How do I tell an adult that I am being bullied and not look like a snitch?
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You're never a snitch for telling an adult you're being bullied, but if you want to be discrete about it, you could always go up to them when the they are alone and tell them the situation and kindly ask them to not mention your name.
write an anonymous letter saying who the bully is and what theyre doing. the more specific the better . and never be scared to tell. bullying is always wrong.
Being bullied is a very serious topic. When you go ask for help and tell someone that you're being bullied you're not being a snitch. You're helping yourself which is a great first step. Go to someone you trust and tell them about what's been going on.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 1:53am
You can be a snitch because the bully deserves getting in trouble. They deserve to be punished for what they did.
First, make sure it's an adult you trust. Also ask them to be discreet in how they handle it (as in, not calling you out as the person who reported it). Overall, you shouldn't worry about being a 'snitch' to someone who is deserving of being called out anyways. You're allowed to stand up for yourself.
Try to find an adult you can confide in and trust it will make it more comfortable for you! Tell them that you don't want to look like a snitch and they will understand! They will help and they will figure out a way with you to help with the situation :)
If someone is harming you emotionally, or making feel uneasy about what you do or simply what you are, and if you aren't able to stop this person from behaving in the toxic way that they do, you should mention it to said adult. Perhaps try not making their name known if that gets in the way of letting this off your chest. Just keep in mind that when it comes to things like bullism, feeling like a "snitch" is not even close to a real problem. They are behaving in a harmful way to begin with, whether they are aware of it or not, and they should at least being called out on that, and take responsibility for their actions to ultimately have an opportunity to become their better selves.
Most adults will be proud of you for being brave enough to let them know that you are being bullied. Often times, if it is another kid who is bothering you, the adult may bring it up to their parents instead of the other kid directly, and also try to not use specific names of those who are being bullied. Definitely bring it up to someone if you are being bullied- nobody truly wants to see you upset. I hope you are doing okay~
That sounds extreme. Did you try other mitigation methods first? If you exhausted all other avenues for negotiating, then I suppose you need to address bullying with an authority figure. The idea of a snitch, just seems like more propaganda from the bully squad. Your personal safety should always take top priority.
My answer falls below the minimum wording, so I will include some additional text here to satisfy the answer requirements. I think my answer in the first paragraph should indicate a starting point at the very least for your concern, and I thank you for your time.
If you are being bullied, talk to an adult and do not feel ashamed or like you are being a snitch! Trying to help yourself when someone is taking advantage of you and hurting you is never something you should feel bad about. Taking that step to talk to someone takes a lot of courage and you should be proud!If you are feeling shy, just trying setting up a time with an adult in private, they will understand. You can do it! Don't let anyone let you think otherwise.
When it comes to your own mental health, you need to think about yourself and nobody else. Just tell them, they won't think you are a snitch! You need to reach out for help.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 12:06pm
Talk to them privately and tell them how they are hurting you and don't let anything in tell them everything inside you
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 2:26pm
If the bullying is happening at school or work and you are worried about retaliation or looking like a "snitch" I would go talk to the dean, principal or a manager. Let them know when and where it happens and let them know you want it to be descrete.
Maybe later they can be in the area and happen to notice some one (you) being bullied.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 8:21pm
Some people will call other snitches but so what if they do. You doing it for your safety and since the bully dont want to stop what you can do is talk to an adult privately on whats going on and see what the action they will provide;
Anonymous
May 1st, 2018 10:29am
first off your not a snitch your looking after yourself first and foremost and that's important! Secondly it's important that you make someone else aware of what's happening to you so they can support you! It's not snitching if your just confiding in someone as to how you are feeling and why your feeling that way
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