How do I stop my friends from bullying and hurting me?
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Last Updated: 09/28/2020 at 7:59pm
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Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 2:53am
You have to let them know how you feel, if they're truly your friends then they'll understand. If they continue to bully and hurt you then they aren't your friends, and it would be better for you to try and make new friends who treat you well.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 11:14am
Leave them if they are constantly bullying you and making you feel bad about yourself. Your friends should be people giving you positive energy and people you feel 100% loved around, all friends have fall-outs and arguments bht make sure there is more love then hate. If you are ever hurt by your friends politely talk to them about it or tell them to stop and if it continues leave them. I know it’s hard but there ARE people who care and want to be your friend (:
Anonymous
August 14th, 2018 1:35am
First of all, be friendly you don’t want to cause more ruckus. Be firm in what you are saying. Kindly ask them to stop and if that doesn’t work maybe get an adult. Getting help isn’t being a coward okay?
The first step is to know that it isn't your fault. Second step is to talk to someone about it, It can be a teacher, Adult, sibling or someone you feel safe with. If they are hurting you physically its best to ask an adult for help. If they hurt you mentally I would've tried to ignore them or just don't give in to what they are saying. I know it can be hard sometimes and most days it will be hard. People who are hurting other people are often someone who feels neglected, hurt and misunderstood. That isn't a valid reason to hurt someone else but it can help you to know why they are doing it.
If they are bullying you and hurting you then they are not your friends. Friends don't do that to other friends. They are toxic and not good for you. you deserve better. You don't need to stop their hate you need to stop them entirely. I wish I was strong to keep carrying on like you but it will only leave you with heartbreak and fake friends. Seek someone new who really cares for you. Don't be afraid. Stay strong love you and thank you for the considerate question. Have a great rest of your week. Thanks again. Bye
First of all, let's define bullying; A bully is a person who habitually seeks to harm or intimidate those whom they perceive as vulnerable. A person who bullies is someone who wants to hurt you. And friends do not exist to hurt us, they do exist to support us and make a good company, if they do bully you then you cannot call them friends, and ignoring/cutting them would be a good option.
The second important thing is to avoid being mean like them, or change yourself to cope with them. Also school literally means nothing after you leave, there is such a big world out there full of beautiful people that will treat you well. Just make sure you stay true to yourself and you will attract the right kind of people.
Anonymous
September 28th, 2020 7:59pm
If your friends are bulling and hurting you, I would start by having an open conversation with them about how you feel. If that doesn't work then I suggest telling a trusted adult and look for new friends. Because friends that want to hurt you aren't your friends. It's better to be friends with yourself for awhile then, deal with people that don't support you. You are an amazing person with an extraordinary personality. You will find a group of friends who will love you as your are. They will support you and push you to better yourself. Don't look or settle for anyone less
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