children can affect their self-esteem and make them feel that the abusive behaviour between their parents is justifiable and normal.
Chinchillin
January 1st, 2016 6:11am
If it were as easy as just saying the right thing, or doing one thing, we all would have learned it a long time ago. Instead, what you really need to focus on are the principles that cause someone to do that. Basically, people behave that way because they know that it bothers the other person - in that sense, they get a feeling of power and superiority by getting a rise out of you.So the way to get them to stop is to show that it doesn't bother you, to demonstrate that their opinion of you does not matter, that you are above their taunts, or their insults. Begin by asking yourself why their words bother you, and then analyze it, consider it, and figure out the truth of the matter, your own truth, how you see it. And then, when they call you those names, you'll no longer be bothered because you'll understand their motivations, and you'll know your own truth. And with that, those words will stop bothering you, and they will no longer have any reason to call you names.
IBelieveInYouHannahh
January 3rd, 2016 8:11am
The best way I think, from experience, is knowing that what they are saying is abosolutly not true. Most people try to put others down because they're jealous. Don't let anyone tear you down. Your amazing just the way you are.💕